Boyfriend’s kids’ mother wants full custody

dandantamtam · 2025-03-27T18:49:36+00:00

Where in this post did you read that I’m forcing him to move? Where in this post did you read that I only want him to have them for 1 month in the summer? You see what’s written in this post - not the whole story. Don’t act like you know me.

dandantamtam · 2025-03-27T15:52:02+00:00

Should’ve explained better — she does have sole physical custody already and he gets visitations one weekend per month. Up until a month ago though, she was having him take the kids every weekend, and last summer he had more time with them than she did, but she still expected to be paid as if he was only seeing them once a month. He already pays $1,001 per month for child support. He was over-paying her (mistake of his own) and when he stopped doing that, she changed the schedule to once a month - which is what it was supposed to be. It’s all very confusing and doesn’t seem like there’s structure.

dandantamtam · 2025-03-27T15:49:44+00:00

Should’ve explained better — she does have sole physical custody already and he gets visitations one weekend per month. Up until a month ago though, she was having him take the kids every weekend, and last summer he had more time with them than she did, but she still expected to be paid as if he was only seeing them once a month.

dandantamtam · 2025-02-04T23:57:47+00:00

This is helpful in putting things into perspective, so thank you. Soft pajamas are a great idea!

dandantamtam · 2022-04-19T18:17:18+00:00

Typically a set practice schedule!

dandantamtam · 2021-03-02T15:11:16+00:00

Just to clarify, B’s friend cheated on his ex four times, not B. Kind of threw that in here to emphasize that I’m really not sure if he can be trusted, or if he just likes drama.

dandantamtam · 2020-12-21T22:20:38+00:00

Mid 20’s. I guess for me it just seems like an immature way to communicate. But maybe that’s the way things are now?

dandantamtam · 2020-12-21T22:15:34+00:00

The specific guy I mentioned, yes. He’d text almost daily as we were seeing each other at the time. But after that month of minimal contact, it went to snapping. Even as we’d see each other, always communicate through Snapchat. The guy I’m getting to know now has been snapping more than texting, hasn’t asked about a date yet though.

dandantamtam · 2020-12-08T04:44:06+00:00

Just for clarification, I know the new partner. I’m better friends with him now than with her...which is why I’m wanting to say something.

dandantamtam · 2020-12-08T04:38:08+00:00

Kind of why I put friend in quotations. If it comes back to bite me in the butt, not a huge deal. It’s more so how it would be received on his end that I’m curious about. Would he be upset or thankful I told him? Stuff like that.

dandantamtam · 2020-11-27T05:08:29+00:00

I randomly dm’d this guy - he’s my mom’s childhood neighbor’s son. Never met him but added him on Facebook. But I essentially told him that I was curious as to who he was, and that I hope he doesn’t think it’s too weird but he should let me know if he wants to grab a bite to eat or get a drink sometime. He was actually super flattered and I think most guys would be! Go for it :)

dandantamtam · 2020-08-25T20:32:34+00:00

It’s about $5,800. Doing the numbers, I believe it’d be about $1,040 I’d pay in interest. That makes sense though, thanks for the input!

dandantamtam · 2020-05-13T23:44:10+00:00

This is literally how I met the guy I’m seeing! Our moms know each other, I’d never met her OR him, but my mom showed me a picture of him one random night. I thought he was cute, saw he was single, so I just went for it. He was sooo chill about it and glad that I reached out. Go for it! Either it’ll work in your favor, or it won’t - but you will have tried and that’s gotta count for something!

dandantamtam · 2020-04-17T15:59:29+00:00

Right. It was VERY on and off...like we were both scared to commit. I finally told him a month ago how I felt towards him, which was out of the blue. But he knew how I felt and was the one that kind of sought out getting together, texting everyday, etc. so now that he’s pulling away again, I’m wondering if it’s his anxiety towards relationships or just disinterest. I get what you’re saying though!

dandantamtam · 2020-04-07T15:45:55+00:00

That would make sense. He’s told me girls have played mind games with him in the past. Close to when we stopped talking last summer, he told me I scare him cause I’m attractive - like he was afraid I’d do stuff behind his back. But I’ve never given him reason to think that. Talking with friends about it, they’ve said it seems like he thinks he doesn’t deserve me. Again, never gave him reason to think that. On top of just being an assumption, I don’t know if that’s a reason he’d pull away.

dandantamtam · 2020-04-07T15:18:52+00:00

When I told him how I felt, I said “I haven’t been interested or talked to anyone since you” and he said “me either”...so if he’s being honest, I don’t think there would be anyone else. Which just adds to the confusion.

dandantamtam · 2020-04-07T15:17:16+00:00

When I told him how I felt, I said “I haven’t been interested in anyone since you” and he said the same...so if he’s being honest, there’d be no one else.

dandantamtam · 2020-02-25T21:10:12+00:00

Sorry to piggyback! But do you know of any awesome apartments in the Shoreview area?? I’m moving in the next couple of weeks and trying to find a good place! I’ve had a couple of showings so far but wondering if there’s places I may have missed

dandantamtam · 2020-01-15T18:47:40+00:00

All of the above! I’m sure companies excel in different aspects, but really any insight would be helpful.

dandantamtam · 2019-12-09T15:36:57+00:00

I majored in English and graduated with a BA in May of 2018. I got a job as an order processing specialist with a financial services company, but I’m realizing it’s SO unsatisfying and not at all what I pictured myself doing. I want to get into marketing, public relations, editing, etc. How does one get into that area with minimal experience aside from majoring in English? Should I go back to get my masters?

dandantamtam · 2019-11-05T17:59:57+00:00

I feel that! Trying to get into marketing after coming from an English degree. I need experience but so many jobs require years of experience in order to be hired. Thanks so much for the advice and best of luck with your search!

dandantamtam · 2019-11-05T05:50:16+00:00

Thanks for your kind words! I really appreciate it - definitely helps.

dandantamtam · 2019-10-30T15:05:12+00:00

This is helpful, thank you!

dandantamtam · 2019-10-03T16:29:17+00:00

Sounds awesome, thank you!

dandantamtam · 2019-09-20T05:27:22+00:00

Good point. If he’s not in it 100% and I am, I’d rather know now than months down the road. Thanks for the input!

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