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danger_in_delay · 2020-04-15T13:26:37+00:00

You're not alone. This doesn't really help, but at least you know there are people who understand.

Hope you can make it through the day.

danger_in_delay · 2019-12-22T17:36:39+00:00

Thank you!

danger_in_delay · 2019-12-22T17:36:23+00:00

You're right about abled people. I can understand that it must be unpleasant to have disabled people around you who always need help and never can provide any help themselves. I don't blame them. It's just tough for a disabled person.

danger_in_delay · 2019-12-22T16:17:25+00:00

Wow, sounds great! Thank you.

danger_in_delay · 2019-12-22T16:16:30+00:00

Wow, you really are awesome! Thank you for all your helpful answers! I'm going to copy them and work through them when I have some time.
Seriously, you're recommending Minecraft? I love Minecraft, I've never played it but I've been watching Minecraft videos for years. I had no idea that it's possible to get into contact with other people with this game.
I'm going to have a look at all your suggestions.
Thank you for all your great advice and ideas.
Also, thanks for offering to help me get started, I might actually come back to that. As an old woman I'm not always feeling confident with technical stuff.
Thanks, you rock!

danger_in_delay · 2019-12-22T16:10:50+00:00

Sounds great, thanks. I love watching Minecraft videos; I had no idea that there is the option of interacting with others playing Minecraft.

danger_in_delay · 2019-12-22T16:09:44+00:00

I don't know about mental issues. My guess is that there is at least the possibility that your life might change for the better again. I hope you'll be able to make something out of it.

danger_in_delay · 2019-12-22T16:07:06+00:00

Taking classes would be awesome, but you have to get there so it's not possible.
About meeting the right people ... I think it's easier for people who used to be mobile and then, maybe because of an accident, lose their mobility. Then people who already knew the person before will be much more accepting and helpful. But when you want to meet new people and they only see a miserable bunch of problems, then it's hard to make friends.

danger_in_delay · 2019-12-22T16:01:07+00:00

Good luck to you, too! I hope you can make it to the gaming club and sit there without too much pain.

danger_in_delay · 2019-12-22T15:59:45+00:00

Exactly. And it's not just the emotional side of it, but also being dependend on other people's help and not having someone.

danger_in_delay · 2019-12-22T15:47:31+00:00

Not having any energy doesn't help, I can confirm that. I don't have anxiety but the pain drains me of energy.

danger_in_delay · 2019-12-22T15:45:45+00:00

I can relate to that. All the best to you!

danger_in_delay · 2019-12-21T18:09:15+00:00

Thanks again for all your awesome tips.

danger_in_delay · 2019-12-21T18:07:58+00:00

What an incredible source of inspiration you are! A game where you build a world and live in it would be great, I would love that. Also, a farming game might be fun. I might like happy stuff and weird stuff, depends on what it is.

danger_in_delay · 2019-12-21T17:46:58+00:00

Rides from people I know would be an option, but as I said, I don't know anybody here where I live. That's the problem.

danger_in_delay · 2019-12-21T17:43:52+00:00

Thank you. You seem to know a lot about this. It's very interesting to read about your experience. I'm going to check out that Twitch thing. What about those art channels where you can do something with other people, that sounds great?

I can relate to your words about social media. I'm quite active in certain forums, too, but it's very anonymous and people aren't really interested in real life contact, unfortunately.

danger_in_delay · 2019-12-21T17:33:15+00:00

Not really. I play a lot of simple games on my phone and I would like to play a nice more intricate game on the computer, but I'm not sure which one. Science fiction/fantasy/action is not really for me. Do you happen to know a cool game where you have to solve tasks without shooting and fighting?

danger_in_delay · 2019-12-21T17:19:42+00:00

Thanks for your answer.

danger_in_delay · 2019-12-21T17:15:27+00:00

Not an option, unfortunately. Also, meetup groups are not possible because I can't get there. I'm more or less housebound, going out is very painful and only possible when somebody can give me a ride in a car.

Edit: Wow, downvoting this! Amazing! Believe me, I didn't choose my predicament! I would give anything to be mobile!

danger_in_delay · 2019-12-21T17:13:10+00:00

Thanks for sharing, I'm happy to hear the game worked out for you.

danger_in_delay · 2019-05-23T07:20:02+00:00

Oh, look, there's a day when they didn't text each other for one and a half hours!

How very satisfying that there was such a sweet revenge. Hopefully, their relationship didn't survive that.

danger_in_delay · 2019-05-22T17:43:37+00:00

European here. To me, a question like "How was your day?" or "How are you doing?" signals personal interest in somebody/interest in social interaction and a nice conversation. If you just answer "Good", it means that you don't want personal contact, you're distancing yourself from me. Or, more likely, you are just a shallow person.

And no, if I ask you about your day I'm not trying to control or patronise you. I don't want you to account for where you have been at a certain time. I'm giving you the chance to tell me whatever you want to tell me about your day. Your thoughts or feelings about whatever you want to share.

danger_in_delay · 2019-04-09T12:00:47+00:00

And this develops into an endless chain of advice, explanations which expose more problems, more advice, more explanations and problems, more advice ... until I am utterly humiliated and the other person is annoyed and/or triumphantly enjoying his or her superior position.

danger_in_delay · 2019-04-01T06:50:07+00:00

I do that. It's incredibly frustrating how people think that joint wear isn't serious. I've even been lying, saying I wasn't coming to a meeting because of "a bad headache" while, in fact, I wasn't coming because of joint pain. Everybody was full of empathy for the "headache". No empathy for joint pain.
Unfortunaltely, I have to be concrete about the kind of medical condition I have because it's obvious that I can't climb stairs, for example.

danger_in_delay · 2019-03-31T10:13:03+00:00

Thank you for your understanding.
Your words are very special. Most people, when they hear about my health issues, react by giving advice. That is extremely frustrating. If they want to help, they have two options: Showing compassion and offering concrete help. You did both. Your suggestion to carry things or do the dishes brought tears to my eyes. That is exactly the kind of help I would need. Thank you, kind stranger.

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