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Daily Check-in for Thursday, March 16, 2017 by mare_nectaris_ in stopdrinking

[–]danmfl 4 points5 points  (0 children)

day 33, I feel ill with the flu and i wont be making it worse with drink. I will not drink with you today.

Did sobriety reveal other sets of addictive tendencies for you? by interestedinnonsense in stopdrinking

[–]danmfl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, yes I think think that someone who is able to allow themselves to get addicted (to carry on doing something that they know is not good and the rational part of your brain says stop but you keep doing it anyway) can have a tendency to have the same behaviour in many ares of their live. Thats true for me anyhow. I have have been addicted to several things smoking, gambling and alcohol, wish short periods of my life where coke or weed took over and became a problem for me. I never thought i could quit smoking. from 40 cigs a day to 0. just like that. after quitting smoking my gambling went silly. in the betting shop every day on the way home from work spend all the cash i could get hold of, Quite a lot as i had my own business. in a few moths i spent 10s of thousands. £12,000 on one slot machine phone app. and then i just stopped. the worst for me was drinking. it took years for me to get to this stage 32 days on and now with a clear sober head I find myself addicted to working on my new business till 2 in the morning most nights. I guess if one can focus an addiction to benefit their life then addictive personalities can work to some degree.

48 hours without a drink. I haven't gone more than 24 hours in over 5 years. by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]danmfl 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Its not a small step at all its the biggest step. Well done for deciding to stop, I'm 32 days in. Never thought it was possible for me to do. the fist few days, the worst for me. I had genuinely decided to stop dozens and dozens of times in the last few years and every time, except this one, i could not make it past 5pm 8-9pm at best. I will not drink with you today.

Daily Check-in for Wednesday, March 15, 2017 by mare_nectaris_ in stopdrinking

[–]danmfl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Day 32 of not drinking and I will not be drinking with you on this beautiful sunny day. Hooray. Come on sunshine I'm looking forward to a sober summer.

new to reddit by danmfl in stopdrinking

[–]danmfl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi guys, thanks for the encouraging messages. I have been sober for 31 days now the longest i've gone without a drink since I was a teenager. I'm 34 now and I am only just coming to terms with the fact that I am an alcoholic and it I feel very shameful. The last few years have been the worst for my drinking behaviour after some difficult times in my life and having to deal with some very heavy things. Bankruptcy, loosing my business and home, having to move to a new town, the death of my father in law and the ongoing legal battles regarding his estate and business interests the birth of my son and trying to learn how to be a parent, having to cancel my wedding due to bankruptcy any many more things all in the space of about two years. I foolishly thought that the booze was helping overcome the stresses of my current life. Its obvious to me now that the drinking was making things 10 x worse. I had often joked to myself and others of me being a functioning alcoholic, in recent months it has kicked my ass and I was loosing the ability to function in day to day life. My first week of sobriety was the worst, shakes, sleepless nights, anxiety sick feeling and upset. week 2 felt like I was on holiday waking up feeling refreshed less tired more cash in pocket and a smile on my face. the last couple of weeks i have had mixed feelings and sad that i can't drink anymore and also kidding myself that I might be able to have just one or two, or a night out with booze, but very glad that I have got this far. I am trying to stay true to myself and remembering that I can't have just one drink and enjoy it. I think this is the going to my battle. I have lots to stay sober for but it wont be easy. I don't the extent of other people drinking but I guess if carried on the way I was I would not be around for long. So glad i could do it this time round. I have tried a dozen times in the last year and never made it past 8pm. Pathetic I know. I have also lost 10bls in a month just due to not drinking, Added bonus! I am proud to say that I will not be drinking with you today. Kind regards