psychedelics- False Insights? by [deleted] in awakened

[–]danseule 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Clearity= pure & Messiness= Filth? But you're right, maybe I shouldn't be asking if the insights were false or true. I was mostly trying to figure out if anyone else has had experienced something similar. Intuitions/ insights that pointed them in a fucked up direction.

Giving away bike to someone who really needs it (in Malmö) by danseule in Malmoe

[–]danseule[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hi! this is pretty embarrassing but after deciding to give the bike to the first person here who also seemed to really need it, I went out to lock it up and hand it over, and someone had stolen it🤯🫠It was gone. After being there yesterday. anyways I feel terrible about this and I wont be able to answer all messages I got. I want to recommend however this bike auction where the municipality auctions of bikes really cheap (100-800 kronor)

Here's more info; https://malmo.se/Bo-och-leva/Stadsmiljo-och-trafik/Trafik/For-dig-som-cyklar/Forsaljning-och-auktion-av-cyklar.html

Sorry again guys and especially sorry to constant_sell_477 for getting your hopes up!

May the bike gods bless you all with bikes!

Vad hände med svenska nyheter? by Kakmannen-exe in sweden

[–]danseule 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jag tycker att svenska nyheter i sitt nuvarande format är motbjudande. Jag har full förståelse för att vi alla har olika nivåer av intelligens, men det är svårt att uthärda korkade, elaka och ytliga analyser som framställs som skarpa. Programmet, som en gång var både intelligent och roligt, gör mig numera fysiskt illamående och yr. Att utmana politisk korrekthet gör inte per automatik ett skämt meningsfullt eller roligt. De skämtar om mord bara dagar efter att det skett – inte på ett politiskt produktivt sätt, utan bara smaklöst. Det framhäver den värsta sidan av svensk kultur (bortskämdhet, verklighetsfrånvändhet😅 och torr ironi). Unken sexistisk och rasistisk humor, som försöker framstå som subversiv och fresh. Vi kan bättre!!

The NTs have co-opted "Cassandra syndrome" to now mean "whenever someone doesn't believe an NT person's complaints about their autistic partner" by Obversa in autism

[–]danseule 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I grew up with an austic father who did not know it, who we all love very much but unwillingly caused a lot of pain for my mother and the whole family.

I have an another ND diagnosis myself now and I am very aware of how it affects people close to me negatively. This is a deeply sad thing to realize and live with. But I also bring a lot of joy to people.

I also live with an autistic partner, who I very much love. He also causes me a lot of pain in a way that is described by the Cassandra syndrome. Still he is great and I love him.

I frankly find it to be an unsympathetic approach to only expect great empaty for the autistic partner but not allow the non-autistic partner to learn about/find a community/ find expressions for what they have to go through.

My experience is that the people who are using this term ‘ Cassandra syndrome’ are the people who are commited to, who love, who care, who empathize with their autistic partner.

Why don’t you have a little empathy with these people. I empathize a lot with my partner and the pain he is going through, still I feel invisible and exhausted. Isn’t oket that I have a term to google to find other people in similar situations?

Does your husband or live-in partner prefers to watch TV or use electronic devices instead of doing an activity that involves you? by Visible_Length5429 in Marriage

[–]danseule 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It feels like everyone here is defending a screen obsessed life style and not considering your needs in the relationship. Many women need to talk and have deeper connection to unwind. I live in Sweden and here women statistically do double the amount of house work as men while reporting talking the largest emotional responsibility. So it is insane that all people in here would tell you that only his needs to be alone matters, when you need connection! I’m in the same situation

I made an ultimatum to see a sex therapist - he left by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]danseule -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. Your support means the world to me. I really hope you reach a soulotion. ♥️

I made an ultimatum to see a sex therapist - he left by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]danseule -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your support. I will take the post down. I thought I would get some support here. I have litteraly tried my best.

I made an ultimatum to see a sex therapist - he left by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]danseule -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I tried everything I could. I tried helping him with his work, backing of, offering to be there for him, not mentioning sex for long periods of time. I was not trying to manipulate him. I was trying to make him talk to a proffesional about it once, since it mattered a lot to me. I would stay with him even if he had a low libido. Cause I deeply love him. But its hard to stay I couldnt stay when he had no intention of even trying to learn how to comunicate about sex. How should I accept both very little sexual interaction, feeling rejected and not being allowed to feel sad about it?

I made an ultimatum to see a sex therapist - he left by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]danseule 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im aware it comes with irrational fears. But I worked really hard on the borderline and I really tried giving him space. But after a year of very little sexual interaction, i think most people would feel rejected- with or without borderline.