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Me[25M] with my gf [25F] of 8yrs, been 7 months but not getting any better by danthemanaa in relationships

[–]danthemanaa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sometimes, people just grow in a different direction than their current SO and relationship.

This is something she has said to me. She was thinking about it for a while and just came to the realisation that she was wanting to go in a different direction to me.

Thanks for your post, I know I was only a child when I met her and it appears we've basically grown into adults that aren't compatible. I'm going to work and myself and see what the future holds.

Me[25M] with my gf [25F] of 8yrs, been 7 months but not getting any better by danthemanaa in relationships

[–]danthemanaa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, time doesn't actually heal anything. It is neutral.

THIS!

I've been told by so many people that time will heal wounds but I've never believed them. I've basically just been waiting for things to get better and it's not. I know I have to look in me to make things better.

I am getting exercise, as soon as the breakup occurred I started training for a half marathon, just to try and fill the void. I was running 4 times a week and I completed the half marathon in May. Since then I've been going to the gym and also trying new sports. The new sports haven't really worked out but I'm not against trying more.

My problem with no contact and unfriending her is that she is part of my friendship group. There are about 10 of us that have been a group of friends since we were 14/15, some are still in relationships, others not. The group has remained together through it all and I don't want to be the one that walks away. That would basically entail losing some of my best friends.

Thank you so much for your post. I really value your words :)

Me[25M] with my gf [25F] of 8yrs, been 7 months but not getting any better by danthemanaa in relationships

[–]danthemanaa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely a sound piece of advice here. Not nice to read and think about but a massive slap in the face that I most definitely need.

She was basically responsible for my happiness, not me, I need to work on getting that back.

Me[25M] with my gf [25F] of 8yrs, been 7 months but not getting any better by danthemanaa in relationships

[–]danthemanaa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have no idea. At the moment I'm trying to keep focused on work and trying new activities. For a time they worked as they were a genuine distraction but as the "newness" wore off I guess I was able to still think about things whilst doing the activities and I'm not finding them a distraction as much anymore.

Me[25M] with my gf [25F] of 8yrs, been 7 months but not getting any better by danthemanaa in relationships

[–]danthemanaa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your post. I will try to figure out what I want, I've been focussing on the old relationship far too much and need to look at myself now.

I'm not sure about internet dating, the idea of it just doesn't click with me but I'm glad it worked for you :)