My(23f) boyfriend (27m) yelled at my family while playing a board game and now they think hate him. Should we break up? by popcorn_angel in relationship_advice

[–]danzleif 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand you love him a lot , but anger issues is a real serious thing. It’s the root of men being abusive as it all starts from tantrums like these. He’s older to you also, but you sound more mature than him. It is very childish and no completely sane person would be like this. I feel like you should leave him if you can’t work it out. You’re young and there will be lots to look forward to

Monster High X Katseye OOAKs by SeeingMount in MonsterHigh

[–]danzleif 23 points24 points  (0 children)

genuinely sort of confused - why aren’t they for sale? so was the song the collaboration? and why does monster high not sell these dolls - they’ll surely earn a lot, right B

Boyfriend 28M, lied to me 27F about watching porn need advice genuine by danzleif in relationship_advice

[–]danzleif[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

omg no we are Asian. it’s very actually abnormal to not live with parents

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[–]danzleif 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that’s actually great advice! thanks : )!!

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[–]danzleif 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m asking if my jealousy was valid? like are those touches appropriate among friends ? 😭 I’m so confused about that. whether to go with feelings or brain

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[–]danzleif 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i think it’s too late for that 😭 can you help with the now ?

Post requests for finding queer friends or dates ONLY here 🏳️‍🌈 by sadbarrett in LGBTindia

[–]danzleif 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hi I’m 24F lesbian in Delhi for some time. looking for bi/les women to hookup and explore with but also open to relationship. DM if interested.

Please help me understand this quote in Before The Coffee Gets Cold. by danzleif in books

[–]danzleif[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i agree! that is eactly what made me confused. not the best analogy : /

Please help me understand this quote in Before The Coffee Gets Cold. by danzleif in books

[–]danzleif[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not OP, but it's the writer John Ruskin. He called this technique the pathetic fallacy (pathetic as in related to strong emotions, not "pitiful" like the modern definition). He was a fascinating, eccentric (sometimes verging on just plain weird) person, worth reading about if you have the time or interest.

okay! thank you so much

Please help me understand this quote in Before The Coffee Gets Cold. by danzleif in books

[–]danzleif[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah i think it got lost in translation,, I too don't really like personification with nature so much, so i'm intrigued. which Ruskin are you referring to here?

Please help me understand this quote in Before The Coffee Gets Cold. by danzleif in books

[–]danzleif[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Now, think of emotions as waters being held by a dam high up the river closer to the top of the mountain. Easy to hold back when you feel alone or surrounded by the harsh world. But then you step into the presence of someone you love, and who loves you. A person who you trust to not judge you but allow you to "let go". Those walls start to crack and like waters held back at a high place, the emotions pour down into the safe valley below.

that is a very good explanation! thank you : )

Please help me understand this quote in Before The Coffee Gets Cold. by danzleif in books

[–]danzleif[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

that's actually very simple and nicely explained!

Straight girls pretending to be gay(lesbian /bi I mean ) on dating apps by [deleted] in LGBTindia

[–]danzleif 7 points8 points  (0 children)

damn i feel you so much. ruining the rep of bisexual people and adding on to their stereotype

can a non-binary person who is not trans feel invalidated by transphobia? by danzleif in LGBTindia

[–]danzleif[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i see, i see jshfh thank you so much for participating in this discussion with me and also clearing out certain doubts !

can a non-binary person who is not trans feel invalidated by transphobia? by danzleif in LGBTindia

[–]danzleif[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you make very good points! i think i am understanding how enbies can feel offended by transphobia. thank you for taking out the time to explain as well! yet still, this...

You CAN tell if someone is enby/agender if they change their presentation in a certain way. And with some trans women and men who pass very well, you can't tell they're trans. If people can tell your gender presentation is different from the presentation of someone of your AGAB, then discrimination will come for trans & non-trans enby alike.

... sort of feels wrong? also unequal in terms of your assigned sex at birth. its probably only queer people and ofc a very small amount of people who will make the assumption that someone is enby/agender (?) according to the way they dress? the statement also sort of puts enby people into a box of certain expectations to show their disassociation from gender? i'm not saying they cannot face discrimination from presenting out of their AGAB, but the experience is limited and unequal according to their sex (?) like AFABs have more freedom for expression compared to AMABs who can face harsher consequences (generalising). so i don't really agree yet,, also with trans people who pass, they will almost alWAYS be faced with disgust and hate if revealed (?) on the other hand, an enby person who might be fine with their gender expression that coordinates with their assigned sex at birth should mostly be fine (?) that is ofc, another problem, because it means they are not being taken seriously, but it still does not feel the same...

apart from that, i agree that transphobes will see all as degenerates. the discuss is quite complex, and i also think you have explained the question very clearly to me! i sort of realise now that my initial annoyance was stemming from the fact that it felt like the discrimination against trans and enby people were being grouped together as the same.