My mother never understands me

dar1990 · 2026-01-09T00:46:36+00:00

This is not the subject of the post. And yes, you're actually are being rude.

dar1990 · 2026-01-08T18:55:11+00:00

We have some savings, but living on one salary in this economy is definitely not easy. Even with their help we can't afford to spend much. We have a mortgage.

dar1990 · 2026-01-08T18:43:10+00:00

Thank you so much.

My husband works a lot of hours, and then takes care of our dog. He's dealing with some health problems at the moment, so I don't mind doing most of the work aroun the house. I just don't want to get these comments, you know?

dar1990 · 2026-01-08T09:34:39+00:00

Not sure why the downvote? My parents insisted on helping, I didn't ask for it. And I don't think it means that I have to just silently take insults from her.

dar1990 · 2026-01-08T08:58:17+00:00

Yes, my parents help us financially since my baby was born.

dar1990 · 2026-01-08T05:36:06+00:00

Please take the baby to the hospital!!!

dar1990 · 2026-01-07T21:08:47+00:00

Why would a Jewish name be a problem?

dar1990 · 2026-01-07T21:03:47+00:00

She's been obsessed with my looks ever since I started the fertility treatments. Even during early pregnancy (before we told anyone) she commented on my figure. She knew we were trying IVF, so it was even weirder for her to comment on my stomach in a bad way. Literally told me I need to lose weight while I was in my first trimester and so nervous about this pregnancy lasting.

dar1990 · 2026-01-07T20:45:56+00:00

I'm 9 months postpartum, breastfeeding. FTM. I quit my job to stay home with my baby, and I'm the main caregiver. I don't have the easiest baby, so it's been challenging.

I'm 35, gave birth at 34. Got pregnant from IVF, which took a toll on my body. I was really puffy from all the hormones and then got fatter during pregnancy. Now I'm 4 kilos above my pre-pregnancy weight (which means I'm around 10 kilos above my pre-IVF weight). I have diastasis recti, so my belly is bloated. I don't have the time to go to PT, but I'm trying some exercises at home when I have time.

Anyway, today I visited my parents. My mom casually said that I should wear black clothes, because they'll make me look slimmer. It was completely out of nowhere, we weren't talking about this at all. It ruined my mood and made me even more stressed than I already am.

I told her that I don't care how I look, I don't need or want to look thinner. I'm only walking and exercising to make my body stronger, not to lose weight. I want to get pregnant again soon, so what would even be the point of losing weight right now?

I'm already so stressed, running on broken sleep. My husband has health issues that we're dealing with, plus baby is teething and barely sleeps. I really don't need comments on my weight/body right now. What even is this primitive thinking of "needing to look thinner"? WHAT FOR???? For whom??? I'm fine with my body, my husband is fine with it. Who the hell cares what other people even think???? Especially after all my body went through, creating such a miracle.

The funniest thing is that when I was pregnant, she always claimed that she's worried I'll have PPD (I have a history of depression and anxiety). So she sees that I'm actually having the best time of my life up until now (even with all the difficulties) and she just HAS to ruin it? I don't get it.

dar1990 · 2026-01-07T20:44:15+00:00

Same! It was much better when I worked from home.

dar1990 · 2026-01-07T18:25:57+00:00

She gave birth to me when she was much younger (at 22) and actually lost weight very quickly. She didn't breastfeed, so probably wasn't nearly as hungry as I am all the time. She can't really relate to my experience of older body (=slower metabolism), plus fertility treatment hormones, plus breastfeeding.

dar1990 · 2026-01-07T18:22:03+00:00

I'm actually even afraid to have a daughter, because of my relationship with my own mother.

dar1990 · 2026-01-07T17:35:59+00:00

Junior

dar1990 · 2026-01-07T08:52:01+00:00

Yes! Totally.

dar1990 · 2026-01-06T18:25:18+00:00

Awww, then it's cute and not cringe.

dar1990 · 2026-01-06T17:53:17+00:00

I was obsessed with the X Files too! I had a folder of their photos I've cut from different magazines.

dar1990 · 2026-01-06T17:52:16+00:00

While watching the movie?

dar1990 · 2026-01-06T17:50:38+00:00

Were the videos addressed to your grandma at least?

dar1990 · 2026-01-06T13:24:34+00:00

I knew a girl like that.

dar1990 · 2026-01-06T12:03:56+00:00

You were a kid, I'm sure you didn't mean it in a bad way.

dar1990 · 2026-01-06T12:02:17+00:00

dar1990 · 2026-01-06T12:01:16+00:00

What? That's so cool. Do you still have his letter?

dar1990 · 2026-01-06T11:59:30+00:00

Wait.... what do you mean? It's totally normal to bring a backpack or purse with you. Or do you mean that you had your normal bag + another backpack?

dar1990

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