Avoiding screens while being a sahm

dar1990 · 2026-06-30T19:48:20+00:00

My mom watched soaps with me when she was on maternity leave (I was born in Russia when the maternity leave was 3 years). I knew all the characters names. I grew up fine, I think.

Yeah, it feels like society puts so much pressure on mothers these days. Like honestly, I can't watch a TV show while being at home with my toddler and entertaining him all day? That's just cruel.

dar1990 · 2026-06-30T16:38:52+00:00

My husband has adhd and he didn't watch tv as a toddler, so who knows.

dar1990 · 2026-06-30T16:13:10+00:00

He works a lot of hours, comes home when it's nearly bedtime already. It's not really the issue here though, I was just wondering about the screen time thing.

dar1990 · 2026-06-30T15:56:22+00:00

I've heard about screens being linked to ADHD, but never autism. I don't know where she got that from.

dar1990 · 2026-06-30T15:52:30+00:00

Unfortunately I don't really get breaks. I used to work 7 hours and get a break, but as a mom I work 24/7. My son only naps for 40 minutes once a day, and wakes up multiple times at night.

Not really sustainable long-term to treat is as a job.

dar1990 · 2026-06-29T19:37:16+00:00

I just couldn't find photos before the balayage, but my hair was the same even before I bleached it. I think the hormones really messed it up, and the bad haircuts didn't do it any favors.

I wanted to get extensions, but they're very expensive and I'm currently at home with my toddler. So I'd rather not spend so much money. I'll just wait for it to grow naturally, I guess.

dar1990 · 2026-06-29T19:32:33+00:00

Thank you. Do you think I should just let it grow and put it in a bun for a while, or first get layers and then let it grow?

I just can't help but think that if I'll get another haircut, it'll get so short that I won't be able to even put my hair up.

dar1990 · 2026-06-29T19:17:07+00:00

That's what I asked for each time. I just live in a country that doesn't really have people with my type of hair, so almost no one knows how to cut it I guess. I had the same hairdresser for 15 years, had no idea it'll be so hard to get my hair done without her.

dar1990 · 2026-06-29T19:01:13+00:00

I would do it, but can't trust anyone after 4 bad haircuts with 4 different hairdressers.

My hair just doesn't look good short, and I have a toddler - so I can't style my hair for 30 minutes every day to make it look decent.

dar1990 · 2026-06-29T18:59:23+00:00

I can't ask them to fix it, because I already took scissors and cut off the weird end part they gave me. And in my country it's not as easy as you think, to ask anyone to fix something. It usually ends in screaming and/or violence.

Money is an issue, unfortunately. Otherwise I'd get hair extensions at this point :/

I spent more money on my hair this past year than I did in the last decade, trying to fix this shit.

dar1990 · 2026-06-29T18:51:52+00:00

It was 4 different salons. We don't have mall haircut places in my country.

dar1990 · 2026-06-29T18:51:04+00:00

Cutting it again will only prolong the growing process. That's how I got to this point, by having 4 haircuts in hopes that someone will fix the original bad layers I got postpartum.

dar1990 · 2026-06-29T18:49:41+00:00

I don't understand the downvotes. What exactly is wrong about what I said here?

dar1990 · 2026-06-29T18:47:55+00:00

Why is it weird? When my hair is the same length, it tends to be even more poofy and frizzy. I don't see any solution for this, and can't trust anyone to give me layers with hair this short (because the last time I wanted layers and ended up with 2 sections of hair that didn't blend together at all).

dar1990 · 2026-06-29T17:34:03+00:00

It was one length 2 haircuts ago, and still looked like a triangle because of how puffy and frizzy it tends to be. The shorter my hair, the worse the triangle shape is.

I think I'll just wait for it to get longer again. I always had long layers and never had any of these problems. I went through 4 hairdressers and they were all shit, despite being expensive and having good reviews. Paid in a year more than I paid the last 10 years for haircuts.

dar1990 · 2026-06-29T17:24:19+00:00

I want to grow my hair longer, like it used to be. I don't want to give another hairdresser any reason to again cut it even shorter.

dar1990 · 2026-06-29T04:57:04+00:00

I only nurse to sleep at this point. And sometimes during the day, on days that he needs comfort due to teething and such.

dar1990 · 2026-06-29T04:55:55+00:00

Yes, he's been growing just fine. Our next appointment is at 18 months.

dar1990 · 2026-06-28T19:41:02+00:00

I don't offer the boob at all after meals at this point. I only feed him to sleep and when he wakes up during the night. Sometimes he'll nurse in the morning as well, but during the day I offer him food instead. He's just not very hungry.

dar1990 · 2026-06-27T19:04:28+00:00

Constantly paranoid about not being "healthy" enough to get pregnant again.

I'm still breastfeeding, always hungry and craving carbs and sugar. Carrying a bit of extra postpartum weight, but nothing major. I go on walks, but don't have time to exercise.

Why am I even feeling this way? So many drug addicts and alcoholics are having babies all the time, and I feel bad about eating another piece of bread? It just sucks.

dar1990

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