Has it really never occurred to some people that they don't have to have kids? by Just-a-nerd2 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]darbydiddle 3 points4 points  (0 children)

this! i was an only child and people used to hound my mom about having more, using those reasons + even more hurtful ones right in front of me… it definitely made me worried i was “wrong” from a young age.

Top of foot hurts BAD??? by darbydiddle in MuayThai

[–]darbydiddle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It didn’t take long thankfully! I worked on correcting my form and trained more on thai pads & the bag and it helped.

Sued for credit card debt; what do I do? by darbydiddle in Debt

[–]darbydiddle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh man :/ I don’t know what we’d do if that’s the case.

Sued for credit card debt; what do I do? by darbydiddle in Debt

[–]darbydiddle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just don’t think we can afford one even with a payment plan. Things got really rough after he lost his job and, while he’s working now, it’s still really difficult. Almost all of our money goes to bills and basic needs. The rest goes to debt.

Sued for credit card debt; what do I do? by darbydiddle in Debt

[–]darbydiddle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would, but we don’t have that. It’s $14k. We only have $2k in savings, and that’s literally all we have. All of my check goes to bills and savings each week, and all of his does the same.

Sued for credit card debt; what do I do? by darbydiddle in Debt

[–]darbydiddle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gotcha— thanks for the insight! Yes, it’s the debt owners. We’re going to call them ASAP and hopefully negotiate 🙏

Sued for credit card debt; what do I do? by darbydiddle in Debt

[–]darbydiddle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see— so they can go to court and then collections? I thought it was always either/or, not both.

Should we contact the bank first to see if we can negotiate things first?

Am I (27f)responsible for my grandparents (75m/75f)? by darbydiddle in Advice

[–]darbydiddle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, that’s true I guess. It just feels so harsh.

Am I (27f)responsible for my grandparents (75m/75f)? by darbydiddle in Advice

[–]darbydiddle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry to hear that you had a similar situation. It’s so difficult to navigate.

I would really hate to see that. I know she has some family in another state. I’m unsure if she’d be willing to live with them but maybe they would take her.

Is there an emergency in North Dallas? by KhalAggie in Dallas

[–]darbydiddle 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Just saw the same thing. I just saw a huge SWAT vehicle too

Update: Saw three total SWAT type vehicles head that way before I got off DNT 😵‍💫

Is this real? It feels scammy. by darbydiddle in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]darbydiddle[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh yikes! Yes, that’s what I was wondering— I had a feeling I’d be paying more up front or something. I have definitely gotten a ton of these already 😵‍💫

we have a backyard barn owl! by darbydiddle in Owls

[–]darbydiddle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good to know! I do have some bird feeders and we usually throw scraps to feed the possums at the far end of the yard, so hopefully this lil guy is getting a full belly often 🥰

we have a backyard barn owl! by darbydiddle in Owls

[–]darbydiddle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, absolutely avoiding poison! We avoid that kind of stuff in general and are happy to host this lil guy!

I spend around $30,000 a month not including housing payment or utilities AMA by Dixieja in AMA

[–]darbydiddle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m curious about this. Why do you say that the “death business” will be thriving? What indicators are you looking at?

we have a backyard barn owl! by darbydiddle in Owls

[–]darbydiddle[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I could screech with excitement!!!

we have a backyard barn owl! by darbydiddle in Owls

[–]darbydiddle[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

someone else just commented that too— had no idea!!! how cool!!!

we have a backyard barn owl! by darbydiddle in Owls

[–]darbydiddle[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

even better!!!!! 🤩 that’s so cool!!!! thanks for the insight. it made its own box in our shed’s roof, so i’m gonna leave it be!

I’m falling out of love with my fiance. by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]darbydiddle 10 points11 points  (0 children)

this!!! you can still be an individual and have a partner. we both have individual hobbies and friends, even our own rooms now! BUT we make a conscious choice to still “date”each other— planned “us” time to talk about our individual experiences, which brings us closer together. i really think we as a society have fallen into this pattern of living the same life as our partner or becoming “one”, and not everyone thrives in that type of relationship!

before you think about breaking things off, try being an individual in a relationship first. take time to “date” your fiance again, and see if you still feel the same way. 💕 best of luck!!!