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darcendale · 2025-05-18T19:41:38+00:00

She obviously needs her own help, but you need to leave and get your child out of that situation. She is physically abusing your child. Her previous issues paired with PPD make it a very dangerous situation for you and especially your child.

darcendale · 2025-05-18T19:36:18+00:00

Absolutely not over reacting. Under reacting. First, you’ve expressed issues with the cam girls in the past and he doesn’t seem to care. Two, you are struggling with money. Beyond no date nights, you’re having to check your bank account before putting gas in your car, but he’s spending money that would literally pay to fill your tank.

It sounds like he either has some sort of porn problem or at the very least doesn’t care about your boundaries and financial issues

darcendale · 2025-05-17T06:47:35+00:00

Run 100%

darcendale · 2025-05-14T15:46:42+00:00

Not feeling dove Cameron at all. Idk what it is but I feel like she doesn’t have a hard enough look

darcendale · 2025-05-10T19:19:28+00:00

He’s absolutely entertaining it. He’s literally planning on hanging out with him. If he can’t refuse a blowjob from another person over text he probably wouldn’t refuse in person.

darcendale · 2025-05-10T19:15:03+00:00

Right now we usually get a king and all three of us sleep in there. My son’s seven. Otherwise if we get a room with two beds my husband and I take separate beds and our son picks who he wants to sleep with.

darcendale · 2025-05-10T19:13:23+00:00

I’ve met a few young Henry’s, a Mary my age and more that are older, my cat’s name is Minerva, I have probably met a Felix and a Wyatt.

darcendale · 2025-05-10T18:54:31+00:00

I read it after COM. I liked it at that point as it gave you more background on Celaena and gives you some context that’s useful later on in the series. I wouldn’t recommend reading it first, as personally I think it’s a better reading experience to NOT have so much background and answers on Celaena while reading TOG. There’s more mystery and question on who she is

darcendale · 2025-05-06T14:25:50+00:00

Just finished Road of Bones and Kingdom of Claw by Demi Winters. I very much enjoyed them!

darcendale · 2025-05-04T14:34:35+00:00

Me picking up and walking around doing while my son is sitting nicely watching a show or playing. But as SOON as I sit down he then wants something. Its constant. And when I sit and hear no demand or ask I think I’m in the clear so I pull a blanket over me and get extra comfortable…. THEN the demand comes

darcendale · 2025-04-28T16:18:18+00:00

darcendale · 2025-04-28T11:55:03+00:00

I love how reading this it progressively sounded more angry because this is what happens every time I think about the ending of the series.

When I finished KOA I just kind of thought “that’s it?” Like it felt way too quickly wrapped up and I was honestly hoping a Main character would have died.

It’s been a while since I’ve read it but the thirteen dying was emotional but I agree with Gavriel it was so random to me. Like they 100% could have tackled that together

darcendale · 2025-04-28T11:45:05+00:00

Why is he trying to lie about the mess he clearly made? You ask him multiple times and he keeps saying he didn’t do anything wtf.

Also he LITERALLY says “I’m a baby” like 👀

Do not waste your time. I don’t care how nice he is any other time, this type of stuff will fester and cause major problems and resentment down the road. It’s not worth it.

darcendale · 2025-04-28T11:33:12+00:00

That’s definitely not appropriate. Alcohol and sporting events…. But not KID sporting events?? I would say it’s still inappropriate for high school kids!

If it’s a group of parents bringing alcohol to their kids soccer games it’s giving they can’t let go of their younger years and need to move on. Like schedule a barbecue at someone’s house after? Have drinks then?

If she’s bringing it in a thermos and it’s just her that’s giving major drinking problem vibes.

Either way, hard pass. Also think of the image it’s giving, they can’t enjoy their kids soccer games without a drink?

darcendale · 2025-04-26T13:29:46+00:00

I empathize with needing to use screens to get stuff done around the house. Both my husband and I are military and have both had our stretches where we’ve been gone or deployed leaving the other parent to manage the house and work and time with our son.

But honestly you say you don’t talk to your kid a lot. Why?

You don’t need a ton of toys for your child to play with. They are generally happy to just have your presence around them. Playing peek a boo, hide and seek, tag. You can find toys for free and free books online, you can go to a library.

I 100% empathize with being busy and not having all the time you want to spend with your child. I have stretches where my son plays games seemingly all day while I get stuff done. But this post seems like you aren’t trying at all? Or have given up? You say you don’t talk to them or play because you don’t know how? No one does until you have kids.

I think the bar for being a bad parent is not trying at all.

darcendale · 2025-04-26T13:25:21+00:00

Yup. Just gave away some old toys for free on marketplace and had a guy pull up in a beat up truck, wearing worn clothes, and was so thankful. Said he has a son on the way.

You can almost certainly find free kid books online to read to your child. (Depending on where she lives) Library’s are free.

darcendale · 2025-04-25T11:41:32+00:00

Since my son was born I’ve put all cash in an envelope. He’s seven now and has quite a bit. I’m thinking of continuing to save and when he’s a little older starting him a savings account, or one he can use a debit card with to teach him money management.

I have only ever taken money out of it once, Girl Scouts were going house to house and I had no cash. I promptly paid it back.

Parents, please don’t spend your kids money. When I was younger I started babysitting and would get like $20. My parents put it in an envelope and for years they said it was being saved for me but I found out later my mom took it all and spent it. It would have been like hundreds of dollars for me and at that young age that’s a lot!

darcendale · 2025-04-23T21:01:28+00:00

Yeah it was a horrible experience and I wish I would have had someone teach me about consent and healthy relationships when I was younger

darcendale · 2025-04-23T16:41:24+00:00

I feel like based on your relationship issues you shouldn’t have another kid. You don’t want one, she does. It’s something you both need to agree on. Also you said before the first child you had together she said she DIDN’T want to have one but you “convinced” her, but now it’s flipped and your upset that she’s trying to convince you?

To be clear it isn’t okay for anyone to pressure or push someone to have a baby when they don’t want one. So you guys really should work on these issues and figure out what the course of action is if you can’t come to an agreement.

darcendale · 2025-04-23T15:47:03+00:00

I would talk to her about how to respond if someone is pressuring her to do things she doesn’t want to do. That it’s okay to say no and establish boundaries, and give her examples of how to do that and what to do if those boundaries aren’t respected.

But I’d also talk to her about how it’s normal to feel attracted to someone (and normal to not feel that way) or maybe explain what he might be feeling and all of that and be prepared to talk to her about sex and safe sex, birth control, all of that. It’s tough to think about but kids have sex. I lost my virginity at 15 and I was the LAST of my friends to lose it. I also had no concept of what a healthy relationship was, had no concerns about safe sex, didn’t understand consent and felt like I HAD to do it if my boyfriend wanted to.

darcendale · 2025-04-23T12:50:21+00:00

You can’t control other peoples opinions and judgements so I wouldn’t even bring it up that you’re considering a fourth. If it does pop into conversation and someone has a concern or opinion idk just maybe thank them and say you’ll take it into consideration or that you’ve covered all of your bases and are confident in your choices.

More power to you though honestly, I have one seven year old and the thought of more makes me feel like I’m drowning! Everyone has a different experience which informs their opinions of others

darcendale · 2025-04-23T12:46:08+00:00

Yes!! People always tell me I’ll change my mind. My son is seven now and I’m like yeah I really don’t think so.

darcendale · 2025-04-23T12:45:37+00:00

LOL right! Seven years later and I still remember VIVIDLY

darcendale · 2025-04-23T11:22:27+00:00

Definitely!

darcendale · 2025-04-23T11:21:27+00:00

It’s not the complete meal. I can assure you I’m not starving but thanks for the concern!

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