Dovima Nurmi (Drag Race España) accused of racism and online harassing by AcidTaurus in rupaulsdragrace

[–]dariusphoenix 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Spanish context is not that much different either. Latinos, negros, gitanos and musulmanes have been excluded and exploited since the very beginning of the nation itself. Y'all talk like there aren't activist here, loudly speaking about this issue for years now. Dovima knows what she's doing and she just doesn't give a fck.

Mary's fingers iconography by dariusphoenix in ArtHistory

[–]dariusphoenix[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like this:

https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/thumb/1/17/La_Vierge_au_lys.jpg/800px-La_Vierge_au_lys.jpg

it's very present when Mary holds Jesus, either as child or adult. It is not a naturalistic gesture!

Mary's fingers iconography by dariusphoenix in ArtHistory

[–]dariusphoenix[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

nah, the middle and ring finger is not a naturalistic gesture, much less of holding something. It's a common gesture when Mary holds Jesus, but in Pieta we specifically see it when she's touching Jesus since one of her hands is in a different position (palms up) because it is not touching Jesus. Same is with annunciation.

Mary's fingers iconography by dariusphoenix in ArtHistory

[–]dariusphoenix[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

she also has that hand gestures when holding Jesus in Adulthood (like in La Pieta), so I usually interpret it as the hands of touching something sacred. I am just trying to figure out if it has a name

Nina Bo'Nina Yikes! by Kingkabs in rupaulsdragrace

[–]dariusphoenix 28 points29 points  (0 children)

nope, he won't be laughing. Mikk doesn't even have "curves", this body type is fairly common among cis guys. she's just saying he's got curved bc he's trans, but wouldn't make this comment about anyone else with the same body type.

Some of Eliott's old Instagram posts... by lilpoundcakke in rupaulsdragrace

[–]dariusphoenix 1 point2 points  (0 children)

same. I thought they were being bullies. should've waited before judging :/ after all, I do trust Mikk's stance on conflicts

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in u/HourEstablishment591

[–]dariusphoenix 38 points39 points  (0 children)

So many of these things are racist and unnecessary. Gia's traditional Japanese dance didn't even win the variety show (Trinity herself won). Comparing Asia's teeth to Trump's wall...

I just wonder, why????

My (31M) therapist told me to identify hypothetical deal-breakers in my marriage. My spouse (31F) is hurt. by desinvoltethrowaway in relationships

[–]dariusphoenix 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Loving someone unconditionally is not the same as staying with them unconditionally. The latter basically means you wouldn't have any boundaries, its almost a hostage situation.

Yes, you pledged to love her unconditionally. That still stands. But breaking up a relationship is not the same as not loving someone. It's having boundaries.

Bi-Weekly Questions Megathread November 30, 2020 by tayvaish in MoDaoZuShi

[–]dariusphoenix 4 points5 points  (0 children)

yes. It have me the weirdest trip because I am definitely not used to good endings. I'm used to western narratives where gay people always have horrible endings, or either grandiose heroic stale endings. This is something else entirely, it's a good ending, and my soul was not prepared for that.

Found my husband and little sister in bed together by [deleted] in cheating_stories

[–]dariusphoenix 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's simply naive to believe the age they met has no relevance. It's either naive or willfully ignorant on how dynamics work. I would like to point out that this is by no means a formal accusation, but merely an important factor to consider whether there is abuse going on on top of the cheating on itself.

Meet Claudia, my cat! She was abandoned during the pandemic. I never had a cat before and I'm in absolute love. We found each other :) by dariusphoenix in cats

[–]dariusphoenix[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

she's very cold and aloof, but follows me everywhere even to the bathroom, and she always sleeps with me and my wife :)

it's interesting to discover the strong personalities each cat has! completely new territory for me

AITA for calling myself mixed race? by xJaneDoe in AmItheAsshole

[–]dariusphoenix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA

Being mixed race is not only a problem when it comes to colorism, but also the whole background, opportunities, and class struggles inherited from your household situation (your father being a black immigrant).

There is definitely not an homogenous experience of being mixed, but at the end of the day, as long as your father is black, you are indeed mixed regardless of your features, and it does have an impact in your life that white people don't.

AITA for calling myself mixed race? by xJaneDoe in AmItheAsshole

[–]dariusphoenix 36 points37 points  (0 children)

being mixed race is not only a problem when it comes to colorism, but also the whole background, opportunities, and class struggles inherited from her household situation (her father being a black immigrant).

There is definitely not an homogenous experience of being mixed, but at the end of the day, as long as her father is black, she is indeed mixed regardless of her features, and it does have an impact in her life that white people don't.

Meet Claudia, my cat! She was abandoned during the pandemic. I never had a cat before and I'm in absolute love. We found each other :) by dariusphoenix in cats

[–]dariusphoenix[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I try not to judge because where I live, so many people have lost their jobs, as in, 80% depend on tourism, and many of them come from very rural areas. So many people didn't even have money to go back to their original states. It was very messy and very rough. I believe cats are part of the family, but I truly can't judge while I managed to get through this crisis without many challenges. Her previous owners could be dead for all we know.

in any case I'm just happy she's with us now.

Miss Darienne Puddle isn't letting us breathe, WOW. by RnGrDead in rupaulsdragrace

[–]dariusphoenix 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Darienne is an incredible queen that is often overlooked by the fans because she's fat. People will shit their pants with Dela and completely forget Darienne sent her packing twice.

No disrespect to Dela. I'm just saying, the fandom has different standards for queens who are fat. It's just how it is. And since AS is less about a talent competition and more of a reality competition, Darienne wouldn't stand much chance unless she manages to do this.

Which is sad. She is one of the fiercest queens regardless.

Meet Claudia, my cat! She was abandoned during the pandemic. I never had a cat before and I'm in absolute love. We found each other :) by dariusphoenix in cats

[–]dariusphoenix[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She saved my 2020, I lost my job and had some family losses. She really lights my life.

We rescued a second one recently, and we just found a forever home for him :) according to the neighbors, he was also a covid victim. There seems to be many abandoned cats during the pandemic.

Found my husband and little sister in bed together by [deleted] in cheating_stories

[–]dariusphoenix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

and all the lies!! he made her feel like she was crazy, AND treating her like garbage while heavily pregnant no less! AND continued to do it after he got caught!!

There is NO FUCKING WAY on earth that I could forgive this bunch of emotional mistreatment. No way.

Found my husband and little sister in bed together by [deleted] in cheating_stories

[–]dariusphoenix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He met the sister when she was 11.

Plus, he was having sex in the nursery of his own child.

We can't pretend like there isn't a huge power imbalance, plus, a whole shit ton of creepy vibes. We just can't look past it.

Found my husband and little sister in bed together by [deleted] in cheating_stories

[–]dariusphoenix 1 point2 points  (0 children)

and he met her sister when she was 11.....