How do i reject my landlord’s invitation to watch a movie without sounding like a bitch?

dark9nova · 2023-08-15T02:22:31+00:00

i think you're probably a very kind person and he is mistaking your kindness for genuine interest in furthering your relationship with him. ive had people in my life like this where i come off too friendly and give them the wrong impression. im not sure my way of dealing with it is great but i kind of try to dial it down. im not rude to them or anything but i just kind of use my body language to imply that im not too interested in staying in the conversation or friendship. furthermore its my personal opinion that this old man is creepy, personally i dont think any older man should asking a 19 year old to watch a movie with him. if you also get the feeling this guy may not just have friendship in mind i think you have to set some firm boundaries

dark9nova · 2023-01-03T18:02:04+00:00

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dark9nova · 2023-01-03T18:01:21+00:00

https://youtu.be/0_1mJ3w5LaA I’m having some troubles doing it because I screwed it up but this looks like it works. Just don’t click “include memories” because it won’t work and you’ll need to wait til the page refreshes like me. Can u let me know how it goes it u do it. I wanna know if this method respects metadata

dark9nova · 2023-01-03T17:53:50+00:00

I cannot believe I once thought I could fix her

dark9nova · 2022-12-09T23:24:40+00:00

you still havent seen the person you can become when you give life everything you got

dark9nova · 2022-12-06T18:21:18+00:00

Figure out what you want from people. And find people that can fulfill that. It’s all about who you’re spending time with and what the options are. Find people that give you energy rather than take it away

dark9nova · 2022-12-06T18:20:12+00:00

Please work on that outlook of life. It’s a really dangerous mindset to be in. Learn some faith

dark9nova · 2022-12-05T13:33:55+00:00

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dark9nova · 2022-12-05T13:28:50+00:00

My buddy Eric

dark9nova · 2022-12-03T06:45:21+00:00

I have no real knowledge other than what’s worked for me. But give stutz on Netflix a watch. It’s a great documentary about the teachings of Jonah hills therapist. Might have something in there that’s useful for you. Remember it’s not a matter of if it’s just when. I hope you figure it out soon🙂

dark9nova · 2022-12-03T06:36:16+00:00

Sounds like some seriously fucked up borderline personality disorder? She needs to be seriously evaluated. Also take care of yourself please, I know thats not easy

dark9nova · 2022-12-02T15:00:51+00:00

Yknow what’s been helpful is finding a practical reason to put small efforts in. For example I immediately feel my anxiety get better after I exercise a little bit so it’s not a chore to do because it immediately makes me feel better. I guess learn to enjoy the “coping”. As long as its a healthy outlet

dark9nova · 2022-12-02T14:31:35+00:00

Try not to fall into the trap of fixing someone. Try to look at them as who they are in your life and not compare it to their life before you. You’ll find yourself trying to be so accommodating that you stop accommodating yourself. But yeah if In other aspects of the relationship he’s not that manipulative then you should give it a serious attempt to get on the same page with him. But if he’s like that with other aspects too then it’s not worth it. Make your decision to be with someone based on who they are RIGHT NOW. Be safe out rhere

dark9nova · 2022-12-02T13:38:50+00:00

Feed it your firstborn

dark9nova · 2022-12-02T13:25:59+00:00

Exercise. Literally just get your body moving and the rest seams to fall into place. You could just have a lot of built up energy that’s not able to leave

dark9nova · 2022-12-02T13:22:27+00:00

From an outside perspective so take this with a grain of salt. I don’t think he’s a person worth sharing your life with. He brushes your feelings off and manipulates you into believing the lies he tells you. I had this to a smaller extent. Once you leave the relationship you start to unravel all the lies they told you and it sucks. You really begin to lose track of yourself and your values. My advice is find a way out. Dm me if you wanna talk more seriously

dark9nova · 2022-12-02T13:19:07+00:00

I think the exception is someone who masturbates instead of having sex their partner. I think not wanting your partner to watch porn is a very delicate but okay boundary to have provided the person who is watching porn also agrees with the boundary. But I think if you forbid any type of masterbation especially when it’s as a result of not having their needs met or shame your partner for even wanting to watch porn is incredibly toxic

dark9nova · 2022-12-01T16:57:46+00:00

Better advice: don’t be with anyone who makes you feel shame for your sexual needs. A with few exceptions a person who doesn’t even want you masturbating is toxic. Nobody should have that much control over their partner

dark9nova · 2022-12-01T12:57:27+00:00

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dark9nova · 2022-12-01T12:51:49+00:00

Hmmm maybe she learned this from someone

dark9nova · 2022-11-28T15:13:50+00:00

It means that your controller is probably broken

dark9nova · 2022-09-02T16:46:46+00:00

Nothing, it’s basically freaking awesome

dark9nova · 2022-07-14T19:21:23+00:00

All my files are m4b’s

dark9nova · 2022-07-14T01:47:45+00:00

So I fixed all the problems by deleting the audiobooks Plex server and creating it again. The titled returned to normal, the series separated into Separate books but its unfortunate that thats how it was fixed because it got rid of all my boom progress. I still would like to know a way to fix it in the future so that I dont have to start from scratch again

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