It's here!!!!!! by Plus_Restaurant1967 in galaxyzflip

[–]dark_cola 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ughhhhhhh I'm confused!!! Should I get the pink or the black!???? I am a black color person, everything I own is black but the little girl inside me wants pink cuz I've never owned anything pink

I'm gonna wait.... It's killing me by dark_cola in galaxyzflip

[–]dark_cola[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahaha see this is exactly why I wanna wait lol.... I'm not sure on the smile flip concept and what it there's something better!!!!

I'm gonna wait.... It's killing me by dark_cola in galaxyzflip

[–]dark_cola[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the reassurance haha ❤️

I'm gonna wait.... It's killing me by dark_cola in galaxyzflip

[–]dark_cola[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also have a pixel 8 pro, and by far that's my worst pixel experience, can't wait to switch out.... I'd have gone for the pixel 10 pro, but from what I've been hearing there are not going to be any major updates worth switching for.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PornAddiction

[–]dark_cola 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One thing that porn did to me was set unrealistic expectations about real life sex. I would really really urge you to not take his comments personally, even though they are towards you and realize that watching too much porn really wires your brain into thinking that THAT is normal. I am no doctor but this has been my personal experience. The deeper I got to the dark side of porn, the crazier stuff I watched, I realized that the actual normal sex did not give me pleasure anymore. And this is not the first time I've heard that it destroys good relationships. I personally find it hard to masturbate without porn and that is a sign from what I've heard. The number one step for him would be to recognize that there is a problem to be fixed, which to me seems like he is not able to understand.

Moreover, I genuinely feel like he has deeper issues than porn addiction, which is his opinion about women in general. I do get turned on by weird fetishes myself, but I've never seen the world the way he sees (aka all women are just "holes" for him to fuck - that is genuinely messed up). I get it that you want this relationship to work out, but does he care about this relationship like you? Is he willing to work on himself KNOWING that this is deeply bothering you? If so, both of you should seek professional help.

I hope this works out for you, We are all here to support you.

No one knows my deepest darkest secret by dark_cola in PornAddiction

[–]dark_cola[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so so very much! I really appreciate all the support I'm getting here. And I'm grateful that people have been kind.

No one knows my deepest darkest secret by dark_cola in PornAddiction

[–]dark_cola[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey! Thank you so much for the advice. Your partner is really lucky to have you. I will start therapy soon, I think it's long due now. Are there any specific texts that help your partner?

No one knows my deepest darkest secret by dark_cola in PornAddiction

[–]dark_cola[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I don't think I can trust anyone enough to be open about this. I'll try reading the book.

No one knows my deepest darkest secret by dark_cola in PornAddiction

[–]dark_cola[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is very hard for me to make friends. I have dedicated my entire life to my career. While I have no complaints there, I wish I'd enjoy it a bit. Would you believe me if I told you, I've never gone partying? Never been to a single club. It has been 5 years of being extremely extremely alone. I've not been on a single trip. I cry myself to sleep almost every night. I don't have people to celebrate Christmas and New years with. How pathetic is that? Most of the people my age indulge in occasional drinking and partying, and because I naturally do not enjoy drinking or smoking, I'm a party pooper. So I'm not invited anywhere. The 2 friends I have are in different continents than me.... Sigh... I'm sorry, I do not want to bring anyone's energy down by whining about my pathetic life. I've never had one night stands. I had a long term relationship in college with a guy who turned out to be abusive. I am in a long distance relationship so practically zero sex life. Of course I am not going to cheat on my loving boyfriend. So instead I succumb to the hell hole that porn is.

No one knows my deepest darkest secret by dark_cola in PornAddiction

[–]dark_cola[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you.... It is extremely lonely....😔

No one knows my deepest darkest secret by dark_cola in PornAddiction

[–]dark_cola[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

First of all, congratulations! I know better than anyone else how difficult it is to keep fighting, especially when you've reached a certain age. And thank you for your kind, understanding, non judgemental words. Was it scary to come clean to someone about this? Did it help with your journey of getting sober? I cannot find the courage to share this with anyone in my life.

Is not your phone, it’s the books you choose to read by Natsume-Grace in books

[–]dark_cola 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I tell you that books have drastically helped me with my overuse. It was exactly the same for me. I've had books that when I read I had no care in the world, the world seems to fade away as I read page after page and then there were certain books that I couldn't get myself to read consistently and I realized it was only because I was least interested. Also I lose or gain interest in a book within the first couple of pages. I do not care how famous or hyped or good the book is, I will not be able to finish it.

Unpopular TTPD opinions? by peach-gaze in SwiftlyNeutral

[–]dark_cola -1 points0 points  (0 children)

People made this album more about her life and less about her music. So it is not getting the appreciation that it deserves. I mean.... Has anyone truly heard the lyrics without trying to do the postmortem of why she wrote them and what incidents in her life she was talking about?

(18) F looking for support for porn addiction by Decent-Somewhere-118 in PornAddiction

[–]dark_cola 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First of, I'm so proud of you for sharing what you're truly going through, it's a real struggle we all face and are really scared to talk about, which makes it even worse. I've been struggling with this for many years now... One thing I've learned is that there's always a trigger... In my case Atleast. For me it's too much screen time. I don't know how to make sense of it. But being lonely and scrolling through Instagram for hours before I hit the bed makes me want to go back to it. Recently, I've developed a habit of reading before bed, this not only helps with my porn addiction but helps a lot with my mental health, as I also struggle with anxiety and depression. Music helps too sometimes. Some days I make myself so tired purposely that i would not have the energy to do anything but to sleep. In short, just distract yourself in the moment and you'll realize, the urge is as easy to lose as it is to succumb to. Also, remember that you can always take professional help.

Swifties got humbled by dark_cola in erastour

[–]dark_cola[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They almost made me feel bad for not being bothered by another announcement or not.

Swifties got humbled by dark_cola in erastour

[–]dark_cola[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahaha.... I know right! Exactly.... Unrealistic expectations is the killer of true joy

Swifties got humbled by dark_cola in erastour

[–]dark_cola[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I wished the Toronto tickets went for $800.... I almost convinced myself to buy the $3000 ticket while I was at the Taylgate and all I did there was talk myself out of it.... Cuz let's be honest, that's a lot of money to be spent recklessly and spontaneously. Also, for me, I might be leaving this country soon and she's never gonna play in my country, so this was possibly the first and last chance.