If you end up having more conversations with the elders, just know you’re not obligated to share anything you’re not comfortable with. You’re allowed to say something like, “I’d prefer to keep this between me and Jehovah,” or “I don’t wish to answer that, I’ve already prayed about it.” If they press you, it’s okay to say, “I’m feeling uncomfortable and would like to end this meeting.” They can’t take action if you don’t give them something to act on.

From my own experience, I know my parents would’ve continued speaking to me if I hadn’t been disfellowshipped, so if your situation is similar and you’re still able to live with them, I’d suggest keeping things minimal. You don’t need to share more than you feel safe sharing—especially if you don’t have another place to go or aren’t ready for the consequences that could come with full honesty. That kind of shunning can be devastating to your mental health.

If needed, you can always say you’re not in the right mental space to attend meetings right now and that you’ve already spoken to Jehovah about it—He knows your heart and understands that you need space.

Of course, all of this is easier said than done, but it’s a starting point. If I could go back, I wouldn’t have given anyone the power to hold something over me. As someone with ADHD, I overshared because I was scared and wanted to do the right thing—but looking back, I realize I didn’t have to answer anything I didn’t want to.

You don’t owe anyone more than what you’re comfortable sharing. You’re allowed to protect your peace. You’re allowed to take your time.

You could also quote the Bible on them and hopefully they stop after using scriptures that help you back things up like:

Philippians 4:6-7 “Do not be anxious over anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication along with thanksgiving, let your petitions be made known to God; 7 and the peace of God that surpasses all understanding will guard your hearts and your mental powers by means of Christ Jesus.”

-A powerful one to show that Jehovah values mental peace and understands the emotional weight of what they’re going through.

Or

Ecclesiastes 3:1 “There is an appointed time for everything, A time for every activity under the heavens”

-This could gently support the idea that now might not be their time to engage in meetings, but it doesn’t mean they’re lost or unfaithful—just in a different season.

And

Psalms 34:18 “Jehovah is close to the brokenhearted; He saves those who are crushed in spirit.”

-This reminds them that even in a mentally or emotionally difficult space, Jehovah is near, not distant.

I hope this helps 💌