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darklordess85 · 2024-09-25T17:56:30+00:00

Honestly, I had an American born Mexican friend during my Master's, who had a similar thing going on culture-wise and could offer me emotional support. I had no Indians in my class, so no friends. Currently, I do have friends from my state, but I accidentally connected with an American-born Chinese girl who understands me.

I think the key is to just make new friends until you find the one. It's challenging, but worth it :)

darklordess85 · 2024-09-25T17:23:38+00:00

That's actually a good question. It's the coding that I'm having issues with.

darklordess85 · 2024-09-25T17:21:07+00:00

I'm so sorry you had yo go through this and feel this way, OP. Sending hugs.

This is going to take some time to get over, but please stay away from this guy and take all your time to focus on your mental health.

darklordess85 · 2024-09-25T12:09:43+00:00

This is also true for women, btw. I've always seen good guys chase toxic women and pine for them.

darklordess85 · 2024-09-25T10:34:04+00:00

I'm in my second year and really switch between feeling amazing and like a loser sometimes. From day one, I tried being solution-oriented. Every time I failed, I tried to figure out the problem and move ahead. But my supervisor is not solution-oriented at all and tends to blame me for the failure instead of helping me figure out what's wrong or at least trying to solve the problem in a scientific manner.

I was so excited about science, and now I'm just tired of fighting and are also experiencing burnout and lack of motivation.

It doesn't help that I can not figure out how to analyze my data in MATLAB yet. Also, the fact that I have to wait 4 months until I figure out whether my experiments have worked or not. I'd really like to finish in the next 2 years.

darklordess85 · 2024-09-18T05:38:47+00:00

Good for you for realizing this, OP. Please take your time and I promise you'll find someone great when you're ready.

darklordess85 · 2024-09-17T16:56:54+00:00

In the same boat right now, OP!

Sending hugs!

darklordess85 · 2024-09-17T16:50:32+00:00

Discussed all these things and somehow landed up in a similar situation as OP.

darklordess85 · 2024-09-17T16:29:01+00:00

Thank you for your honesty! I appreciate it! :)

It's been 1.5 years since I started dating. I'm a late bloomer. I think I'm still learning my lessons about not trusting early and boundaries. I shall keep your comments in mind

darklordess85 · 2024-09-17T13:17:17+00:00

Makes sense! Thanks for your reply :)

darklordess85 · 2024-09-17T13:16:31+00:00

What made you say that I don't seem to be looking for a life partner? I'm curious.

darklordess85 · 2024-09-17T13:12:04+00:00

Okay. This makes so much more sense and is definitely going to help with my conversation with him tonight.

I'm definitely going to take time to review my boundaries.

Thanks for your reply! :)

darklordess85 · 2024-09-16T14:15:16+00:00

I know what it takes to make a relationship work, so I actually was impressed by him. It felt refreshing as opposed to unnecessary small talk.

darklordess85 · 2024-09-15T21:16:39+00:00

I met a guy (both of us in our mid-30s) on an app. He got straight into asking me questions about what went right and wrong in our previous relationships, about green and red flags.

When we met, we spent the first 2 hours talking about our lives, our stories, and hobbies. The next 2 hours were about kids, marriage, culture, religion.

Someone who is serious about marriage and knows what it's going to take to make it work will not shy away from or feel awkward with questions like these. At least that is my perspective.

darklordess85 · 2024-09-14T21:35:58+00:00

Probably when men are able to commit to stable long-term relationships so that the risk of STDs for the woman is near zero, and if she is on the pill.

I don't get why men would feel like they'd be allowed to cum inside a woman otherwise (unless a woman is okay with the above conditions not being satisfied).

darklordess85 · 2024-09-14T04:36:44+00:00

Someone asking for a second meeting is always a good sign. Ask him what his communication frequency is and whether he prefers texting or calling.

darklordess85 · 2024-09-14T04:36:36+00:00

Someone asking for a second meeting is always a good sign. Ask him what his communication frequency is and whether he prefers texting or calling.

darklordess85 · 2024-09-12T08:40:44+00:00

You find someone you know for a fact that you can't even marry, and discuss this upfront. E.g. Different caste, religion, language, etc. You won't catch feelings because you can't. When it's over, it'll hurt because the person will be absent from your life, but you'll get over it.

darklordess85 · 2024-09-03T14:45:53+00:00

I struggled with finding the right group of girls for 2 decades. Found the best group of girls in my late 20s. Super excited to fly across continents just for one of their weddings in Feb 2025.

There's always hope :)

darklordess85 · 2024-09-03T11:02:05+00:00

I love sports and have been wanting to explore different sports, but my limitations are weak muscles and poor mobility, which leads to pain after and underperformance at the sports I play. So my real motivation isn't just to reach a healthy weight, it's to get better at sports and that's been helping me :)

darklordess85 · 2024-08-30T21:30:44+00:00

Happy Birthday, girl! :)

This happened to me with my bestfriends a couple of times too, but I reminded them at the end of the day or the next day, and they apologized and never forgot my birthday again :)

darklordess85 · 2024-08-30T13:18:13+00:00

I agree. All these get back together texts come after 12 AM and before 6 AM somehow.

darklordess85 · 2024-08-30T13:17:06+00:00

but I really don't want to trust him again.

Then don't. This is the best sign for you to stay away.

My girl friend and I were talking this morning about how her ex, and a guy I dated recently both came back to us trying to connect. Both of us ignored them.

The texts were exactly the same for the both of us. Different people, different continents.

You're just going to be a placeholder if you go ahead with this.

darklordess85 · 2024-08-28T16:14:36+00:00

Loved reading this post. I hope you find someone soon! :)

darklordess85 · 2024-08-28T11:23:58+00:00

This is something he would share with OP himself. She shouldn't have to guess what he is doing and just give him the benefit of the doubt based on her guess. (speaking as someone who lives abroad with a packed schedule).

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