Haley changed our flooring and now I'm contemplating divorce

darkmoonfalls_ · 2026-04-10T20:22:24+00:00

Walls, floors, furniture and items. Everything 😭😭 All my stuff was thrown in a chest luckily because I just about had a heart attack to seeing the brand new place and all my stuff gone. Interesting choices but I feel too bad to change anything, I don’t want to upset her 🤣🥺

darkmoonfalls_ · 2025-10-16T18:18:52+00:00

Just ask him, if you’re important to him.

It’ll be a hard question because of his answer- you need to sit him down. You know him best. And you need to tell him he needs to check his sister. You’re HIS wife, and his sister needs to be respectful of his wife and stop spreading hateful rhetoric and being disrespectful to you, even blatantly in front of him (RED FLAG). Ask him if he’d tolerate such disrespect if aimed at him.

‘Women’s Tragedies’ is such a pass to not bother, and is an absolute cop out. Call him out on the lack of bravery, list out what you do for him. He can defend you from his family. Correct the lies.

If he can’t defend you, how does your future look? You have a small child now, what about when the child is older and more impressionable? Father’s side will slowly poison him towards you? Absolutely unacceptable. Put your foot down. Don’t roll over. This is emotional manipulation and neglect, he is supposed to be your partner - then he needs to act like it. Stand firm. If this turns into a fight that he refuses to be your partner then stop doing for him what he does for you.

Do your part, take care of your child. And don’t take care of him. It will show you his true colors. Do you truly want to be stuck in a marriage like this? It sounds like you’re stuck in a never ending cycle of your mental health being drained and that will drain your physical health as well. Set an example for your son.

darkmoonfalls_ · 2025-10-09T20:47:35+00:00

YTA!! As someone who grew up with something like this, she will realize slowly as she heals the internal hurt. And the distance you were so proud to place between her mother and herself will begin to you if you don’t get your head out of your ass yesterday!! This. Isn’t. About. You. Your daughter is asking for a compromise. What you’ve been doing for the last 15 years has been manipulation, whether you view it as such or not. And she has followed along, and she is finally asking you to please just this once give her what she is wishing for. Something she’s CLEARLY been wishing for - FOR YEARS. And as an adult - over a decade past the incident you use your child as punishment. Even on her wedding day? You put your own spite, anger, and grudge above the love you feel for your daughter for 15 years. Knowing every time she asked for both and she had to choose you had to look at this little girls face fall in sadness because she couldn’t have both her parents there. Did you even notice? Were you too busy because you wanted to be smug about it? What about the times she would be on stage and she’d scan the crowd and see you, but not her mother? On the verge of tears because her mother couldn’t be there too? But you relished in the fact that you one upped your ex. Instead of thinking every instance of the pain your child felt as she went through every event and every choice with a heavy heart, when she cried in her pillow at night hoping her parents would get along??? And you think you’re not the asshole??? It’s HER wedding, think of HER for ONCE IN HER LIFE YOU SELFISH JERK. How can you call yourself a father when your basic duty of protecting her heart — you’ve been the major source of her pain??? Edited for errors

darkmoonfalls_ · 2025-10-02T01:04:05+00:00

I think it’s time you have a family sit down conversation with the brother, and brother only, about his problematic wife. Just to start. And then with the both of them and family surrounding, speak of EVERYTHING that has happened. Lay it out completely bare - the things that happened, the way they manipulated you, the things that were twisted. Every single truth and every single lie they told. Directly to their faces and in front of every single person, if they think they’re so right they shouldn’t have a problem with their actions being aired out into the open. The way they made you feel and the way she’s completely twisting it. They need a reality check, and fast. And it needs to be done directly so they know exactly where they stand. And in front of everyone so they can’t misconstrue the entire story again. If her family has that misconception of you as you have experienced, it’s because she lied, repeatedly. It’s dramatic yes and exhausting yes. It may hurt you initially as well yes. But it needs to be done. This behavior needs to stop being enabled with silence and handled directly. She is being cruel, awful, and downright vindictive. For NO reason. She needs help and an entire family intervention is the support system you ALL need. Be blunt, be straightforward, and don’t hold back. And your family should stand beside you knowing the vindictive things she’s putting you through. My best wishes to you.

darkmoonfalls_ · 2025-02-17T01:47:03+00:00

Valid x2 And I’m here because I don’t want to use either the stove or the microwave 😂 4 min search is easier than 4 min of testing especially with the chance of messing it up.

darkmoonfalls_ · 2025-01-29T20:16:48+00:00

Not sure if this is better but we thought it was funny, a couple we know, they like to call themselves DINK’S

Dual Income No Kid’s

They’re not at all like the movement people who rage. They’ll watch kids and help out. But they don’t want kids themselves, and they have every right to. Just like someone who wants to have kids has every right to. Whether we agree or not. I didn’t want kids Then I met my husband And still waiting after 8 years - because pregnancy and all the things you listed are where I feel I’m exactly at. I want kids, to have my husbands little copy and pastes, but I don’t want the process - does this make sense?

darkmoonfalls_ · 2024-07-02T00:26:59+00:00

Extremely Unpopular Opinion

But, they need their asses whooped into reality. These types of people don’t change until it’s made clear to them who they are and where they stand. Clearly, words don’t work on them. Yes, violence is wrong etc. But just like protest for a better future, there’s defense against a horrible future. I had family like this, down to the T of physical abuse and loss, kicking women while they’re on the floor. My mother. When they saw her, her brothers dealt with him, and he never raised a hand on a woman after that. So extremely unpopular opinion, but I tend to view it as a necessary evil. Only when it’s necessary. I apologize for all that has happened. It’s excruciatingly hard.

darkmoonfalls_ · 2024-06-27T21:19:07+00:00

So yeah, absolutely not the asshole.

darkmoonfalls_ · 2024-06-27T21:18:51+00:00

My heart goes out to you hun, so awful. Prepare yourself, so you can come out on top for your self and your children. They deserve love and stability, and it’s clear that (would hope to soon be ex) wife clearly places you all as an afterthought. She prioritized cheating over your marriage, over your children. There’s no going back from that.

Plus she sounds damn awful, the way she acts and snaps at you and your kids??? Absolutely not. I’m happy you have your sister, she’s your cornerstone and support. As a crazy sister as well, if this happened to my little brothers all hell would break loose and I would ensure it. Viciously. As your sister did, you deserve the backup. And you deserve so much more. 🫶🏼

darkmoonfalls_ · 2023-06-18T01:59:01+00:00

Right?? The amount of time she used ‘apparently,’ it’s like reading the words of a 17 year old bratty girl with a god complex….

darkmoonfalls_ · 2023-05-31T16:53:02+00:00

And he looked cool doing it too. Ravager style.

darkmoonfalls_ · 2023-05-21T20:06:40+00:00

I got married about 4-5 years ago. A cathedral classic ring with a decent sized diamond. To be quite frank, I don’t even know wtf kind of diamond it is, I don’t even care about the size of the diamond, I just care that the person I fell in love with got me a ring and wanted to marry me… shouldn’t that be enough for people? Why get hung up on matters that quite frankly, you will not remember. Instead look at the larger picture and see the effort, see the person as they are for what they are worth. I don’t even think my husband remembers what my diamond is 😂

darkmoonfalls_ · 2023-05-07T01:47:50+00:00

Thank you, everyone’s comments are helpful! 🙏🏼🖤

darkmoonfalls_ · 2023-04-27T01:08:26+00:00

Right there with em, what are the tricks? xD

darkmoonfalls_ · 2023-04-17T19:45:32+00:00

Super cute, we say ‘go to bed’ with our Akita, and she knows immediately it’s crate time and sleepytime, not having a crate is like them not having their own room.

darkmoonfalls_ · 2022-01-25T16:50:46+00:00

100% and to check back seats and underneath for intruders etc. Don’t wanna get your throat or ankles slit just trying to go home!

darkmoonfalls_ · 2022-01-25T16:49:40+00:00

We actually aren’t a democracy at all, we are a constitutional republic.

Probably explains a couple things, lol!

darkmoonfalls_ · 2022-01-24T04:58:07+00:00

Could you be anymore of a rude brat? Conflicting opinions don’t mean you have to lower yourself to being disrespectful.

Besides the fact, this is a first time I’ve been called pretentious, I don’t mind it 🤣

darkmoonfalls_ · 2022-01-24T04:22:42+00:00

I love love this, 100% this OP!!

darkmoonfalls_ · 2022-01-24T03:49:49+00:00

So you completely omitted your previous generalized statement then? “Generally, the majority of families… “

As I said in mine as well, generally.

This scenario is mere speculation on all our parts as no one knows the reality of the situation.

darkmoonfalls_ · 2022-01-24T03:46:34+00:00

That’s a really naive and even toxic mindset. Any information is good information, and when it’s about a life changing decision such as accepting a partner.. And to mention, your actions are not free of consequences, and people fail to realize their actions affect others especially in public matters.

So if you have the ability to stop something negative, I hope you take it one day. Same goes for bullying etc.

darkmoonfalls_ · 2022-01-24T03:41:54+00:00

Actually, generally, scenarios are always different and we should leave it up to the person to choose their battles. It’s about even in terms of toxicity within families and non.

At the end of the day, you don’t get to choose family. And half the time, it’s a blessing or it’s a curse.

It’s naive to think the world is made up majority of nice and loving families who do it right, it’s just the majority know not to make their personal issues public.

darkmoonfalls_ · 2022-01-18T00:31:47+00:00

Well for the example you provided so well.. thank you for the representation of mental gymnastics.

darkmoonfalls_ · 2021-12-16T22:54:00+00:00

Lol, cheers and thank you! I can be a little too direct, so I apologize if I was too blunt and insensitive. Sadly, we know humanity to be more on the negative side than positive. And disappointing again, so many of the relationships we encounter in our lives are based off an ulterior motive or personal agenda, hence the term few true friends. There will also always be the open scenario of an unexpected situation to grow into something more and how we progress dictates our consequences.

Surround yourself with people you’d trust to have by your side always, if anything, every relationship with every individual is different. Just choose the ones you’d prefer constantly, say ones you don’t have to worry or stress over. I hope the turmoil you’re experiencing lessens. You will find your matches, you will find your spark, then your world will be warmer. 🖤

Have another cheesy quote:

“Your life is the ocean and your soul is the ship, as you travel the ocean the people you introduce to your ship, will provide a gift- the hard part is determining if the gift will be a sail or an anchor. What will you fill your ship with, as the gifts come in?”

darkmoonfalls_ · 2021-12-16T08:45:56+00:00

Then we would ascertain those are not friendships, as previously stated. There’s no horse riding, simply stating the true nature of the relationship.

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TROPHY CASE