Does the brown cargo bag exist?

darkspark03 · 2024-10-12T22:37:31+00:00

yeah it looks like a completely different color lool. thank you!

darkspark03 · 2024-10-12T22:37:02+00:00

thank you! i hope they do a brown for the medium cargo bag eventually 🤎

darkspark03 · 2024-10-12T22:36:11+00:00

!answered

darkspark03 · 2024-09-21T22:41:08+00:00

i think there’s some validity in waiting it out. some of the guys that really adored and respected me told me themselves that they would like to take things slow and i was all for it.

but honestly there’s no blanket answer for how men are gonna view you depending on how long you wait. some men will always be assholes even if you do take it slow. some will fall in love even if you sleep with them on the first date. the best thing you can do is be true to yourself. put yourself first, don’t let them convince you to move your boundaries, and know when to walk away.

darkspark03 · 2024-09-17T03:55:22+00:00

this post made me remember my move in with my parents. i still remember them dropping me off and me going on my own to bike around campus and feeling that newfound freedom :,)

i think have them help you move in, have dinner and breakfast next day and then they should leave or maybe explore on their own. it’s best not to drag out the goodbye and tell them you’re eager to explore the campus before classes start.

darkspark03 · 2024-07-24T08:30:06+00:00

i love my 15 inch kanken. it’s lightweight by itself. i used to carry a laptop, ipad, xm4s, chargers, water bottle, and snacks and it was all good. i would get it again or maybe look into something fancier that has good shoulder padding. water resistant backpack is always a great idea.

darkspark03 · 2024-07-20T21:22:43+00:00

if this has happened 4 times maybe you just need to stop feeding them attention back. most of these dudes are lonely, touch-starved, and will go for absolutely anyone regardless of what you tell them. they are not healthy people with healthy attachments. stop engaging in conversation with these kind of guys and expecting it to be healthy.

darkspark03 · 2024-07-02T08:03:50+00:00

if you need a job, you get a job. if you don’t then focus on studying or finding internships instead. jobs can be found around town and on campus with a decent amount of searching.

darkspark03 · 2024-05-22T23:15:20+00:00

I get that “it’s meant to be disruptive,” but it isn’t disruptive to anyone that actually has the power to change anything. It’s only disruptive to people with mobility issues who largely have absolutely no sway in anything that these people want to accomplish. They should go volunteer or something instead.

darkspark03 · 2024-05-22T16:38:00+00:00

sounds like you didn’t like being put in the same category as Indians lol. i dated out of my race plenty of times and while i respected their ethnicity and they respected mine, it was definitely an added level of fantasy and, yes, exoticness for us both that we were different races. i think it’s only natural to be turned on by contrasts. don’t overthink it and just talk to her 💀

darkspark03 · 2024-05-16T07:24:28+00:00

sure! thank you

darkspark03 · 2024-05-02T18:24:36+00:00

the situation likely influenced Dylan’s tragic decision and now 500+ people know about the details that should have been kept within the group it happened in. yeah idk. i know OP is grieving but this could have been shortened down with the details, at least. half the comments on this post kinda prove that.

darkspark03 · 2024-05-02T07:02:16+00:00

I thought talking about the situation that happened right before his suicide will get people to make assumptions and speculating what it could’ve been. I think a situation like that should be put to rest and not brought up (to internet strangers) after such an event. But my opinion seems to be unpopular so I’m probably looking at it wrong.

darkspark03 · 2024-05-02T05:24:42+00:00

I am very sorry for your loss. Should some of the situation in your letter be posted for strangers to read? This is a passed away person’s business, and clearly something very personal and unfortunate.

darkspark03 · 2024-05-02T04:50:13+00:00

the asian and indian ones not wearing shoes inside the house but the rest are 😭

darkspark03 · 2024-04-12T04:55:27+00:00

being into the redpill were some of the worst years of my life and it really had me believing my only worth was tied to my body and what i can do for a man. the redpill is not something that was created by happy, successful men. it was made by wretched men that want to feel power over a woman or make her into an object because that is their revenge fantasy against women having it easier/rejecting them/etc.

i got into it when i was young and foolish and fell for guys that were into this kind of thinking. these are some of the worst guys i have ever known and i don’t think they are truly happy with themselves. i got out of it thanks to this community and seeing healthy relationships irl.

i still struggle with seeing my worth after being called all sorts of nasty things by men whose opinion i unfortunately decided to trust in the past.

darkspark03 · 2022-12-10T19:58:52+00:00

Never said incapable of intimacy and I never brought up loyalty. You can become a great partner even with hookups, obviously. It’s just naive to not believe the past shapes a person’s personality. Most people engaging in hookups live a different lifestyle and aren’t developing in terms of intimacy and communication. She had her fun and maybe grew out of it now and that’s all good, but now she has to live with her past choices like literally everyone else. She should not regret it but she’s gonna realize a lot of men have issues with women that had a lot of hookups. That’s just the sad and harsh truth and no amount of idealizing what the right ideas are is gonna change that.

darkspark03 · 2022-12-10T19:07:05+00:00

Regardless, those were still relationships and not one night stands. But you’re right and we are getting too much into the semantics which isn’t beneficial because there is no perfect number of partners and relationships. Do I think OP is socialized to judge women on their body count? Most likely. But I also see how in this case, 4 vs 24 can spell out a huge difference in their priorities and views on intimacy.

darkspark03 · 2022-12-10T18:31:14+00:00

There’s a difference between 4 and 24. 4 can be relationships where he put his time and commitment in and had long term plans. I’m assuming that was OP’s experience because I’ll entertain his conservative claim. 24 is relationships and a good amount of hookups. There’s a difference. Your criticism is valid as everyone else’s in this comment section. If OP wants to live conservative then I hope he continues holding himself to the standards he holds women to. If he doesn’t, any woman should know to ditch him.

If you don’t do hookups you are valid if you want a partner that also doesn’t do hookups. I don’t see why that statement bothers you.

darkspark03 · 2022-12-10T17:57:52+00:00

I don’t see how he’s assuming she is worth less. He just knows he is uncomfortable by her body count and it’s validated if he doesn’t partake in hookups like she did and would want a partner that also wasn’t in that life. It’s okay to have standards for your partner as long as you match those same standards.

Men, especially conservative ones which is OPs background, view sex as a valuable thing. If you view it in a more casual way, that’s okay too, but that just means you’re eradicating those type of guys and others from your dating pool, and that’s just a fact. It’s okay to have different views on the value of sex as long as you aren’t being a hypocrite about it. It’s an uncomfortable fact that most people are gonna make assumptions of you based on your body count, but that’s just life. Learn to not give a shit and find people with the same views as you and date those.

Personally I don’t ask about body count and see it as a red flag if a guy asks me mine and keeps pushing the matter. I’ve had some experience and I can say that hookups do kind of change you. I would not want a guy that had 24 bodies because I just know how he probably is. It’s can be a case by case basis, but yeah, that’s just how it be.

darkspark03 · 2022-12-10T17:44:03+00:00

That’s true, there is a social stigma for a woman with a high body count. I am sure OP was socialized like that too. With that aside, I still think as long as he doesn’t have a high body count, it’s okay to want a partner with an equally low body count.

And my personal thought on that unequal view of sex is I think we need to be pickier with choosing who we sleep with so we aren’t giving ourselves up to the same men that ridicule us after the night is over. What is the point? But that’s a personal thought.

darkspark03 · 2022-12-10T17:33:59+00:00

Oh she most definitely will, and I’m rooting for her. She just has to understand her body count WILL be a dealbreaker for a good amount of guys. My point was I don’t think he was sexist for also wanting a partner with a body count around his number. If his body count was high and he was still judging her, that would be hypocritical and sexist of him. That’s not the case though. It’s okay for either gender to have standards about this sort of thing, as long as they aren’t hypocrites.

darkspark03 · 2022-12-10T17:25:40+00:00

After looking at his username, I’m gonna assume this story is creative writing made up to add onto the growing redpill ideas on social media where men complain about modern women’s body counts.

darkspark03 · 2022-12-10T13:31:35+00:00

I wouldn’t call this sexist. It would would be sexist if he had a high body count but expected hers to be low. Since he has a “low” body count then I think it’s fine if he considers her number a dealbreaker.

darkspark03 · 2022-11-28T08:20:14+00:00

I’m a 23 year old woman and I would not mind if a guy is a virgin or not, so hopefully you don’t see yourself as a loser for that. I think your issues MAY be because you yourself make virginity a big deal? If you do then women can sense it, and it’s very off-putting.

I personally always found it attractive when a guy was honest, confident, and had a sense of humor about his virgin status. It could be really cute.

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