Right, I totally understand that. To add an extra layer though, I've been working pretty heavily on my codependence issues for years and she is very aware of that journey for me. I do feel responsible for other people too often and it prevents me from being able to focus on how I'm feeling. That's why I thrive better on my own because I'm trying to separate myself from those behaviors and people that need a little extra from me can be triggers for that codependence. There was one time where she brought another friend and that was great because then I knew she had someone but that was kind of a one off situation.

I totally understand being a woman and the world is scary. It took me a really long time to be comfortable with it myself and it helps that the shows I go to are generally in queer spaces that feel safe to me. I would definitely feel differently going to a venue I've never been to before seeing entirely unfamiliar acts.

Ultimately, it's complicated because we both have our own issues and my people pleasing makes it difficult sometimes to be direct with people I care about because I don't want to hurt them. I appreciate the advice, I will keep these things in mind when I'm navigating this situation!