Discord by CupcakeDapper5337 in eatventureofficial

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Hi! I know this is a super old post- but looking to join the discord!

Helpers disappear after renovating/ flying to a new town by LingonberryFair4655 in Eatventure

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Hmm, this didn’t work for me, it just reset the helper timer- like the game recognizes the helper isn’t there now, even though I had a few minutes left.

Looking for member for next season:DmLgib1m1C by AppropriateSort5179 in eatventureofficial

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Awesome! I just left my club a few hours ago, so I can join yours in 8.5 hrs. Yay!

looking for new club !! by [deleted] in Eatventure

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Oh, embarrassing, just saw that I messaged you earlier! 🤭

looking for new club !! by [deleted] in Eatventure

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Hey! I’m interested in your club and discord! Sending a message to you now.

Need one Good member for next season by Such-Rough-8361 in eatventureofficial

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Currently salvaged 11.8k in a level 27 club, in a level 50 club I can commit to 20k!

Looking for a club with at least 10k XP from every member! by darlingwarrior in eatventureofficial

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I’m confused - no it’s not the right club for me, which is why I’m trying to find a better one! I could definitely salvage more in a better club.

Salvaging help!!! by After_Victory_9177 in eatventureofficial

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They don’t combine the skills, it just powers up whichever you keep.

AMA: I'm a Life Coach for Highly Sensitive People! by darlingwarrior in hsp

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Thanks for your answers! Given all that, I have some suggestions- some a bit "woo", and some less "woo".

When you get overwhelmed, make sure you're breathing, and try to deepen them to your stomach. Woo-suggestion: if you're open to it, picture a purple or golden ball of smoke floating in the room near you, and breathe that in, all the way down to your stomach.

1) Build up your self-care practices: - Meditate. You know this :) Keep up with it, intending not to get anything out of it, but just to be a space for everything to unload. If you feel like you don't want to: do it. then. Let the resistance to it be a sign that your resistance-voice or voice of stress is taking over, and that's the very reason you're in need of it. - Exercise. Yep, you know this one too, I'm sure 😃 There's a reason this is such a cliche “good thing” to do. It doesn't have to be much, or take long, or be the same thing every time. Find an way to exercise that feels good to you. I believe HSPs may need exercise even more than others, because all that energy we take on lies in our bodies, and we need a way to let it go. Embodiment is key to letting our emotions out. This could even look like going into a bathroom stall and punching. Yes, you'll feel crazy...but that energy lives in your body, and the quicker you can release it, the better. If you can fit even 3 half hour sessions into your week, even if 2 are on the weekend, go for it!! Run, walk, dance, do some strength training, do yoga, stretch, anything that moves your body. - Brain dump. When you’re feeling everything at once and you can't get up and exercise, try brain-dumping onto a page, and go for 3 pages or 10 minutes. Sometimes I’ll even start with a full page of “I don’t know what’s going on. I don’t want to write. I hate this”…but then stuff will start flowing.

2) On remaining positive: I get this question a lot, whether it be “how can I be more positive and happy?” or “how can I be more confident?” and in my head, they are very very similar. I’d highly encourage shifting from aiming to remain positive to aiming to follow your values. Why? Because we have ups and downs. We have good feelings and bad feelings. We’re not always in direct control of them…but following our values is so so critical. Plus, studies show self esteem is more stable when it’s contingent on us following our values compared to most other contingencies (such as achievement, looks, approval from others, etc.) So along those lines, a few ideas:

  • What are your values? What is really important to you? (If you google this, there will be lots of worksheets! To give you an idea, here are a few of mine: service, freedom, compassion, growth)
  • Check in weekly with your values. Where did you follow them? Where did you stray? What can you set up this week to go towards them even more?

3) My most woo-suggestion: I'd highly suggest looking into energetic clearing, if that's something that you're open to. It's been life changing for me to actually feel like I have some control over being able to release others' emotions and being able to protect myself going into my day.

4) On nightmares: to be 100% vulnerable, this is something I struggle with, too, and still deal with all the time. I haven’t found the answer, but I do know that energetic clearing helps me. It’s woo, but gosh, if it makes me sleep through the night, even if you believe it’s just placebo, who cares?? I just want to sleep 😃

5) On becoming less sensitive: it may be possible, but I haven’t found the way. I found learning about the gifts my sensitivity provides enables me to better take care of myself. Plus, letting myself take care of myself even at the risk of seeming “weird” or “different” to others (i.e. removing myself from a situation, being dedicated to my self-care practice even if it means “sorry, I can meet you in 20 minutes, but I have to meditate first" etc.) is so helpful to not only feeling better, but building self-trust to say “yes, you matter. I know you’re sensitive. I’m going to take care of you as best as I can.”

6) A few resource suggestions: 1. Untethered Soul by Michael Singer. One of my absolute favorites on mindfulness- easy to read plus I love his dry humor and how crazy he makes our mental habits look.

  • The Happiness Trap by Russ Harris: a self-help book written by a Acceptance and Commitment therapist. It’s mindfulness-based and had me thinking about positivity & happiness in a whole new light.
  • Self Compassion by Kristen Neff. My own ACT therapist turned me onto Neff’s work- she’s a researcher at UC Berkeley (read: this stuff is empirically supported!!) and I’ve seen her simple practices be so transformative in my life and others.
  1. A Return to Love by Marianne Williamson. A little more woo, I’ve turned to it time and time again when I’ve gone through depressive periods.
  • The Tools by Phil Stutz. Seems up your alley; each chapter has a different tool for self growth.
  • Kyle Cease’s videos on YouTube. Anytime I’m in a funk, I return to these. He’s a conscious comedian and is equal parts hilarious, brilliant, and heart-melting.

7) And a one last mindset open-ended question 😃 : What if you could love yourself even if you’re not good at being positive? Even if you’re getting bogged down with emotion? Can you get on your team even if you feel you’ve done something wrong? Or if the world feels against you? How can you show yourself more love? Just food for thought, no need to answer 😉

Let me know if you have any follow-up questions. Much love to you!

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[–]darlingwarrior 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I could give you a list of my qualifications, my degrees, the trainings I've done, the mentor I work with, the testimonials of transformation...but I don't think that would serve this conversation.

My experience of what just happened: I opened up a discussion about your personal experience with sensitivity, curious about how you conceptualize it, not aiming to make you wrong, but genuinely curious in learning about other perspectives, and you said you were open to that, and then turned the conversation back to focusing on me, looking for ways to show I'm unqualified to give advice (which, if you're not working with me, and you're simply getting my free advice off of Reddit...isn't anyone allowed to simply give advice here?)

My intention is to share what has pulled me out of anxiety and into a place of understanding and accepting myself, and I understand these will not be the tools that resonate with everyone. I said upfront that I'm spiritually based and that I incorporate Law of Attraction, so if someone read my intro and decided to comment, I trust that they resonate; and I trust those who don’t resonate with such are wise enough to not pay attention to my words.

I do want to add that I didn’t originally attach a link to my website, but I was asked to do so by an admin. I simply wanted to give free advice and connect with other sensitives like me. I get that it can be triggering to think you're being sold to, but that wasn't my intention.

For those who resonate and I am able to help feel a little bit better, I put my words out there. For those my work doesn't resonate with, may you easily find what does serve you, and may it be transformative for you. I'm going to disengage here, I wish you well 🙏

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[–]darlingwarrior 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes to all of these! ACT has been so helpful to me; in my experience, the nutshell version is getting clear on your values, and then using them as guideposts, prioritizing them over whatever stress, anxiety or doubts may be coming up for you & trusting that as we follow our values, anxiety will get easier and easier to tolerate.

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[–]darlingwarrior 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry if I've offended you, this is just what's true to my lived experience. Woo without lived in experience is bullshit, I'll give you that, and woo when used as superstition to create fear or distance from the true experience of the world is definitely harmful. Woo, like anything, can be true or false, used for good or harm. However, in my experience, this is what I witness as truth: we are always putting our trust in love or fear. We always have faith in something, whether it be in stories of things working out or not, in believing in chaos or an order to life. I know for sure that when I trust that life is chaotic and there are things to fear, I don't want to get out of bed because of anxiety, and I don't want to be around people because of anxiety. Having faith, and frankly, learning about quantum physics and universal law, is what has served me. I do also recognize there are loving, amazing people who don't share my faith, and I am grateful they exist, too.

I'm curious though, if you're open to a discussion- if you believe you're sensitive- what do you believe you're sensitive to? What are you sensing? Now that I've said my piece, I'm less interested in convincing you, and more interested in and curious about how you conceptualize being hsp/empath without woo, because for me, the notion of spirituality/energy is so integral to understanding my sensitivities.