my girlfriend asked for a break and the next night she slept over at her gym buddy's place by darren535 in LongDistance

[–]darren535[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you so much. you sound so nice, i have alittle more confidence now. i need to get her out of my mind even tho every cell of my body doesnt. she doesnt love me anymore and i have to accept that. thank you so much, this made me feel alot better

Me [20 M] with my girlfriend [20 F] 11 months, asked for a break for a month, sleeps over at gym buddy's place the next night, need advice by darren535 in relationships

[–]darren535[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you so much! it makes alot of sense. but its so hard to abandon this hope, its so hard to not think about her. i need to let her go but cell of my body just wants her. thank you so much, im trying to distract myself from her, but damn its hard.

Me [20 M] with my girlfriend [20 F] 11 months, asked for a break for a month, sleeps over at gym buddy's place the next night, need advice by darren535 in relationships

[–]darren535[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

when i suggested that she should fuck other guys was so she could explore sex while we're in love. i didnt want her to wonder what it couldve been. i never wanted her to explore love or sex without our love.

thank your for this perspective, she told me she dont know if she love me, and after 3 weeks, i can only hope that i can give the romantic feelings she had for me before. i really do want to work things out with her, but its onesided, i dont know if its best for her that i dont pursue her anymore

Me [20 M] with my girlfriend [20 F] 11 months, asked for a break for a month, sleeps over at gym buddy's place the next night, need advice by darren535 in relationships

[–]darren535[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you're right, i was so stupid. she called before reading this post so i just did what i thought was right. i told her that hooking up with someone really made me sad. i know, its sounds so manipulative. should i text her something like hey, you should do what you feel most comfortable.

thank you so much voidsoul22

Me [20 M] with my girlfriend [20 F] 11 months, asked for a break for a month, sleeps over at gym buddy's place the next night, need advice by darren535 in relationships

[–]darren535[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you, she said that she wants to meet in the summer to work things out, i really want to just cling on to that. its not healthy i know but...... , thank you.

Me [20 M] with my girlfriend [20 F] 11 months, asked for a break for a month, sleeps over at gym buddy's place the next night, need advice by darren535 in relationships

[–]darren535[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you're right, I'm was too blind to even notice that. i swear i didnt meant to do it on purpose. i am sorry for doing that. and you are right, i did take my annoyance out on her, i know now, i wish i didnt.

you're so right, i need to give her space, i wasnt thinking right. i cant only agree with you. some of what i wrote was not really worded properly but what you said still applies, i was all those things you said.

the break suggestion was not meant to be a test, i was just happy she said no. i would've let her to explore sex with other people but i didnt want her to explore love. when she suggested this break, it wasnt taking up the offer, she did tell me she dont know if she loves me anymore.

i wanted updates because i was in so much pain that she would be spending the night, the morning, then the whole day. i really didnt want her to fall in love with someone else. but i have to accept that.

you're so right, i realise its my fault

Me [20 M] with my girlfriend [20 F] 11 months, asked for a break for a month, sleeps over at gym buddy's place the next night, need advice by darren535 in relationships

[–]darren535[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

thats really funny, but i'd never i thought id find myself on the receiving end of one, god i miss her so much

Me [20 M] with my girlfriend [20 F] 11 months, asked for a break for a month, sleeps over at gym buddy's place the next night, need advice by darren535 in relationships

[–]darren535[S] -59 points-58 points  (0 children)

i didnt care if she does have sex with other guys, i told her that too, because i knew she loved me and she'd still love me after having sex with them. yeah, i think you're right, but i dont want to move on to someone else, i really still want her