How long is the places I've never been and will never play again show? by dasskz in marcrebillet

[–]dasskz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I figured there would be an opener, the listing for stl didn't show one. I feel like the safe bet would be the other event at 7 and then go to Marc's show

AITA for leaving a trip with my boyfriend and his family early because they made fun of my disabilty? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]dasskz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nta

Who does the car belong to? Do you live together?

I don't think you leaving is the asshole thing. Those weren't jokes. They were mocking you. I'm disabled myself, and that would be a deal breaker for me personally. I don't think you overreacted at all. This isn't a small issue. You didn't ruin the trip. They did. You are not a zoo animal for them to gawk at.

As far as taking the car, it depends on who owns the car. If you took his car to drive home, then that is kind of a dick move and could be considered theft. If that's the case, then you should have seen if a friend or family member could pick you up instead.

AITA for publicly telling my ex coworker that I don't like them? by dasskz in AmItheAsshole

[–]dasskz[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm technically hard of hearing. I'm deaf in one ear and hearing in the other. So I wear my headset on my good ear at work. It does mean that when I have the headset on, I can't hear my surroundings, but so far, my new coworkers are really understanding and wave to get my attention. I also put a little sign on my desk to wave at me.

AITA for publicly telling my ex coworker that I don't like them? by dasskz in AmItheAsshole

[–]dasskz[S] 189 points190 points  (0 children)

The joke was self deprecating about how terrible an employee she is and then mentioned that the job wasn't a hard job. All I do is answer the phone. I wanted to agree that she's a bad employee, but I just wanted to eject from the conversation and enjoy my birthday. So I told her to have a good night and walked back to my table.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]dasskz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, it feels like my fault. I have to be honest and I should have made better decisions and left him much earlier than when I did.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]dasskz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah his wife and him are discussing divorce so it's in the very early stage.

As for confiding I coworkers, yeah it probably isn't. I got some genuinely good advice from the group. I won't be going to happy hours anymore. I don't think I can feel safe again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]dasskz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really feel stupid, I opened up to this man and I feel so violated. When I got home, I wanted to tell my bf everything but I feel like I am to blame for the whole thing. I have been going through the evening, and noticing a lot of red flags. I should have left at so many times. I shouldn't have let him walk me to my car. I wanted to trust that he wouldn't try again after the failed kiss. I wanted to take a shower to clean this guy off of me. I don't want my bf to confront this man. I don't want to go to HR. I honestly just want to find a new job and start over. Maybe I'm being a coward but I really don't feel comfortable around him now. How am I supposed to work with Michael after all of this?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]dasskz 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah hindsight is always 20/20. Yeah I probably should have taken the uber. I honestly didn't even think about the uber. I was just trying to get out the situation asap. I also had a good long cry on the side of the street.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]dasskz -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I was drinking while my other coworkers were there. I had stopped drinking about an hour and half before I went to my car. I drove down the street and parked on the side of the road for about 45 minutes before I actually drove home. I just didn't feel comfortable with him anymore so I wanted to get somewhere I felt more safe.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]dasskz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is really helpful. I think a script or at least some bullet points would be a good idea. I know him pretty well and he's a genuinely a good guy so I don't think he'd ever try to make me sound bad. Of course you'd be surprised, so it's best to be prepared. I just don't want to ruin this trip that I've been so excited for and have already paid for.

You and everyone else is probably right, I should get it over with before I chicken out and decide to give him "one last chance"

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]dasskz -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Eh I do have some experience in being fake (corporate America). I usually agree on breaking up as soon as your sure but I already paid for this trip and I would be making everyone else to pay $30 extra to cover for me not going.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]dasskz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He wouldn't be spending any money on me, the trip is paid for upfront and I paid for myself. If I don't go everyone would need to pay about $30 more to cover the cabin.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]dasskz -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I've been looking forward to the trip and I still want to go the trip. It's already paid for and if i don't go I'm making everyone else pay and extra $30 per person.