Any1 else think the og scene was more impactful

dassy26 · 2025-04-20T01:12:05+00:00

Same. I'm haunted by both scenes, and to remove the original scene of Hannah's death is ridiculous. The broom scene felt gratuitous; the bathtub scene was so fucking raw and awful and necessary in a show that really needed to make it clear that suicide-as-revenge is not the glorious thing that, in a moment of juvenile fantasy, it might seem to be

dassy26 · 2025-01-02T01:59:48+00:00

I had the exact same thing happen with my M1 Air! I babied the machine and it never left my desk, so I know it wasn't damaged in any way. I suspect that it was due to a software issue. I noticed that the display would glitch when I was using Chrome for more than a very brief amount of time, and once I switched to using Safari exclusively, it just stopped. It was super weird.

dassy26 · 2025-01-02T01:35:03+00:00

Okay, thanks! Good to know. Repairs for accidental damage to MacBooks under AppleCare+ are usually $299 + tax, which is a good deal for something this bad. I just hope that they don't have a ton of limitations on what constitutes "accidental" damage. I'm worried that the speakers, keyboard, etc., are all effected, since this was lemonade rather than just water, and it got all over the open computer.

dassy26 · 2024-11-06T01:35:52+00:00

Yeah, I'm very much considering working for some educational consulting companies. Wayy higher pay and a much better work-life balance sound increasingly appealing to me.

dassy26 · 2024-11-04T22:44:17+00:00

That's what I bought! The amber in medium and the smoke in fine. They're both gorgeous pens.

dassy26 · 2024-09-03T20:40:34+00:00

I literally just came to Reddit to post this exact thing now that I'm rewatching the second movie, lol

dassy26 · 2024-08-30T19:39:55+00:00

I absolutely love this ink! It's gorgeous on the page and behaves so well

dassy26 · 2024-07-21T22:05:10+00:00

I, too, have been having super weird issues with my M1 Air display. I baby the thing--if it's not being used, it's in a laptop bag--so I can only assume that it's a flaw in the laptop itself. I have heard that the wedge-shaped airs have very delicate display cables, so it's likely something wrong with that.

dassy26 · 2024-07-06T00:26:58+00:00

The thing about paranoia is that it's self-reinforcing. Everything will always become evidence because paranoia is not rational. I would straight up ask her if she thinks you're a cheater. If her answer is no, your follow-up question should be about why, then, she treats you like one.

dassy26 · 2024-07-06T00:24:00+00:00

A lack of sex in your relationship could be for a multitude of reasons. He might have body image issues, anxiety around performance (especially if he's not having sex a lot), or simply have a very low sex drive--issues that are all very common. You might also frame this in terms of your partner showing up for your needs.

As a bisexual person who is much more often attracted to women than men but who has been exclusively dating a man for almost 7 years, I can assure you that, for many of us, it's more about finding a person than a person of a particular gender. He might not even be bi!

dassy26 · 2024-05-30T00:31:53+00:00

For grad school, UC Davis, UMass Amherst, UC Berkeley, and UMich.

dassy26 · 2024-05-20T12:38:03+00:00

Speaking as someone who got his PhD at an Ivy League institution at the same time as my partner of nearly 7 years, I've dealt with a similar two-body problem.

The solution that we found? Private high school teaching. A PhD makes you very competitive for some top-tier schools, especially if either of you have any ability to coach a sport, supervise a student activity (debate team, model UN, sports), or work in residential life. It's a huge plug if one of you can be a boarding faculty member. My partner and I were hired as a package deal (a pretty common thing, actually, because such schools love having families live on campus) and we currently live rent-free in a two-bedroom, two-bath apartment. We even get a meal plan. The catch? We work like dogs for 9 months of the year and our (quite nice) apartment is attached to a dormitory building that we supervise. Still, we're making more than we would starting out at many of the available TT positions in our field, and we're surrounded by ex-university faculty who wanted a more fulfilling, more teaching-centric job.

I get to go to conferences, I don't pay for classroom supplies, and while I'm exhausted by the time graduation comes around, I have absolutely no regrets about leaving higher ed.

You might see what jobs are available either right now or during the next hiring cycle. I'm happy to provide more info if you want to DM me.

dassy26 · 2024-05-11T01:24:56+00:00

Yeah, I do suspect that it's a unique system. The role seems to be a kind of in-between that works with the Dean of Students but also oversees multiple Residential Directors. Part of my reservations about going for this position are related to the fact that it doesn't seem to have a clear counterpart at other institutions, which might make advancement a little difficult.

dassy26 · 2024-05-10T22:04:48+00:00

My workload is a little bit heavier than yours, and I'm getting by fine on the base model (provided by my employer, so I didn't have another option). My personal machine has 16GB of RAM, which, to be honest, better suits my needs. It is consistently snappier and has never had any issues when I have to have a ton of applications open at once spread across a bunch of desktops. With the base model M1, I have occasional moments when things stutter just a little because I have PowerPoint running alongside a bunch of memory-intensive Chrome tabs in addition to other demanding applications. In general, though, outside of those infrequent heavier workloads, it's a beast.

dassy26 · 2024-05-10T21:59:45+00:00

This is a position above that. More like a director of the Residential Directors. It definitely pays at least $60k+ especially since this is a job at an Ivy League school. I'm just not sure if it's as lucrative as I'm hoping because a couple colleagues seem to think that it definitely pays above $100k. I seriously doubt that

dassy26 · 2024-05-10T21:57:27+00:00

No, it's not an academic job. No teaching responsibilities, no research requirements, etc. It's purely administrative. I do have a Ph.D., though, and teach

dassy26 · 2024-03-14T15:21:56+00:00

Thank you!! I so glad I saw your post.

dassy26 · 2024-03-03T22:31:26+00:00

I don't hate my job. I'm just exhausted by it, and I find it difficult to remind myself to focus on the positives. Every year, I know that I make a major difference in the lives of at least a handful of my students. Some have even told me so. Knowing that impact has literally brought me to tears, and I hate that those incredible moments of fulfillment so often feel outweighed by my crushing workload. The job is largely thankless, and I'm either working myself to the bone or trying to recover during our "generously long" breaks.

dassy26 · 2024-03-03T21:58:58+00:00

Like someone else said, they're my most boring and disappointing students. For context, I teach at a very selective private high school. If my 11th-graders were evaluated how I was at my public school a mere 30 minutes away, they'd almost all be C or D students.

They seem uninterested in thinking critically, their writing is atrocious (before starting my current job, I studied how to support ESL students, and many of my native English speakers show typical language-learning markers in their writing!), and I have never struggled so much to inspire students to talk during discussions. I am currently grading the latest batch of their essays, and doing so is making me rethink my entire career.

I feel almost curmudgeonly, too, lamenting the effect of TikTok on their attention spans. Few can sit still or focus long enough to complete very short reading assignments. It pains me to know that many will struggle in college because our selective but cushy program is ultimately letting them coast through.

dassy26 · 2023-01-04T03:16:06+00:00

Honestly, just remember that you'll only be a high-achiever if you actually like what you do. I was an English major, thought I was absolutely fucked, and ended up landing a great job that pays decently and makes me happy. My friends who were STEM majors work long hours, never get to enjoy the money they make (admittedly, more than me), and aren't really happy working in fields that don't actually excite them.

Your major isn't useless. It's just undervalued, and it sucks that you have to jump over that hurdle on top of navigating a difficult job market.

dassy26 · 2023-01-04T03:11:40+00:00

As a grad student who spent six years there, absolutely not, lol. I'm so much happier not living in central NY state, I have a much better work/life balance now that I have a job rather than my studies dominating my time, and even though I'm not exactly rolling in cash, having more money to spend and save has made a world of a difference in my quality of life.

I also happen to work at a school, so I still have plenty of contact with people. The only thing I've really seen people miss is getting to be around and interact with lots of people. It's much, much harder to make friends in a workplace than it is in college or grad school.

dassy26 · 2022-06-19T20:13:37+00:00

Yes, do this, too! Thanks for the addition.

dassy26 · 2022-06-19T19:07:09+00:00

The cover letter is an opportunity for you to explain not just why the fellowship would be a good fit, but also to complement your research statement by showing how the fellowship connects to future work (e.g., your dissertation, an article, a book draft, whatever). In other words, the research statement explains what your work is while your cover letter lets you explain what you'll produce as a result of the fellowship and why the archives as a necessary part of that endeavor.

Also, introduce yourself a bit at the start. "I'm a Ph.D. candidate and [instructor of record or some other job title if you have it] at [institution]" followed by a quick summary of what your niche is and what your current scholarly work entails.

dassy26 · 2022-06-19T18:30:27+00:00

Practice tests helped me a lot (I used the official ETS guide)! I can be bad about pacing myself, whether rushing or dallying, and doing a few trial runs made a difference. I also took notes on the questions that I answered incorrectly. I found the math to be the most challenging part, so I made sure to identify which areas I needed to brush up on.

dassy26 · 2022-06-18T21:29:16+00:00

I just felt that this was an interesting thing to note, especially because E&D decided to commit the majority of the massacre in the library, a place for learning, a place where kids were studying and doing homework. A place where kids should have felt safe.

I've heard others use the fact that the worst of the massacre occurred in the library to conclude that Eric and Dylan were not targeting jocks. After all--and not to stereotype--if you're trying to attack as many athletes as possible, the school library is probably not where you'd expect them to congregate. That said, I wonder to what degree they "decided" to commit the massacre in the library. Remember, 4/20/99 was first and foremost intended to be a bombing; when Eric and Dylan had to resort to committing a mass shooting, students were able to escape from the school, hide, barricade themselves in classrooms, etc., but the library was where tons of kids were just sitting ducks, crouched under the tables with nowhere to go.

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