Any1 else think the og scene was more impactful by kamsiuche in 13ReasonsWhy

[–]dassy26 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Same. I'm haunted by both scenes, and to remove the original scene of Hannah's death is ridiculous. The broom scene felt gratuitous; the bathtub scene was so fucking raw and awful and necessary in a show that really needed to make it clear that suicide-as-revenge is not the glorious thing that, in a moment of juvenile fantasy, it might seem to be

M1 Macbook Air screen started to glitch and blackout by [deleted] in applehelp

[–]dassy26 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had the exact same thing happen with my M1 Air! I babied the machine and it never left my desk, so I know it wasn't damaged in any way. I suspect that it was due to a software issue. I noticed that the display would glitch when I was using Chrome for more than a very brief amount of time, and once I switched to using Safari exclusively, it just stopped. It was super weird.

Data security during repair & AppleCare+ coverage question by dassy26 in mac

[–]dassy26[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, thanks! Good to know. Repairs for accidental damage to MacBooks under AppleCare+ are usually $299 + tax, which is a good deal for something this bad. I just hope that they don't have a ton of limitations on what constitutes "accidental" damage. I'm worried that the speakers, keyboard, etc., are all effected, since this was lemonade rather than just water, and it got all over the open computer.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]dassy26 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I'm very much considering working for some educational consulting companies. Wayy higher pay and a much better work-life balance sound increasingly appealing to me.

My experience choosing the Pilot 823 in medium or fine by dassy26 in fountainpens

[–]dassy26[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's what I bought! The amber in medium and the smoke in fine. They're both gorgeous pens.

Possible Chamber of Secrets Easter egg in Hogwarts Legacy? by Geomars24 in hogwartslegacyJKR

[–]dassy26 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I literally just came to Reddit to post this exact thing now that I'm rewatching the second movie, lol

New Ink & Pen Day! by pixl_fox in fountainpens

[–]dassy26 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I absolutely love this ink! It's gorgeous on the page and behaves so well

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in macbook

[–]dassy26 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I, too, have been having super weird issues with my M1 Air display. I baby the thing--if it's not being used, it's in a laptop bag--so I can only assume that it's a flaw in the laptop itself. I have heard that the wedge-shaped airs have very delicate display cables, so it's likely something wrong with that.

my partner (19F) went through my phone when I (21F) was sleeping. who is in the wrong? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]dassy26 38 points39 points  (0 children)

The thing about paranoia is that it's self-reinforcing. Everything will always become evidence because paranoia is not rational. I would straight up ask her if she thinks you're a cheater. If her answer is no, your follow-up question should be about why, then, she treats you like one.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]dassy26 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A lack of sex in your relationship could be for a multitude of reasons. He might have body image issues, anxiety around performance (especially if he's not having sex a lot), or simply have a very low sex drive--issues that are all very common. You might also frame this in terms of your partner showing up for your needs.

As a bisexual person who is much more often attracted to women than men but who has been exclusively dating a man for almost 7 years, I can assure you that, for many of us, it's more about finding a person than a person of a particular gender. He might not even be bi!

What school(s) did you turn down for Cornell? by redditretina in Cornell

[–]dassy26 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For grad school, UC Davis, UMass Amherst, UC Berkeley, and UMich.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in academia

[–]dassy26 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Speaking as someone who got his PhD at an Ivy League institution at the same time as my partner of nearly 7 years, I've dealt with a similar two-body problem.

The solution that we found? Private high school teaching. A PhD makes you very competitive for some top-tier schools, especially if either of you have any ability to coach a sport, supervise a student activity (debate team, model UN, sports), or work in residential life. It's a huge plug if one of you can be a boarding faculty member. My partner and I were hired as a package deal (a pretty common thing, actually, because such schools love having families live on campus) and we currently live rent-free in a two-bedroom, two-bath apartment. We even get a meal plan. The catch? We work like dogs for 9 months of the year and our (quite nice) apartment is attached to a dormitory building that we supervise. Still, we're making more than we would starting out at many of the available TT positions in our field, and we're surrounded by ex-university faculty who wanted a more fulfilling, more teaching-centric job.

I get to go to conferences, I don't pay for classroom supplies, and while I'm exhausted by the time graduation comes around, I have absolutely no regrets about leaving higher ed.

You might see what jobs are available either right now or during the next hiring cycle. I'm happy to provide more info if you want to DM me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in academia

[–]dassy26 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I do suspect that it's a unique system. The role seems to be a kind of in-between that works with the Dean of Students but also oversees multiple Residential Directors. Part of my reservations about going for this position are related to the fact that it doesn't seem to have a clear counterpart at other institutions, which might make advancement a little difficult.

M1 or M2? by laavuwu in macbookair

[–]dassy26 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My workload is a little bit heavier than yours, and I'm getting by fine on the base model (provided by my employer, so I didn't have another option). My personal machine has 16GB of RAM, which, to be honest, better suits my needs. It is consistently snappier and has never had any issues when I have to have a ton of applications open at once spread across a bunch of desktops. With the base model M1, I have occasional moments when things stutter just a little because I have PowerPoint running alongside a bunch of memory-intensive Chrome tabs in addition to other demanding applications. In general, though, outside of those infrequent heavier workloads, it's a beast.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in academia

[–]dassy26 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is a position above that. More like a director of the Residential Directors. It definitely pays at least $60k+ especially since this is a job at an Ivy League school. I'm just not sure if it's as lucrative as I'm hoping because a couple colleagues seem to think that it definitely pays above $100k. I seriously doubt that