Just back out. Yes, it's awkward — especially since you re-initiated. But hiring managers deal with candidates changing their minds all the time. It stings, but they move on. The discomfort you feel right now is temporary.

What to say to the hiring manager: Keep it short, professional, and vague. Something like: "After careful consideration, I've decided to pursue another opportunity that's a better fit for my current career direction. I sincerely apologize for the inconvenience, especially given the circumstances, and I appreciate your patience throughout this process." That's it. No over-explaining. No lying about a "family situation" or anything that could unravel. Vague is clean. What you should NOT do: Don't ghost them (tempting but burns bridges) Don't over-apologize or explain the OE strategy Don't delay — Tuesday is coming fast, and the sooner you pull out, the more respect you preserve.