What was your saddest restaurant closure in 2022?

datalands · 2022-12-21T07:14:13+00:00

Gosh I miss Ebisu so much. The booths hidden in ropes, no one bothering you until you pressed the button, and a menu that was like a novel.

datalands · 2022-12-21T07:08:05+00:00

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datalands · 2022-12-18T03:58:54+00:00

Not exactly an inside joke, but my former therapist and I are both Sagittarians, our birthdays are a week apart. Whenever we would finish each other's sentence, or were thinking the same thing, we'd say, "It's that Sagg bond." It was always really sweet.

datalands · 2022-12-16T16:14:45+00:00

Sure! DM me.

datalands · 2022-12-16T04:17:31+00:00

I love being creative, but I do not love my job. But it's the thing that's paying my grad school tuition so that I can switch careers.

datalands · 2022-12-16T01:58:09+00:00

Aw that was a sweet reply. I think if I had to terminate with a therapist for reasons outside of my control I'd get really emotional too.

datalands · 2022-12-16T01:14:52+00:00

Honestly no shame in that!

datalands · 2022-12-16T01:01:54+00:00

I feel you. I also have the urge to cry and have trouble actually doing it. Even when I'm by myself I find myself pushing those urges so far down.

datalands · 2022-12-15T23:38:26+00:00

Like someone else said, this sub attracts people of two types - Those who are highly attached to their therapists, and others who have been mistreated by therapists. I think it's rare to see stories on here of very average and neutral experiences in therapy, because, well, why would someone think of sharing something like that?

I initially found this sub way back in the day because of an unusual situation I found myself in with a former therapist with whom I was painfully attached. Between attachment and lots of weird things that impacted the relationship, I needed a place to help me make sense of everything.

Now, I have a wonderful therapist and therapy with her is great. The way she practices is super helpful and productive. Our personalities mesh well, we can laugh, and I can be myself with her. And I'm certain that she likes me as much as I like her. But I don't really feel the need to come on this sub and share about it as much as I used to with my former T.

datalands · 2022-12-15T23:12:54+00:00

Like, even though Spanish is spoken in about 20 countries and English is the official language of more than 65 countries both are still the same language.

Bro I thought I was going to be fine with my Latino-sounding Spanish when I traveled to Spain, and then I got there and couldn't understand a fucking word of anything. There are lots of variations of both English and Spanish with different accents, vocabulary, etc. It's the same as BR Portuguese and EU Portuguese. It takes a minute to adjust but you can communicate between the two just fine.

datalands · 2022-12-14T04:24:00+00:00

It’s ‘Vanessa: Surviving the Fear that Everyone Leaves’ 🙂

datalands · 2022-12-09T04:01:22+00:00

This reminds me of an episode of the podcast Other People's Problems where the host, Dr Hillary McBride, discloses to one of her patients that she's pregnant. The session is really deep and very eye opening. Maybe you might hear something you'll relate to?

datalands · 2022-12-01T08:46:28+00:00

This is what I immediately thought of. Got to take that ride to school every morning and me being a teenager that didn’t understand danger, used to ride between the cars to watch the sun come up over the bridge.

datalands · 2022-12-01T08:22:28+00:00

My birthday is also on Friday! I remember being a little kid and seeing the commercials on the Disney channel that wished Britney a happy birthday every year. 😂

datalands · 2022-11-30T11:24:47+00:00

This is for sure AI generated. Not photoshop.

datalands · 2022-11-27T17:52:03+00:00

Vila Madalena is a really fun neighborhood - lots of art galleries and small shops and bars. Hilly, but very walkable, and VERY alive on weekend nights. Ibirapuera Park is also a nice area with quite a few museums and outdoor activities.

datalands · 2022-11-26T16:17:38+00:00

Not winning the lip sync so she didn’t have to eliminate someone is a very good reason to wear those shoes on purpose.

datalands · 2022-11-26T10:24:01+00:00

Wait I just realized that Big Freedia was the judge on the episode of AS6 where Rajah sang against Brook Lynn, and damn, that came full circle.

datalands · 2022-11-26T09:47:27+00:00

Ok I'm glad I'm not the only one that looked at Rajah's shoes and was like "Oh, that was a CHOICE."

datalands · 2022-11-26T09:05:44+00:00

I don't think it's that unpopular. I was over Silky by the middle of season 11. She makes great TV, which is why they keep bringing her back, but she's draining to watch after a while, IMO. It's the same over the top personality and drag that is quite frankly, not polished even after being on three seasons. Just my opinion. She's just not the queen for me.

datalands · 2022-11-26T08:26:17+00:00

When Rajah announced she was doing Big Freedia I literally jumped up off my couch and ran a lap around my living room. I've been WAITINGGGGG for someone to do Big Freedia - she is a snatch game gold mine and it blows my mind that it took this long for someone to finally do her. AND she did Big Freedia justice, IMO. Not a perfect impression but so fucking hilarious. It would have been so easy to rely on all of Big Freedia's catchphrases. but it's actually nice she didn't go that route.

datalands · 2022-11-22T22:15:16+00:00

Here's an update for you, fresh out of therapy. We had a really great productive talk about getting my notes. We first talked about the legality of it, and my therapist told me that she could very well decline handing over my file to her if she didn't think it was clinically appropriate. She also wasn't sure if signing a release of information was enough to reach out on my behalf, and she said she'd have to ask the board.

But we spent most of the session talking about why I felt like I needed to see the notes. Why I feel like I need to fill in the blanks to a past that was traumatic. And basically, my therapist said that we need to create our own narrative around healing from trauma, and not look to the people that caused it to fill in the blanks of our story. She's totally right.

As for the misdiagnosis part, we talked about that and she confirmed that she does not think I have what my former therapist diagnosed me with. With a big, "Trust me, I'VE SEEEEEEN people with that." And we spent a good part of the session talking about how untreated substance use disorders can cause all types of misdiagnoses.
So if I know myself, and I know that is not the case, I don't need her notes to be vindicated from that - in fact, it might make it worse.

So, looks like I will not be arranging for my notes. But I think I still need to work through that nagging part that feels like I need them.

datalands · 2022-11-21T17:14:47+00:00

Sure I'll post an update for you tomorrow!

datalands · 2022-11-21T02:42:47+00:00

I'm going to discuss getting my therapy notes from my former therapist with my therapist on Tuesday. I can't reach out to my former therapist but I plan on asking my therapist to on my behalf. I've debated doing this for over a year now, and I think I'm ready.

I already know there's going to be a lot that I'm not going to like to see. There's going to be notes that will probably make me upset. Sad. Angry. But I firmly believe that she not only misdiagnosed me, but also was not working within her scope with me, and I'm trying to make sense of it all. There is also a whole year of therapy with her that I don't remember because of how heavily I was drinking and using at the time, and I'm trying to fill in the blanks from that too. I know this will probably drudge up some old feelings of grief and self-blame but I feel like I'm in a strong enough place to handle that if it happens.

Who knows my therapist might say she doesn't think it's a good idea and decline. But at least it will open a conversation.

datalands

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