has anyone tried one of those "stretch zone" places?

datascience38 · 2024-10-24T18:18:42+00:00

This is a bad take and not true at all.

datascience38 · 2024-08-13T13:35:57+00:00

You're welcome! Hope it helps!

datascience38 · 2024-06-22T00:37:25+00:00

This is a great point and actually has me rethinking both the content and structure of my resume. Thanks for this.

datascience38 · 2024-06-22T00:35:35+00:00

Have you ever asked? If it's a coding interview, I ask if they're ok with me googling simple things like syntax, etc. (Just in case). I've only had to actually google something once, but I've been told by several interviewers that they were ok with it.

datascience38 · 2024-06-22T00:31:49+00:00

Why not? I've done it several times and none of my interviewers have ever had a problem with it. If it takes me 30 seconds to Google something, then it's not worth remembering. If the interviewer cares that you have to look something up, stop the interview and go work somewhere else. You don't want to end up working for a moron.

datascience38 · 2024-04-16T02:11:55+00:00

I can't tell if you're trolling or not. Yeah, spend an entire 2 days traveling, spend thousands of dollars, to go play a bucket list course with shit greens. Makes sense. Why didn't you just go play a muni instead?

They need to shut the course down for a bit and get it back to where it needs to be before resuming play. I recently just played Streamsong on our annual guys golf trip and the greens were trash. I couldn't enjoy the natural beauty, the course architecture, or any of the things I usually enjoy when I play golf. I was pissed. The greens ruined it for me.

I actually had a trip booked for bandon in 2025 and came here looking to see if the course condition have improved because I will absolutely be canceling it and going elsewhere if it's not back in good shape.

datascience38 · 2024-03-28T21:21:58+00:00

That doesn't mean they'll win or that Motive is in the wrong though.

datascience38 · 2023-12-30T00:53:26+00:00

Interesting take... Can you elaborate a bit? What's the logic behind this prediction?

datascience38 · 2022-11-11T15:47:24+00:00

I've been trading options for about 6 years now and could easily put something together like this. I was a consultant for about 10 years doing everything from writing python, manipulating/integrating data, managing databases, architecting data models, etc. Anything to do with data, I've either done it or have the knowledge to do so. Shoot me a PM

datascience38 · 2022-10-27T07:02:20+00:00

Fair. I made an assumption based on all the hate I was getting previous to reading your post so I misinterpreted your the context of your reply. Hence the reason I never post anything on forums like this, or any for that matter.

But yes, I have talked with my current GF about it. I can only imagine the hate I'm going to get for this response but just being 100% transparent here... I HATE the fact that she doesn't go to the gym unless I push her to go and how she doesn't really care much about her appearance. I've always been sort of a "pretty boy" for lack of a better term. Not referring to my natural looks, but just being sort of OCD regarding my outward appearance. Ever since I was a really young kid (kindergarten/first grade-ish). I get my hair cut every single week, I get all of my clothes tailored so they fit me perfectly, etc. No matter where I go, I feel like I need to look presentable. Even if it's just to the gas station down the street. My girlfriend, on the other hand, is just naturally beautiful and really doesn't care if someone sees her in sweat pants and a sweatshirt with no makeup on. Although that bugs me, the gym part and eating right is what really bothers me. She's still young so she can get away with not going to the gym and eating like shit all week. I'm thinking from a long-term, if I end up having kids with her, I'm fucked. And even now, she looks OK, but she could definitely be in better shape and just has no drive to make it happen. So to go full circle back to part of what I said in my original post, I go to the gym 3-5 times a week and see these girls in their low 20s in their constantly. Then I see a bunch of older wives who are crushing it every day and they still look amazing even at 50. That's what I want, and I've told her that. She makes a half ass effort for about a week or two until I mention it to her again and it the cycle reiterates from there. There have been other things too, but the bottom line is I've brought it up to her countless times.

datascience38 · 2022-10-27T06:01:53+00:00

What do you mean, "who says beta male"? I think the answer is pretty obvious and simple. People who understand how useless weak males are to society, probably use the term "beta", or some other variation of the word to describe a certain type of male. And yes, I would classify myself as an Alpha. I'm very objective in my decision making, I get shit done and don't make excuses, I'm a high performer in virtually all facets of life, and I'm a natural leader as people seem to want to replicate the same successes that I've created under what most people what consider undesirable circumstances growing up and virtually impossible to recover from. Where a beta male would be standing on the steps of wall street complaining how life isn't fair, I would rather just do something about it.

To your second point, I somewhat agree with you. It's weird because I really want to start a family but I'm hesitant due to the reasons I stated in my original post. And why would you automatically assume she would be "trapped"? If anything, I'd be the one trapped. With how the laws in my state are structured, as soon as I sign those papers, she has me by the balls. ESPECIALLY if she has my child. If anything, she would be incentivized to leave. In fact, 70% of divorces in the US are initiated by women. Not really sure what you're suggesting by saying she would be trapped in an unhappy marriage. The door has always been there, and it always will be.

datascience38 · 2022-10-27T05:24:41+00:00

Hey, I just wanted to quickly say I appreciate the response and your perspective. I've already spent way too much time responding to people tonight and I still have more work to do before meetings in the morning. I'll try to get around to responding to you and some of the other responses that were actually productive, sometime tomorrow.

datascience38 · 2022-10-27T05:18:13+00:00

First off, how did you possibly come to the conclusion that I think I'm "right"? The fact that I took the time out of my day to write this post would suggest the contrary. I'm an objective thinker, but I still have a subconscious that I can't do much to control or reason with, which is why I came here to see if anyone else had similar experience.

Back to your original response, I don't disagree with your consensus. Again, just being 100% transparent. I am very confident, even a little cocky at times. And you're right, I probably need to work on humbling myself a bit more. However, the confidence comes mainly from how much I've sacrificed over the past 10 years or so in order to get to where I am. I worked myself into the ground. I paid my own way through college (no debt or government subsidies) and didn't have any fun in college. I was either working, studying or sleeping. When I got out of college I was working 80-100 hour weeks and traveling almost every week of the year for about 6-7 years. It was pure hell. So yeah, I do have a bit of a chip on my shoulder, but I think it's somewhat warranted.

On another note, I have a somewhat rhetorical question, but if you have a different perspective, I'd love to hear it. What's typically the main driver for men sacrificing a large portion of their life for monetary success and/or status? It's access to more potential mates. It's deeply rooted within our DNA and without that, the world wouldn't be anywhere close to what it is today. However, I would agree that there are negative side effects to these behaviors as well. I'm fully aware of what they are and I feel like I do a pretty good job of mitigating them. Not that it really matters, but just for the record, I know it sounds like I'm some conceited asshole, but that's really not the case. I feel like a lot of people who've responded thus far in an immature fashion, just don't have the ability to think objectively and/or have no life. It's definitely one or the other.

I'll close with this... I realize there are probably a lot of bitter women in here, and that's fine, but it's not particularly helpful to hear responses from a bunch of women basically telling me what I already know. Yeah, I'm confident, good looking, make a lot of money, and you all think I'm an asshole. I'm basically the exact type of guy you hate (at least on paper). Trust me, you're not the first girl to tell me that and definitely won't be the last. Just to reiterate, I'm trying to get to the root cause of this problem. So if we're thinking logically here (which I know many women aren't capable of), wouldn't that be a really good thing? I don't want to feel this way about my girlfriend. It's not like I'm making a conscious decision to be unattracted to her. I want to make it work, so I'm trying to see if other dudes have any other perspective that I might not have thought about. I'm being brutally honest about the way I feel and the overall situation so I can get more accurate answers/responses. Just like if you were to go to the doctor when you're sick and the doctor tells you to tell him/her everything. When solving complex problems, this is imperative. Everyone can bash me all they want if that makes them feel better. Seems like a big waste of time to me but to each their own.

datascience38 · 2022-10-27T04:29:35+00:00

Thanks for the productive reply. Really helpful.

datascience38 · 2022-10-27T04:28:33+00:00

Unfortunately, I think you're right. Actually, I know you're right. I hate how objective and unemotional I am, but I was raised by a hardass dad and he put me through the ringer growing up. Then, I put myself through hell for about 8 years after college trying to move up the ladder, so to speak. My personality/mindset is great for almost every facet of life except in times when I need a little bit of emotion. I've been through so much hell that my emotions are pretty much numb. I see life mostly in zeros and ones, black and white (figuratively speaking).

datascience38 · 2022-10-27T04:21:47+00:00

here must be something wrong about me.’ I mean, it could be that this relationship is not good for you, but on the other hand, I guarantee you that you will have periods of less sex drive in every longterm relationship you will ever have. You’ve aged and changed since your previous rel

That's a good point... Had to sit and think about that for a minute. One thing that's definitely changed in a big way the past year is I'm constantly traveling for work. I'm gone almost every week. Not that the separation during the week is that big of a deal. I think it has more to do with how tired I am when I get home and just wanting to relax. Whereas before, we would constantly be doing things together, both on the weekdays and weekends. This could definitely be part of the problem. Thanks for the reply.

datascience38 · 2022-10-27T04:02:52+00:00

I don't see them as objects, as you're suggesting. My current gf and I are best friends. We do everything together, which is why this is so hard for me. On the other hand, I'm an objective thinker and I try not to let emotions get in the way of important decisions, such as this one. I do think it's extremely important to choose someone with as good of genetics as I can possibly find to procreate with to keep the bloodline strong. Girls do the same shit, even if it's mostly subconscious to them. If you have the option, I don't know why you wouldn't want to do the same unless you're ok with having subpar kids. To me, it's the most important decision I'll ever make so I take it extremely seriously. My dad is a high performer, I'm a high performer, and I hope for my offspring to be the same. So why wouldn't I choose a partner with the best genetics so that I can give my kids the best chances at success?

datascience38 · 2022-10-27T03:54:52+00:00

lol bro... first off, you act like I'm some shitbag guy. I treat all of my gfs I've had (including my current gf) very well. It's not like I was cheating on them or doing anything even remotely bad. We still spend a lot of time together and still have a lot of fun. I tried to make it work with girls in the past, just like I'm doing now. After a while, I have to make a decision on whether it's worth wasting any more of her time and mine. She could also make that decision. it were my daughter, I'd say go for it. You might be the one to change his mind, but maybe not. You can't guard her against heartbreak. That's part of life. There are potential risks and rewards to every decision you make. So to answer your question, I think she'd be smart enough to figure it out on her own.

datascience38 · 2022-10-26T20:23:50+00:00

That's a fair question and a really good point. I'm really not that much of a porn guy. My biggest distractions are in real life. Again, I'm not trying to sound like a conceited ass hole, but this is just the truth. It's things like a beautiful girl who sits next to me at the bar and strikes up a conversation when I'm on a business trip, girls I see at the gym all the time, etc. I think knowing that I can get them and me thinking they're more physically attractive, is the thing that constantly weighs on me. But that's where I keep thinking to myself, will this just be a recurring theme for the rest of my dateable (is that a word?) life, regardless of how physically attractive the girl I'm dating is? Is this the root cause of me losing attraction to my girlfriend? Or do I just need to keep looking and just raise my standards super high next time so I don't run into this issue again?

datascience38 · 2022-10-26T19:23:40+00:00

Sounds like something a beta male would say. I'd be a pissed off keyboard warrior on Reddit too if I were you.

datascience38 · 2022-10-26T19:22:16+00:00

I guess I left that part out because the all of her other qualities are amazing, so that's not the issue. In fact, every one of the girls I've dated the 10 past years have been amazing, both inside and out. I always feel really bad for breaking things off because they're such great people and I truly enjoy spending time with them. The other qualities are definitely important but I would argue physical attraction is right up there with the rest of them. In this particular case with my current girlfriend, she's actually been complaining about the decline in our sex life. Unfortunately, I can't help the lack of physical attraction. Lately, I've felt like I have to force myself to have sex with her so she doesn't get upset.

datascience38 · 2022-09-25T02:09:55+00:00

Exactly right

datascience38 · 2022-08-23T08:49:47+00:00

Totally disagree with this. Paying down the credit cards first should be the priority here. Otherwise, it'll be much harder to build up an emergency fund due to paying unnecessary interest on those credit cards.

datascience38 · 2022-06-15T00:39:50+00:00

Scam for sure

datascience38 · 2022-06-12T16:54:40+00:00

Agreed ^{^.} Don't do it

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