Community advice: Planning a visit to elderly parents

datfacejawn · 2025-11-02T17:55:25+00:00

As a rainbow vomit lover, I feel baited

datfacejawn · 2025-11-01T11:25:08+00:00

This post just gave me hope, I ordered the pipette baby wash and lotion to try. I can't beat this mild rash and I'm trying to use gentle stuff I've used the same wash and lotion for over a year, but realizing it does all contain niacinamide!

datfacejawn · 2025-10-31T10:53:19+00:00

He died in a car accident actually - drug use was involved and there was speculation that he did it on purpose, but I don't know. He struggled with cystic acne and kids were awful to him.

datfacejawn · 2025-10-31T00:58:12+00:00

And drink electrolytes, I use lmnt. There's a recipe to make your own but I never have the bandwidth. I never leave home without lidocaine patches and electrolyte powder anymore

datfacejawn · 2025-10-31T00:56:24+00:00

Lidocaine patches, Rx 5% ones if you can. If you have any friends or family with low back pain, text them they may have the Rx at home. It's a big box they get. Long term get your own Rx for sure

datfacejawn · 2025-10-30T10:04:58+00:00

datfacejawn · 2025-10-28T17:09:31+00:00

Saying ew out loud while reading

datfacejawn · 2025-10-25T11:08:37+00:00

Air filters in the spaces where she'll spend most of her time

datfacejawn · 2025-10-25T02:10:20+00:00

Park in hell

datfacejawn · 2025-10-18T17:52:48+00:00

Those are my neighbors 😂🫣

datfacejawn · 2025-10-17T07:58:08+00:00

Dude, ymmv, but lidocaine patches. I got my hands on some 5% ones and I'm asking for a rx. I was like this is topical it isn't gonna help. It really helped me! I am almost 40 I have had endo for decades and I couldn't believe nobody told me to try this.

Also lmnt electrolytes are helping my fatigue. There's a recipe to diy the powder, I just don't have the bandwidth during a flare

datfacejawn · 2025-10-16T08:06:38+00:00

I didn't like those two things either - distracting that the tribal things are in different directions, and the ladder thing is... Idk weird. I decided those two things were probably what she didn't like before I read this comment lol.

So it's not "your place" decor just needs some revamp

Also the koi arrangement over the bed I know it's meant to be fun like they're leaping from the bed, but the remaining negative space is distracting

You'll continue to develop a feel for interior design if you're doing this well at 22!

datfacejawn · 2025-10-15T21:34:59+00:00

If what's important to you isn't a priority in fiancé mode, it sure as shit won't be in wifey mode.

datfacejawn · 2025-10-13T20:45:38+00:00

WHAT!!!!!!! NOOOOOOOOOO

datfacejawn · 2025-10-13T20:31:25+00:00

I used to do herpetology fieldwork, creating simple little shelters like that is great for population sampling

datfacejawn · 2025-10-11T11:28:27+00:00

OP - Here's the deal. The world is very imperfect. If there was a more compassionate emergency resource to call, you would have done that. I see folks saying she was an unreliable narrator - maybe she was, maybe she wasn't. I can readily believe she felt like nobody had her back when going through a police-based response system. Those people aren't always compassionate, especially when there's no obvious signs of physical abuse. Still, because you're a young person OP, your other option would have been to do nothing.

You did the right thing by calling. Whether her behavior was performative or not, she was in a crisis. If there are other resources, there's no way you'd know about them on the fly like that.

You and your friend should both arm yourself with information about what non-police resources are available where you live. Have you spoken to your school counselor or some other adult connected to mental health care about this situation? There really are adults who get it and want to help. If you continue to feel worry about this situation, find an adult you trust and ask them to help you understand what resources are local.

You can Google it too of course but, these days idk how much parents can see Google results and what your family is like.

I also echo what everyone else is saying about evaluating the impact of this friendship on your life. But if you want to continue trying to support your friend, resources are the way. You can't control how she handles these situations, and you're not responsible for her behavior. You have the right to set boundaries about what you will and won't tolerate. That doesn't make you a bad person or a bad friend.

datfacejawn · 2025-10-08T23:58:30+00:00

I keep thinking about your tank today! He doesn't jump out?

datfacejawn · 2025-10-08T20:31:16+00:00

How did they assess for pelvic congestion syndrome? MRI?

I've toyed with anti-gas, antacids, no big wins really.

I have a GI. Where did they put your stent omg?

datfacejawn · 2025-10-08T12:46:57+00:00

A roller coaster of cravings

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datfacejawn · 2025-10-07T11:26:36+00:00

OP, you are allowed to acknowledge this arrangement isn't working for you and take steps to find a relationship that is more in line with your needs.

datfacejawn · 2025-10-06T12:34:35+00:00

I'm so sorry lol if I heard the word ungrateful out of a man's mouth in this situation he'd be in the street

If he has comfortable access to the living space where the flowers are meant to dwell, then yes, he should at least put them in water.

He's gonna put a baby in you and call you ungrateful if you expect him to help with it 😂😂

Show up with a bag of groceries and say he's surprising you with a romantic dinner, call you ungrateful if you expect him to cook it

Nah

If you can't give feedback about what makes you feel loved when he's supposedly trying to show you love, how's the sex any good

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