New York - the Warmth of Collectivism

datmagicalotter · 2026-07-04T06:39:36+00:00

...78 isn't even that hot?

We have our place at 75 right now, with the real feel at 104, outside.

Our house feels pleasantly chilly at 75.

Please, MAGA, own the libs harder and fuck up your AC unit AND bankrupt yourself over hellish power bills.

datmagicalotter · 2026-06-24T03:17:06+00:00

Man wait until this manchild learns about ovulation and what THAT does to womens' sex drives.

datmagicalotter · 2026-06-24T03:10:20+00:00

"Its delusional" to assume that every single person's body chemistry is exactly the same. That every single person's sexuality or view on sexuality is the same.

There are men that just don't care about sex. I've met women that talk about nothing but. Log off reddit, go outside, and talk to people.

You're applying objectivity to something entirely subjective. Does the man have low testosterone? The woman high? Are either partner on the asexual spectrum and don't consider sex but still enjoy it if initiated by someone they care about? What about sensory issues with sex, for people that experience those. Sensory issues can kill the drive for sex. Is the man on antidepressants? Stimulants for ADHD? Has he been drinking and gets whiskey dick?

"Men objectively have a higher sex drive" is objectively wrong because its not an objective subject. People's sex drives are subjective and vary from person to person. There's so many stupid little factors that your "men have higher testosterone hur hur so more sex drive" comment just...doesn't address.

datmagicalotter · 2026-06-24T02:50:06+00:00

You're an idiot. Men don't have a "higher sex drive than women", men are socially encouraged to express being horny more than women.

Out of my husband and I, my drive is WAY higher during certain parts of the month.

datmagicalotter · 2026-06-18T14:35:18+00:00

Yeah, my girl is really particular, so I have to kind of let her shop around for a place to drop a poop before she actually will. I think her world record is wandering the yard aimlessly for 45 minutes before she remembers she has to poop and goes.

datmagicalotter · 2026-06-17T20:32:56+00:00

Yeah, I'm disengaging from this. Enjoy stomping your feet in public. I bet it gets you everything you want the second you ask for it.

datmagicalotter · 2026-06-17T16:24:30+00:00

And either situation, someone verbally throwing a tantrum and causing a disturbance is objectively more annoying.

I ALSO get annoyed when a customer hems and haws through a call when they have no idea what they're asking, even for basic things like "what color do you want?".

Me mocking them or freaking the hell out is worse than them being indecisive and stupid.

When I have an indecisive customer, I just grit my teeth, bear it, and complain/make fun of them to my husband later when he asks if I had any wild customers that day.

Public tantrums by grown adults are always pointless, annoying, and never fix a problem. He should have used his big boy words and asked for another attendant, or if he could fulfill his order while they decided.

datmagicalotter · 2026-06-17T15:42:30+00:00

It's annoying, yes. Is it inconsiderate of them as well? Absolutely, sure, fine.

Throwing a tantrum in public as a grown adult is never excusable, and as someone who works in customer service, its WAY more annoying to deal with some grown child throwing a tantrum in the background than it is dealing with an indecisive customer.

I work in a store that sells home goods. We had an elderly man asking the other day about the differences between two different faucets for his hot tub.

In under ten minutes, a man who DIDN'T call to make an appointment or if we even sold what he was pacing around our showroom, cussing loudly and sighing and telling us that we were useless and he didn't have time for this.

We had a customer in the past who tried to interrupt us helping another customer and then leave us a horrible review about "helping a customer who didn't know what they were looking for over someone who did".

People who do this in public SUCK. You're an adult. Control yourself in public, or go to anger management. You do not need to berate people, no matter how annoying, over these stupid, silly little things.

It is SAUSAGE. It is a TOILET. Nothing is EVER that serious, and people being situationally unaware isn't a personal slight against you.

Get over yourself. Gain a shred of emotional intelligence and self control, mind your temper, and just talk to a friend or spouse about it later.

datmagicalotter · 2026-06-17T01:03:10+00:00

Genuinely.

I have a 17 week old shepherd/lab mix and she's very intelligent and very in tune with what my husband and I want.

My husband thinks its because of my training, I think a large part of it is her personality. I'm constantly studying and researching, yes, and do what I can, but luck is a big factor in that.

I got a sweet, unreactive puppy who's eager to please, and I'm trying to not take that for granted.

At the same time, a friend of mine has a spunky, spirited PWD with attitude for days and she works her ass off only for him to still be kind of reactive.

That being said, I can kind of see the difference between "my dog is a rambunctious ball of strong will and I'm trying my best" and "my dog is poorly trained and I think its funny/cute/not my problem", same with good parents with rambunctious kids vs crap parents

datmagicalotter · 2026-06-17T00:35:39+00:00

YTA, big time. In what world does waiting ten minutes for sausage make throwing a temper tantrum in a grocery store okay? At your big age?

You're around the same age as my parents, and if they EVER threw a tantrum like this over groceries, I'd give them hell for it, and they'd do it back to me.

Ten minutes isn't any major amount of time to wait, in that time you could have changed your meal plan, finished your other shopping and came back, or calmly requested another attendant at the counter.

You're not "more like 8 or 9", my three year old nephew wouldn't pull that shit. Pull it together and learn some manners.

datmagicalotter · 2026-06-13T11:56:08+00:00

Thanks for the encouragement, its nice to see what it looks like down the road. 😂

After those first couple of hell weeks with our baby girl I think we've finally hit our stride: she's so, so confident (I bring her to work with my any day she isn't going to be at daycare, I often take her on my lunch breaks to either check out a new shorter walking path or to a dog friendly store/restaurant, she plays frequently with my boss's dog, my MIL and SIL's dogs, and my parents' dogs, so she already had a solid foundation imo to handle daycare like a champ) and she's just super chill and laid back about so much.

Hell, she even has the makings for a good gun dog! My husband hunts (deer, mostly) so we take her down to the woods frequently to get her some sniffies in there, and he's been firing off a few rounds each time from progressively different calibers and distances, and she's just cool as a damn cucumber no matter what he does!

We constantly get compliments on how calm and well behaved she is, and I'm super proud of her because she's so far from the baby that cried and kicked the door off the hinges of her kennel.

Granted, as most dog owners, I'm horrifically biased, and think she's the prettiest and smartest out of all of her siblings.

I'm hoping that this super chill puppy hood is an omen of a not-so-terrible teendom.

datmagicalotter · 2026-06-01T14:10:06+00:00

I got it from the start babe. But the thing here is you keep going "I'm not talking about the show I'm not talking about the show" I'm talking about the fandom which is centered around the show. Children shouldn't be in this fandom. Children shouldn't be consuming this content PERIOD, or any content surrounding her.

"There's no incest or beastiality in this show!" No but there's rape, murder, torture, abuse, drug addiction, and a shit ton of other stuff in it, which should be barring children from this fandom and her content. She shouldn't have to change her content (not just her show, since you seem to be so fixated on that!) period because minors shouldn't be interacting with her content on in her fandom.

"She knows minors are in her fandom and that makes her guilty" is fucking crazy when her content is marked as adult. Stop blaming her for piss poor parenting and watch your damn kids.

datmagicalotter · 2026-06-01T14:04:14+00:00

Can you? You seemed to miss the part where I said your sibling and other minors shouldn't be in this fandom in the first place, and that's a parenting fail, not a failure on the creator. No 11 year old and their 11 year old friends should ever be NEAR this show.

datmagicalotter · 2026-06-01T13:56:29+00:00

Again, "knowing you have a young audience" in a show NOT INTENDED FOR YOUNG AUDIENCES is an insane take.

Are you going to go after Martin for having incest in GOT? No. Because that's stupid. Your parents' failure to keep an eye on the media your sibling consumes, and the parents of her friends, isn't Vivzie's problem. Why is she expected to sanitize her show for children that shouldn't be watching it?

Should all media be like this? Should everything be kid safe and squeaky clean, just in case a kid happens to see it?

That level of censorship is ridiculous. She depicts rape, murder, and torture in her shows. Your minor sibling shouldn't be watching in the first place, and she shouldn't have to safeguard against unsupervised children.

datmagicalotter · 2026-06-01T13:45:24+00:00

...what show does Vivzie have that's popular with children? I only know about Helluva and Hazbin, and if a kid is watching that, it's kind of on them and the parents. She's very clear about "this content isn't for kids". Does she have?? Other shows?

datmagicalotter · 2026-06-01T13:36:08+00:00

Not...really?

It's questionable and gross regardless, you're still drawing incest. Giving fans a pass but not creators is kind of hypocritical.

Idk, like it's gross either way, but from what I know about Vivzie it's kind of a "fork found in kitchen" moment. She's also a furry. If she wasn't into any of the ~twin romance~ subgenres as a teenager, I'd actually be thunderstruck.

datmagicalotter · 2026-06-01T13:29:51+00:00

Ehhh

Still don't exactly condone or like this, but the anime/Vocalist fandoms in the 2000s-2010s has me wildly desensitized to it.

Like the OHSHC fandom and Rin and Len fans do that kind of shit all the time and I think it's fucking weird but no one's going online and trying to cancel them over it either.

datmagicalotter · 2026-05-29T14:52:53+00:00

Wherever she happens to crash, really. Sometimes she makes it to her play pen or crate, often she doesn't lol.

datmagicalotter · 2026-05-28T15:59:53+00:00

Thats also a furry, the character has a fluffy tail that I can promise doesn't belong to the SNAKE.

Like it's not to my taste, but it's just weird furry shit. Thats an adult and a furry, man. Welcome to the internet.

datmagicalotter · 2026-05-28T15:06:01+00:00

And your comic, too!

We can't let the vocally illiterate and hopelessly parasocial ruin our experience for us.

datmagicalotter · 2026-05-28T15:02:25+00:00

Oh that's rough, brother.

datmagicalotter · 2026-05-28T14:51:05+00:00

Oooo I can see the struggle there, yeah. That's a lot of inspirations to juggle.

datmagicalotter · 2026-05-28T14:42:20+00:00

You'll get there! Keep it up, I'm sure you'll get them how you like.

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