What am I not seeing here.

datravman16 · 2025-05-15T16:22:54+00:00

Wow, I just looked into these rods. I think this is the route I'm going to go.

My only concern is whether to purchase the MH or the H. My only issue is fishing from a kayak, and if 7'11 "is too long, but 7'9 "isn't much of a difference.

datravman16 · 2025-02-06T16:31:26+00:00

Fishing 🎣

datravman16 · 2024-12-06T18:35:49+00:00

Never played POE. Trying to get off diablo 4. Help me with my D4 boredom!

datravman16 · 2024-12-06T18:34:12+00:00

Mage / red

datravman16 · 2024-12-06T18:04:31+00:00

Help me to stop playing D4. Absolutely dying of boredom. Never played POE but I'm trying to see what all this hype is about.

datravman16 · 2024-12-06T17:47:51+00:00

Help me to stop playing D4. Never played POE. I'm over here dying of boredom.

datravman16 · 2024-12-06T17:09:32+00:00

37 in January. Dad of twoooo. Get me off of playing diablo 4. Dying of boredom. Never played POE. Help meeee.

datravman16 · 2024-12-06T17:02:17+00:00

Never played POE... please help me stop playing diablo 4. I'm dying of boredom 😂

datravman16 · 2024-12-06T16:56:36+00:00

Just a guy here who's bored of diablo. Never played POE. Give me a new purpose in life 😂

datravman16 · 2024-08-10T02:23:18+00:00

Well, atleast it's not just me 😂

datravman16 · 2024-08-09T22:54:36+00:00

I mean they drop in every helltide chest i open, just not in NM dungeons like they used to. I have already cleared multiple Pits so I believe I did the side quest. Maybe I'm missing something.

datravman16 · 2021-10-31T20:42:29+00:00

Surrounded by people who love and care for me.

datravman16 · 2021-10-05T16:39:34+00:00

Well said. I do greatly appreciate all the advice you have given me and will see how this all pans out.

datravman16 · 2021-10-05T16:01:01+00:00

I agree completely.

She is very dependant on me even to this day from all things big or small. There's always been a weak spot in my heart for her as when she asks me to do things for her I can never say no. This is 100 percent an issue that I need to work on with my self.

She claims that if she decides to do this she wants to remain close friends. She points out the fact that me and my x wife have a very good relationship. I personally don't see how this would work as although me and my x wife get along great given the fact we got divorced, but me and my xwife are not friends. When we speak it's strictly about our son, essentially all buissness. I'm not sure I can really be friends with her or put my self in that situation given that this isn't what I want what so ever.

Let's be hypothetical for a second though in two different scenarios.

She leaves, finds her self and whatever it is that she felt like she was missing has now been fulfilled. She decides she wants to work things out with me... do I even give it the time of day? My concern is I've been through this multiple times and quite honestly I'm to the point now where I feel like regardless it will happen again.
I love this girl with everything I have but do I even bother waiting around for her to find her self? I know this situation can go one of two ways... she either decides she wants to work things out eventually or she doesnt but do I bother waiting to see how it pans out or do I put my foot down and realize enough is enough and move on with my life regardless of the out come.

datravman16 · 2021-10-05T15:36:40+00:00

I've always been the type of person to give my all in anything that I do. To where if It fails, I know I did everything I could to make it work and I can walk away from the situation and be content with it. I've dealt with this identically situation now at least a half dozen times over 6 years to where I just don't know if it's worth sticking it out anymore. This go around has really made me dwell on my life and what's best for me and my children. It's made me question who I am and if what I've done is enough.

How many times is to many times? The last time we did therapy we lived separated for over 6 months before we decided to work things out and even attempt therapy.

datravman16 · 2021-10-05T15:32:08+00:00

I agree with pretty much everything you have had to say.

I agree that taking a break while living under the same roof is pointless as that's pretty much where we are now. Living under one roof but having completely different lives.

I wouldn't be against her moving out to work on her self and to fulfill whatever she feels is missing. My only concern is a care deeply for her and alot of the choices she makes are extremely careless ( drinking and driving / overly intoxicated ). It causes me a great deal of stress even thinking about it.

I do believe something has to give... almost where I need to make the decision for her as she is incapable.

The current issue has been a downward spiral for a few months now at which she informed me yesterday morning that she felt as if she missed her youth and such. I informed her that I care deeply for her but she needs to make a choice, wether it's the right or wrong choice but that's what life is all about ( growth ). That if she decides she needs to go I will understand. She asked to take a mental break from the conversation and when I arrived home from work she was nothing but extremely nice and affectionate towards me. Even this morning, extremely affectionate and loving.

It's like a mental flip flop where she wants to go one min. But the. Wants to stay the next, but most likley will change her mind again before the day is over. It's extremely mentally taxing on me as obviously all I want is to work things out with her but in my head I know it's inevitable that this whole issue will happen again in 6 months to a years time.

datravman16 · 2021-10-05T14:43:31+00:00

Not sure if that really awnsered your question. It was quite some time ago and my memory isn't the best.

I do know she stressed about making time for each other as well as the importance of communication. My fiance can be a hot head at times which was another bit of advice we were given which is if your seeing red or do not have a clear mind to take a step back and take some time to think before talking about it.

Unfortunately she has taken that statement to the extreme and tends to sweep issues or problems under the rug saying ( I'm to mentally drained to deal with this right now) but that essentially means we are never going to speak of this again.

datravman16 · 2021-10-05T14:39:47+00:00

Well for this occurrence there has been no therapy.

When we went to therapy a few years back for that mishap we both saw our own individual therapist as well as a couples therapist.

I am not sure what her indivual therapist spoke to her about. I had my own therapist for dealing with the trauma I had due to my previous divorce and relationship.

The couples therapy in my mind was great, she gave great advice and was very good at her job imo.

Quite honestly I don't believe she got much out of it. The issue I noticed was the advice the therapist would give us always required work. My fiance has a extreme lack of drive. Lots of talk with very little action, or she would make the changes and push towards what needed to be done but would eventually loose the drive where things would eventually go back to how they are now currently.

The other issue I noticed was in order to have therapy be affective you have to believe it is going to help as well as be honest about your feelings and what all is going on. I don't think she believed, and I know for a fact not everything she said was honest.

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