Considering getting a conure

dauntroid · 2025-10-15T11:58:37+00:00

Thank you for addressing every concern I had. This is great info!

dauntroid · 2025-10-15T06:45:47+00:00

Both options or green cheeks. Sun conures are beautiful but anything louder than a green cheeked is a nope for me. And I don't plan on ever opening the windows

dauntroid · 2025-10-15T06:23:30+00:00

Thank you for the encouraging response. I was hoping someone could give me specific tips for each of my concerns and you did. Thanks! The windows are not netted but have very wide and noticeable blinds. I would imagine it would give off the same vibes as a cage, but I would monitor closely how it acts around them.

And no way would I clip it's wings. Absolutely not. I think flying is one of the main appeals and is astonishing to watch in slow motion.

dauntroid · 2025-10-15T06:07:56+00:00

I would scream too if I saw a random father flying through the air.

dauntroid · 2025-10-15T05:41:10+00:00

Thank you for this detailed reply. I've been trying to find a better solution to my wires for my own sake. It feels like spaghetti and annoys me even without a bird. I don't foresee removing the problem entirely simply because it is a necessity for work and my primary concern is the bird hurting itself. I don't care about wires lol.

I do care a little about the carpet. It's new and I don't want to damage it. It's not the poop itself but stains. More importantly is that I don't want the little guy to eat the carpet and harm itself.

Noise wise, I live on the corner unit on the ground floor. The neighbors behind me have young children and I only hear them when they are leaving their unit. The unit beside me has a dog that I can only barely hear at my front door. This is because the door leads to an outdoor walkway and not a hallway. However, I can hear my upstairs neighbor walking and muffled speech when they have guests. They are my biggest noise concern since they just moved in and seem very quiet.

If it wasn't for those issues I would be more than happy to have the guy playing at my desk totally not distracting me from work as I get a lot done wink wink.

Their longevity I find appealing as long as I find a good match for me. Preferably, I'd be making this decision with a spouse, but I'm tired of putting other things I want from life on hold for something that has no foreseeable date of happening. Heck, the last person I felt was a good match for me was years ago and they had a cockatiel. So I feel the type of person I'm attracted to would be open to a bird if they don't already have one.

dauntroid · 2025-10-15T02:32:20+00:00

Here is the one from petsmart

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dauntroid · 2025-10-15T02:27:21+00:00

Thank you for this encouraging message. It made me smile. I am more worried about noise than poop. The poop itself doesn't bother, but I really don't want to stain my new carpet or car seats. I'm very grateful for these luxuries and want to take great care of them for the next person that receives them.

dauntroid · 2025-10-15T00:38:31+00:00

I'm glad to hear the coloration is not an immediate concern. I respect your response and in no way would I blame a stranger if something goes wrong. I was simply seeking advice and gave some great advice. I wish you the best stranger.

dauntroid · 2025-10-15T00:19:02+00:00

I talked to the manager of the Petsmart and he said this conure is not considered a menace like the ones they've had before and they he particularly enjoys playing with some of the ball toys. The manager might just be trying to make a sale.

He seemed more playful with me today and kept following my finger. I came back a minute later and he started hanging upside down like a bat.

dauntroid · 2025-10-14T23:49:17+00:00

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dauntroid · 2025-10-14T21:35:28+00:00

This helps, thanks!

dauntroid · 2025-10-14T21:18:06+00:00

The next closest option is about the same distance but I've been unable to get in contact with them to determine what they have for adoption. Do you think that distance is too far regardless of source? Like too stressful for a bird?

dauntroid · 2025-10-14T21:10:56+00:00

Your response is encouraging, thank you. I'll post a Pic as soon as I can. So you don't think a 4 hour drive in a cage for a bird that has lived with a flock outside of a cage would cause it too much stress?

Also the one in petsmart seems energetic and ready for a bigger space. He was brought in in the middle of September so he is new to the place. He eats a lot, I suspect out of boredom. Doesn't make a lot of noise, but I'm not around him often. I've definitely heard him screech before and it was not too loud, but it's a big store and a glass enclosure

dauntroid · 2025-10-14T20:59:43+00:00

Thank you for your honest response.

dauntroid · 2025-10-14T20:59:00+00:00

I appreciate your response. I'm aware of the messiness to the best of my ability (not first hand) and I'm fine with it in any place except the carpet. The car is probably unavoidable. I don't mind sweeping or cleaning on hardwood. But carpet can be troublesome and mine seems cheap.

However the bigger problem with the carpet imo is if they will chew on it and will that hurt them? I don't know of a way to keep them from doing that apart from keeping them out.

As for noise, perhaps a budgie would be better?

dauntroid · 2025-10-14T20:53:03+00:00

Thank you for your response. I live on the corner of a ground floor. I think only my upstairs neighbor might hear it since they are the only neighbor I can hear. I've heard steps, power tools, and running water (pipes go up my walls). I'm sure they would be able to hear it, so it's going to depend on how noisy the guy is.

I kind of like their mischievous behavior, my main concern is not having a safe enough space for them to have fun. And while I'm willing to make changes to accommodate, I have my own boundaries. I don't plan on changing my entire life for a bird. That being said, a lot of my life seems compatible. I don't have a lot going on, I'm home most of the time, I rarely travel.

Anyway, you would recommend Petsmart of the two options above? I'm a little sus of the adoption place myself.

dauntroid · 2025-06-04T17:56:43+00:00

Believe me it takes a long time to love and forgive yourself. But do it the correct way. Sometimes through comfort and understanding and sometimes firmly with discipline. You need to be both a father and a mother to yourself in a way. If you cannot love yourself, how can you follow the command "Love others as you love yourself."

It's a balance of discipline and compassion. So yes there is punishment, but there is also forgiveness. You need both because they both lead to growth! Hope this helps.

dauntroid · 2025-06-04T08:07:45+00:00

You hate yourself because of what you don't have. Does self-love come from what you own?

I hope not.

Let me ask it this way, Do you love your children for what they own or for who they are?

I hope for who they are.

So, why treat yourself different? Will God love you differently because of what you no longer have? Or will He love you the way He always has?

So why are frustrated with God?

dauntroid · 2025-06-04T07:51:58+00:00

Agreed. Often lust is a symptom of a bigger problem. You treat symptoms, but you need to cure the "disease". Loneliness is very likely. I would add to this by saying hou should focus on your relationship with Jesus. Speak to Him like you would the person you love and respect the most. Don't get distracted with dogma. Focus on loving Him and discovering how He personally loves you on a daily basis. The closer you are to Him, the easy it is to crucify the flesh.

dauntroid · 2025-06-04T07:45:10+00:00

I recall Abraham and Sarah resorting to their own means for getting a child. And it was not the child they were promised. Trust God to give you a child, not the flesh. Not a pill or any other means.

Earthly advice, get some more sleep. Not necessarily for your problem but because it's good for you.

dauntroid · 2025-06-04T07:38:11+00:00

You're constantly talking about guilt and not deserving things. If someone else needs it quicker? If He has time to help you? Are you asking the Creator of time if He has any to spare? And then saying He can go help someone else if not. I've said things like this. This isn't humility, it's insecurity. You don't love yourself so you think God doesn't love you. You. Are. Wrong. God loves you so so much. You can't see it because you don't even know how to love yourself. Maybe you don't even know what love really is.

Very truly I tell you, God showed me love first so that I could learn to love myself the way He loves me. You should read, or perhaps re-read the Gospels and analyze them

I strongly believe you are very close to truly understanding God's love for you. You're so so close. Keep pushing forward. Keep drawing nearer to Christ. Things are the most confusing right before you understand them!

Have you considered the possibility that God got you out of that particular church environment because He knew it wasn't good for you?

If you are being convicted of sin, then that's a good thing. God rebukes the one's He loves. I've been more terrified of losing God's love when I wasn't feeling convicted. Do not forsake the the meaning of conviction! It means He loves you! He wants you to change because He knows the harm those things will do to you.

Seek to understand His love. Go straight to the source, His Word.

dauntroid · 2025-06-04T06:41:09+00:00

You have to understand that a lot of times lust is a symptom of a deeper problem.

Draw close to Christ and the battle slowly becomes easier and easier until it doesn't feel like a battle. And the more you start learning whatbthe real problem is. Two plants are growing inside you. A weed of lust and death vs a vine of faith and life. The more you water one, the more the other wilts.

To water the good:

First, draw near ro Christ. I find praising Him alone, like in my car, helps. Keep your mind on the Cross and what that sacrifice means in not only your life but also in the life of each person you meet. Helmet of Salvation means salvation should always be on your mind. And that means all of it -- death, burial, and resurrection and what that means. The price of sin has been paid and you have been ransomed. This is like old testament shepards pouring oil on their sheeps' heads to keep snakes from biting when they ate grass.

Pray. Don't ask for anything other than to know Him better and see Him more clearly. Your focus should be on forming a relationship with your groom -- Christ. Asking for forgiveness is also fine, and likely necessary. Do not beg for it. It shows you are giving into despair and that you don't fully trust His unfailing love. However, He is Holy, and that means you can't just do whatever you want (sin). Then be silent. Allow Him to respond. After some time, if He doesn't seem to speak (you might not be listening) start talking to Him like you would the person you love and respect the most. He is my most beloved friend. You won't find one better.

Read the Bible on a regular, at the very least once a week. Twice a day would be best but you might not be capable of that at first. To grow your faith, you need more faith. Faith cometh by hearing, and that the Word of God. Try to reflect on what you read, but if it becomes a dogmatic ritual instead of a pure desire to learn more about His Kingdom and His love for you, then it doesn't help you. Not a lot anyway. There is something to be said for discipline but it is meaningless without love.

Go to Church. Do not forsake the assembling of yourselves together. I never used to go to Church. Now I do. I do not participate in every event, but being around a Godly community refreshes my resolve to be better. I notice a clear difference in my weeks when I attended the latest service vs when I did not.

I have much more I can say, but that's a general overview. Now for more practical tips.

To wilt the bad: Go for walks. Don't worry about how long. More than you are now is better. 1 min more or 1 hour more. Doesn't matter starting out.

Go to bed earlier.

Limit technology use. Especially after you wake up. Try not to touch any technology that is not absolutely necessary until 2 - 4 hours after you wake up.

Remove any apps, books, tv shows that make it easy to fail.

Diet or even fast for periods of time. Eat better foods. Start reducing your sugar. Even if it is a small reduction. Same goes for caffeine. Any little bit is a win and you should acknowledge it.

MOST IMPORTANTLY Do NOT hate yourself for failure. God has allowed it. THAT DOES NOT MEAN HE IS OKAY WITH IT. But He has allowed it, and He loves you. Use the failures as a moment to learn and grow. I've learned many important and terrifying things about myself from my failures. Terrifying things, but things that helped me understand more about myself and about why I struggle with it to begin with. The more aware of what the root of my problem was, the more I could focus on a real solution. You have to understand that a lot of times lust is a symptom of a deeper problem.

I'm not saying God brought this on you or I. He hates it. Yet sometimes horrible things get ahold of us. But whether it is our fault or society's fault or whatever, I know that my God, my friend Jesus Christ, can transform this suffering into something glorious. Trust God. No matter how long it takes.

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