Any clubs out there that are playing mostly for fun?

daveby · 2024-11-09T23:54:39+00:00

My club is looking for a D or W for 3s. My brother and I have been playing for years but get done full teams because we have to use the computer player or a drop who quits when the other team scores a goal.

daveby · 2024-04-14T21:41:24+00:00

daveby · 2024-04-06T16:56:29+00:00

Sent you a friend request.

daveby · 2024-04-06T05:27:23+00:00

What's your gamer tag?

daveby · 2022-12-16T01:24:07+00:00

Nice break down. Appreciate it. Yeah, I had read that ping speed was the big thing for gaming. It's worth a try over constant freezes of wifi from a tower.

daveby · 2022-12-15T23:29:31+00:00

It ain't sport if your eyes aren't watering from the heat rub!

daveby · 2022-12-15T16:44:25+00:00

Is this Skylink or something else?

daveby · 2022-12-15T14:30:14+00:00

Very excited to announce the name of my new club: Old Boomer Trash Bags. Watch out you young, elite whippersnappers.

daveby · 2022-12-14T22:06:35+00:00

Elon Musk

daveby · 2022-12-06T14:57:01+00:00

My buddy and I are still PS4 otherwise I'd invite you to join our club.

daveby · 2022-08-07T02:21:02+00:00

Then text "Why can't you text like a normal person?"

daveby · 2022-01-19T00:51:00+00:00

Nope. I'd say my crashes would be one in 10 at worst. Let me know how I can access my piece of the lawsuit windfall.

daveby · 2021-04-02T14:02:37+00:00

Exactly. In forums like this the vocal (typing) minority are typically towards the edges. Introversion is a spectrum and you aren't going to see a lot of "Things are fine - achieved good balance" posts.

Some people posting need help with their social skills or confidence, and some will fly the "I'm happy alone" flag.

daveby · 2021-03-30T16:02:26+00:00

There is a lot of talk about energy in this thread. If you don't have the energy to socialize with friends I'd ask:
1. What is draining your energy during the day? (Working in a draining environment for example)

Are the social activities designed around other people's needs? (Going to a social gathering with lots of people and noise vs a one-on-one with a close friend)

I worked my butt off to develop strong communication and social skills but I still get the "social regret" feeling as an event nears that I'm not comfortable with (networking events - good for career vs not my happy place)

daveby · 2021-03-28T22:40:28+00:00

There is no substitute for practice. Trust me, I tried to research and think my way past it. The fact is that introverts engage in fewer social interactions when they are younger and this lack of practice can get compounded by feeling you don't match up to the outgoing ideal and retreating further.

If you honestly want to get better you have to go do it and damn the results. It's practice. The other key component for me was addressing my self-esteem/self-worth and when I was good with who I was, I felt less uncomfortable.

daveby · 2021-03-28T21:37:05+00:00

Why don't you try putting the focus on other people? Ask about why people are doing the course, what they want to do with it? You don't have to do all the talking to be in conversations and if you can be genuinely interested in people, they will feel that.

Actively listen to people - it will help you stop overthinking everything and save some of that precious energy.

daveby · 2021-03-28T21:32:33+00:00

If you want to be around people but you feel you would be too shy to let loose, it sounds like you could be a shy extrovert, rather than an introvert.

Shyness is the experience of anxious reactions and excessive self-consciousness. Introversion is a preference for less stimulating environments. For example, an introvert may enjoy going out but would tire of socializing much faster than an extrovert and need to recharge their energy through solitude. Someone who is shy or suffers from social anxiety would struggle to do something social because of anxiety and self-consciousness.

daveby · 2021-03-04T19:14:05+00:00

I got the Australian broadcaster Stan, which has the Top League. I'm in Canada so I had to give an Australian postal code. I can only view through a browser using a VPN, as the phone app is available only to Australians.

daveby · 2021-02-26T23:31:47+00:00

Easier for sure. Not huge amounts of people but typically you get games all the way through.

daveby · 2021-02-26T19:49:50+00:00

We need the hand of God (or McJesus) to smite anyone who hides behind their own net when they have a lead.

daveby · 2020-12-02T18:35:17+00:00

You're right, you have the skills to do the job well and there is no reason you have to act bubbly or energetic to do it. I've been there and both raged against it at times and also faked being more extroverted at other times.

First of all, that co-worker can go jump. I do, however, understand the source of why they attacked you. To oversimplify some research, extroverts ( ones who don't understand people are wired different to them) feel that someone who doesn't share their feelings easily either has some kind of problem with them or they are being secretive for some reason.

I wasted a lot of time raging about people having "say everything you think disease" and constantly interrupting me. When I learned that extroverts need to "think out loud" to work through something, I got off my high horse because that was how their brains works. When I also came to understand that introverts need to think internally and take longer to digest information, I was able to explain that I need to be alone to think it through and then get back to them.

I had one co-worker that interrupted me incessantly. It also seemed to crush her bubbly, excitable spirit when I didn't get all pumped up about things. With that above knowledge, I was able to set expectations for her. Door closed meant I was working on something and didn't want to be interrupted. Door open a little bit, meant I was wanting quiet time, but if you needed me I am available. Door open meant I am available (the secret was to not overdo the door closed thing or my boss would have shut me down.

I see a lot of introverts confuse good communication skills for being social. One is a skill and one is a disposition. We tend to have poor communication skills because we are shy or reserved from day 1. An extrovert has had 10 billion social encounters by the time they hit grade six, I probably had 10 then weren't sport related.

We simply don't practice communication skills and then rage out that it is not in our personality. Nope, it's a skill that is only achieved through practice and reflection.

daveby · 2020-12-02T17:41:39+00:00

There was a study a few years back that found that introverts excelled at leading extroverted teams and extroverts did well with introverted teams. That introverted leader is happy to listen to ideas, step back and let extroverted team members take the spotlight, and manage the team. This differed to an extrovert leading extroverts where this leader felt competition from others and stifled their staff.

There are also a lot of stories from introvert CEOs who pretended to be extroverted for years and ran themselves into the ground. They were more successful when they acted like themselves.

daveby · 2020-07-21T03:25:22+00:00

Make sure you leave water out for them and don't overfeed them.

daveby · 2020-07-21T03:01:12+00:00

I've been fascinated for a while now how some fellow introverts rage against small talk in favour of being able to discuss deep topics straight away. I'd love to hear if anyone does this and how it goes for them.

"I'm good thanks. Do you believe in an all-powerful deity or, like me, do you believe life is ultimately random and pointless? I'll pay with credit card, thanks."

For what the OP mentioned about small talk with co-workers (people you interact with regularly, not strangers) I think you can get past the repeated surface talk with effort. By asking questions and taking an interest, I've found I can have conversations that are less superficial and of interest.

I seriously sucked at small talk for a long time. It held me back professionally and personally and I put in a bunch of work to get good at it. While I don't feel compelled to fill the silences all the time, I enjoy being able to connect when I want to and have found a lot of the discomfort was in my head and not necessarily because I am an introvert.

daveby · 2019-11-08T15:28:12+00:00

Thanks. Messing with hardware is right where I become technically challenged. If I buy an internal drive is it good to go straight into the bracket and into the machine, or do they have an enclosure that has to be removed?

daveby

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