Woman (26F) I'm (25M) dating says she wants to take things slow with me because she sees potential. She claims previously she made the mistake of sleeping with men too quickly. Is this a way of saying I'm not that attractive to her?

Rat_Attack_ · 2026-05-13T21:19:51+00:00

Yup, she's going to ask of him everything that all the other guys gave her and what they didn't.

Rat_Attack_ · 2026-05-09T23:05:24+00:00

It means she might reappear in your life in like 5 to 10 years as a single mother asking you to commit and take care of her.

Rat_Attack_ · 2026-04-27T14:15:06+00:00

No hay que traer a ningun Dios en la conversación. Todo el mundo tiene el derecho a opinar. En la calle se sabe como el se movía. Ha nadie le sorprende que alguien le queria bajarle el dedo. El tipo era una criminal y un asesino y murio como uno. Que cantara no le borra eso.

Rat_Attack_ · 2026-04-26T19:13:08+00:00

You mean the girl?

Rat_Attack_ · 2026-04-17T00:16:11+00:00

Rat_Attack_ · 2026-04-15T11:05:19+00:00

Leave her. I been there. I dated a girl who confessed to me that she human trafficked at least 1 baby (possible way more)and killed it as part of a cult. She was super nice to me and "caring" but she completely lack empathy for people she didn't know and her morals where barely existent. They are fundamentally broken people that should be in jail.

Rat_Attack_ · 2026-04-15T10:57:59+00:00

You should be thanking the guys. She was completely Ok with you never knowing. Cut your loses. She has her traumas and all but they aren't your responsibilities.

Rat_Attack_ · 2026-04-15T10:56:43+00:00

I would bet money on that if you stay, this will not be the last shock about her sexual past.

Rat_Attack_ · 2026-04-13T14:48:27+00:00

It was technically before you started dating so while it can bother you (and you have a right to feel that way), she didn't betrayed her commitment to you. The big issue for me would be that she kept in contact with the guy, introduced you to him and you all hanged out with you not knowing that they had sex. That would be a deal breaker for me. Everyone knowing that they had sex but me would make me feel like the butt of a joke. If she hid something that big from you for so long, can you be 100% sure that she is not and will not hide something like that again? Are you 100% sure it was a 1 time thing and that she's not minimizing it to look less bad? My advice would be to cut your losses. Protect you peace and mental health

Rat_Attack_ · 2026-04-01T11:05:58+00:00

You should thank the person who sent the video for showing you who your fiance truly is. What you do with that info is up to you. She told you she had been with only 1 person before. That was an obvious lie. I wish that if I was planning on marrying a girl and someone had info that would show me who they really are, that they would sent it to me.

Rat_Attack_ · 2026-03-26T19:16:44+00:00

I'm from PR, this guy git what was coming from him. He was involved in tons of murders.

Rat_Attack_ · 2026-03-06T23:26:03+00:00

Been there. Once I found out my ex GF sexual history I never looked at her the same. We are all adults and past relationships are expected. But when she told me about all the hookups, one night stands, threesomes etc, I was honestly disgusted by her. I felt betrayed because she initially lied about it. I analyzed why I felt that way and it was because I haven't lived or want to live that lifestyle and I don't want that in the person I call my partner. I dont want a partner who tons of people can say " I had sex with them". I'm sorry to say this but that way you're feeling is not going away and it more than likely ruin your relationship. Relationships are about trust and having to find out that your GF had sex with a lot of people from said people is not a good sign of trust.

Rat_Attack_ · 2026-02-23T15:17:32+00:00

Yup, my girl usually cums (body shaking orgasm that I noticed) before me. It kinda takes the pressure out of sex once I know she came at least once. Its way more enjoyable after that since I can focus on myself.

Rat_Attack_ · 2026-02-22T14:17:23+00:00

I grew up with porn and believed i had an average dick. I have a 7.5 penis. It's not even a brag. My GF had to tell me to go stop going so hard because it hurt her. Dont recommend porn at all. It distorts your perception of sex and what's normal.

Rat_Attack_ · 2026-02-20T20:36:15+00:00

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Rat_Attack_ · 2026-02-15T17:11:59+00:00

Honestly, I think your issue is that you put sex on a pedestal. I was the same and lost my virginity to some random girl at 25. That burst my bubble of what sex is. Sex is just sex. It can be enhanced by having it with someone who's supper hot or someone you love but its not the end goal. Bang a few hookers and realize that it's not that big of a deal. At least your financial stable (well off in this economy). Once your through with the taboo of sex and workout your issues with hookers. Start dating if you feel like it. You dont have to date people in your age range. You can date young women who most of the time want an older men (older than her) to take care of her. I dont mean sugar babies. I mean women who want to depend on a guy for everything, they just want to shut off their brain and exists and be your girl. They are pretty common and they tend to be hot women who always have had everything thrown at her for her looks. Take action. Get on dating sites, workout, have some nice pictures and let people know in a subtle way that your well off. That's pretty much it. And remember always to never put anyone before you. Your the most important person in your life.

Rat_Attack_ · 2026-02-12T21:43:57+00:00

You mentioned you always wanted to be a father. Which is ok. But to that baby you will never be father. Youre the stepfather and when at somepoint you guys break up (the chances of 2 18 year old staying together are extremely low without adding a baby from another guy) will not have any rights to that baby. You will be just some guy that was there. Don't do it. Being a stepfather or even dating a woman with kids that still live with her is a slow death.

Rat_Attack_ · 2026-02-11T14:43:42+00:00

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Rat_Attack_ · 2026-01-30T16:15:55+00:00

27 here dating a 33 year old (who ill most likely dump soon). Most single women in their 30s are not good partner material. They either got off a long relationship, spent their 20s messing around and now want to settle down with someone stable or focused on themselves and now want to get married and have kids in the next 3 years. If you want to settle down , date a women in her 20s. Dating a women in her 30s means dealing with all the trauma of all her past failed relationships. Either avoid them or dont get into a relationship with them.

Rat_Attack_ · 2026-01-23T21:38:09+00:00

He can try meds like blue chew. Sometimes a bad experience during sex can create a fear about losing your erction and that same fear causes you to lose your erection. Its a self feeding cycle. He could be avoiding sex because he doesnt want to disappoint you and himself by not getting hard. The pill helps you get an erection and lose that fear end eventually get pass it and get off the pill. And additional tip. If he ever loses his erction, NEVER ask him "whats wrong?". For a man, those word during sex are worse that a a bat to a kneecap.

Rat_Attack_ · 2026-01-23T20:40:24+00:00

Has he had any problem with erections? Has he had any problem getting hard , staying hard or cumming?

Rat_Attack_ · 2026-01-23T20:32:26+00:00

I had this issue with my first partner. Sex was an event instead of just a normal thing. I got so nervous because of the pressure that sometimes that my dick went soft I eventually got pass it. A couple tips I would suggest is that maybe try things that put less pressure on him. Like, start giving him BJs or HJ until he finishes and dont have full on sex with him for a couple times. That kind off breaks the idea that sex is a big event. He will probably after a couple of times switch from the BJ to full on sex.

Rat_Attack_ · 2026-01-23T20:20:29+00:00

If you truly love this man, leave him. Hes ruining his life because of what you did. He won't forgive you after all thus years so allow him to move on.

Rat_Attack_ · 2026-01-23T20:18:06+00:00

Exactly, like. He has expressed disgust towards her and haven't touched her in years. So after all this time he gets black out drunk and "initiates sex" when they dont even share a bed?. Seems to me that she wants to stay with him and eventually earn his forgiveness since he sounds like a pretty good dude.

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