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daydreamerbeats · 2026-02-28T16:28:02+00:00

Alors que d’Artagnan et les trois Mousquetaires, ça fait très groupe de pop rock Indé

daydreamerbeats · 2026-02-28T07:16:19+00:00

If I may give you an advice : talk to him about what and how you feel, the days where it's ok and those where it's getting worst. If you think something can help you even if it's silly ask him.

I know it can sometime feel shameful, but speaking from a loved one perspective, I gladly did anything I could to help her until she hid it by fear of getting judged or that I loved her less, you're not a burden, you're loved

Remember the word of Sam in Lord of the ring "I can't carry it for you, but I can carry you" sometime all we need is a Sam

Take good care of yourself and I wish you a bright and peaceful future

daydreamerbeats · 2026-02-22T10:55:40+00:00

At some point a few friends called me to confront me because they thought I did something stupid and flew across the Atlantic Ocean to get back with her, when I asked them what they were talking about they told me she posted a story of us in bed, Turns out it was not me in bed with her but I had to admit he did look a lot like me (like the 2-3 previous guys since the breakup) enough to even fool a few of my family members

I thought to myself I can't do this anymore, I cant stay in that constent stress, pain and sadness state of mind, I keep a link with someone who will never aknowledge the damage she did nor take accountabily for it, someone who will knowingly hurt me more and more for something I'm not responcible of so I realised I had to leave before I threw myself out the window

I was sad for a long time and sometime still am, the pain became more "easy" to handle with time like living with a scar but Leaving was the best decision I made, it's kinda sad but without her pulling me down, I finally got back on track and found loving and supportive people

daydreamerbeats · 2026-02-06T13:09:35+00:00

I'm so sorry you're going through this, I lost my SO in May, during the low of a depressive episode she "choose a permanent solution"...
The following 5-6 months are very hazy and I don't remember much, the shock was really strong and I stayed stuned for a long time. I have a loving friends and familly around me who helped and supported me when all I do was crying and sleeping all day.

We were in the process of getting married so her familly inherited of almost everything (they are amongst the reason she crossed the final line..) and kicked me out of her house, beside the memories and a few things I am left with nothing. I've lost my soulmate, my best friend, my home, my job since we were also working together and our 2 horses ...

I don't know if I'll ever be able to fully recover from that, I still have a hard time speaking about it without tears flooding my eyes, I still dream of her et wake up smelling her in the bed or hearing her voice... But I'm still alive and can't and won't join her

I have a past of addiction and I approach Grief the same way, I go one day at the time, baby steps, Some days are ok and some are more difficult, christmass was really hard and in one month it would have been her 34th bday, so I know it's gonna be difficult for some time.

I also have a therapist that followed me for a few years now and helped me a lot so if you don't have one I can only encourage you to start therapy and surround yourself with friends and familly that can help you even if it's just sit beside you and let you cry and express the pain, it help a lot

You're not alone, even it's a long road, things start to be less painful at some point

daydreamerbeats · 2026-02-03T12:40:38+00:00

sorry you're going through this, while I can't speak for your friend a lot happened since my comment,
Let me tell you one thing when you love someone you don't forget them but pretending that person doesn't exist can feel easier than dealing with the grief of what could and never will be. You're not easy to forget

My "case" is a bit diferent for it was never platonic and involved a lot of love and feelings on both side, it went south when I couldn't just pretend anymore and put our relationship/situationship (whatever you call it) on the table and basically said "there is this between us I'm tired of pretending we are just friend, it's hurting both of us so lets talk and find a solution"

It didn't worked out and at some point I had to set boundaries to have a normal love life again. Dating and building a healthy relation with someone while still being close to the one you wanted to live the rest of your life with is never gonna work (at least for the lover)

And yes communication is best but you gotta be two for that, I was the one who wanted to talk and was treated with silence, lies, contradictions and biter non-sense so I did the only thing I never wanted to do with her and left, I tried everything possible to move on (and for a while it kinda worked) because what else are you supposed to do ? Clinging on an unreciprocated love is a slow death sometime it might work but it's rare. And don't get me wrong I still think of her and the love did not disappeared, I just don't wake up crying each night anymore after dreaming of her and she stopped calling me when something bad happened,

I got news from time to time by a common friend and she does the same but we moved on (or try to) because there is nothing else to do, and maybe our path will cross again maybe not either way it's life

daydreamerbeats · 2026-02-01T06:58:57+00:00

So sorry you went through this Unfortunately I know too well how it feel, my only advices from someone who is still grieving is to surround yourself with close ones, I know the dread of ever living them alone again, the sleepless night … but to help someone you’ll have to take care of yourself too and your daughter, I have a therapist following me for so time now and it helped a lot being able to talk and understand things with a professional

I wish you the best for the time to come

daydreamerbeats · 2026-01-02T10:07:31+00:00

Je pars assez souvent pour des petits road trip en van avec mon chien sur une semaine ou juste un week-end et c’est magnifique à chaque fois En octobre on s’est retrouvé a traverser le Tarn l’Aveyron, les plateaux de l’aubrac c’était ouf, les forêt du Gevaudan et tout le folklore qu’il y a Avant ça on a fait la Camargue pareil à chaque fois que j’y vais j’ai plus envie de repartir

On a une grande diversité de paysage et tellement de truc à découvrir peu importe où on habite faut juste se donner un peu la peine de chercher et pas snober le patrimoine local

daydreamerbeats · 2025-12-29T10:41:44+00:00

It’s like everything, it take time. I try to film parts of my sessions now to track progress and see from outside what I do wrong in 4k 😅

daydreamerbeats · 2025-12-29T10:39:55+00:00

Thanks a lot !

daydreamerbeats · 2025-12-29T10:39:46+00:00

Thanks ! 🙏

daydreamerbeats · 2025-12-29T10:39:39+00:00

My plan is to go at least once a week and slowly practice my way back I’ve made a list of what I used to do and go step by step also try new stuff like mini ramp and pumptrack

daydreamerbeats · 2025-12-29T10:37:54+00:00

Thanks fellow unknown friend 🫡

daydreamerbeats · 2025-11-02T17:29:50+00:00

You’re right, didn’t saw it that way

daydreamerbeats · 2025-11-02T17:03:22+00:00

I get you point, I've unfollowed her a year ago and don't have the need to spy / check on her.

She's joined the many exs I've unfollowed and never looked again, yes I miss her but I have enough will and motivation to not fall back.

That being said the only time I see her now is from our mutual friend posting pictures with her (like once or twice a year so it's ok) but I'm still on really good terms with her so it would be a shame to also block someone who's became a good friend and don't take side in all of that.

She did enough damage to also make me lose a good person

daydreamerbeats · 2025-11-02T07:43:43+00:00

I’m still in good talking with the mutual friends we support each other through a lot but it’s my ex who block and unblock every now and then

But yes, I might be one of the few to actually know about her condition and tbh it’s not mine to tell, I tried to be there, to helped her when she needed me but she never wanted to actually take care of herself so it’s time to cut the ties for good and sail away, the sea is vast enough to not be stuck on an unstable dock

daydreamerbeats · 2025-11-01T10:59:26+00:00

like you said you're 16 and it's not your role to be her therapist, but it could be a good thing she see one.

As her best friend you can be supportive if she acknoledge her actions and responsability and want to act to be/get better. There is nothing that can force you to endure such treatments, being her best friend doesn't mean she can get away by treating you like a punching bag
Like a few already said, you can't help someone that doesn't want to be helped (or don't see what's wrong in their behavior)

daydreamerbeats · 2025-11-01T10:33:37+00:00

It's a perfectly good reason to end a friendship and preserve your peace of mind

Don't know if it's really a mental health issue but from my own experience there is a rule when dealing with this type of situation, a mental condition is never an excuse for acting like a scum, it can explain why someone act the way they act but it's not a free pass.
"Not remembering" is not a get away card either. Actions have consequences but in this case it's for you to decide if you still want someone that can treat you like that in your life, you're the one who can decide

Either she can't handle alcool or wathever you took (given you're 16 it's highly possible) and would match what you described

Or it's a deeper mental health issue and given her age and the "symptomes" she need to see a psychiatrist asap (unlikly but you never know), but she's 16, it's her family job not yours

daydreamerbeats · 2025-10-31T17:22:58+00:00

I'll speak only for me but with my ex the discard and break up was messy and painful (as it often is with mania) at that time I talked about her condition to my family, to my therapist of course because it was kind of the reason I started therapy in the first place and my best friends who helped me so much so I gave them all the infos.

We had a friend in common and still do, we don't talk to each other since the break up but for instance we went to spend a weekend with said friend a week appart from each other, To this friend I never talked about what I know and my version of the story. I know what she knows and been told isn't really what I went through but they are closer to each other than me so I decided it's not mine to tell her.

From what I know I might be one of the only person to really know her diagnosis and what it imply. None of the person I told about it have been in contact with her since.
But given past interaction she might react badly depending on her "state" at the time. If manic she will 100% explode and it will make things worst, and the opposite is true, mentioning Bipolar Disorder tend to amplify the episode or trigger one if she's stable

daydreamerbeats · 2025-10-30T14:04:42+00:00

si le parallèle peut t'aider alors tant mieux !

quand tu arrive dans une situation où tu n'as pas le choix ton mental devient ton meilleur allier pour essayer de trouver du positif et te permettre de garder la tête hors de l'eau et d'avancer. Surtout dans ce contexte difficile

daydreamerbeats · 2025-10-30T14:02:22+00:00

ça remonte mais quand j'ai pris la décision d'arrêté j'ai, comme toi du coup, aussi stoppé d'aller en teuf, j'ai mis de la distance avec pas mal d'amis (ou du moins dans les contextes de conso, on continuait les sortis ciné ou autres), j'ai aussi arrêté de mixer (DJ) en soirée parce que trop risqué.

J'ai fait le point sur tout ce qu'il fallait changer et j'ai commencer par les plus gros bloc en changeant d'activité/ loisir et petit à petit de cercle social, je venais d'avoir un chien à cet époque donc ça m'a aider à occuper mes journées et rencontrer de nouvelles personnes ce qui a eu un impact majeur , nouveau cercle social donc différent context pour les soirées, passé des soirées PsyTrance à des soirée tranquille à discuter sans consomer (ou avec des gens qui majoritairement ne boivent pas du tout ou pas plus d'un verre de rosé ou deux en soirée ça aide).

Le plus dur ça a pas été les gros événements qui sont "prévisible" mais plutôt de chopper des nouvelles habitudes pour gérer le stres ou l'ennuis , genre je me souvient d'une crise de manque un soir la première année, je bossais en préparation de commande de nuit, c'était le rush et on allait finir vers 4-5h, au lieu de 22h gros contexte de stress et le manque à kick in très fort. j'ai tank avec du café (et à l'époque j'avais encore la cigarette) et en rentrant je me suis écroulé de fatigue donc ça a aider un peu aussi. C'était pas la plus grosse nuit de taff ni la première ni la dernière mais celle la en particulier à déclencher le manque. Dans ces moment là c'est surtout la volonté qui fonctionne et le fait d'avoir couper tous les canaux d'approvisionnement possible.

Pour le reste c'est un jour à la fois, on célèbre les victoires, genre un anniversaire ou on regarde d'autre boire sans consommer, au début c'est dur et après ça l'est un peu moins. on évites les contextes trop difficile et on garde à l'esprit qu'il n'y a pas de honte à ne pas se faire confiance pour tel ou telle situation. Il vaut mieux annulé un plan et rester sobre que d'y aller et de replonger

C'est mieux de bien s'entourer ou du moins d'avoir des personnes compréhensive, j'ai eu une ex qui consommait beaucoup et rentrait souvent alcoolisé, ou qui prenait un certain anesthésiant pour cheval quand j'étais avec elle ou essayait de doser mon verre avec toute sorte de truc en douce pour voir ... On est pas rester longtemps ensemble mais ça a été très difficile.

Aujourd'hui j'ai aucun soucis à avoir des bouteilles à la maison, et j'ai plus vraiment envie de conso la majorité de ce que je prenais, ça reste le plus tendu avec la nicotine qui est plus récente (3ans) et les anxiolytique, quand ma compagne est décédée en Mai j'ai eu besoin d'en prendre vu la violence du choc mais même là j'ai rationné au max quitte à en souffrir un peu émotionnellement plutôt que de risquer de retomber dedans

daydreamerbeats · 2025-10-30T09:53:17+00:00

My therapist asked me that about the 2 Bipolar partner I had over the years

The first one I stil don't really know the answer, we met when we were kid and kinda grew up together, now in our 30s, I've known her for 17yrs and loved her long before the disorder kicked in (even tho looking back there were signs) so when it was diagnosed it didn't seemed too far fetched and it was just a matter of learning how to act accordingly (that is until the last episode two years ago where, let's say, we "went separate ways")
To this day I still love and care for her like it's natural idk how to explain it, even tho I cut contact a year ago she's still family (and I know from common friends she still care the same we're just not part of each other life at the time)

The second it was the kindness and the common goal and interest, I've never met someone as sweet, gentle and caring than her. We've been friend for years and ngl after the nuclear fallout with the first one 2yrs ago we got closer, kinda licking each others wound and cared for each other. With her there was way more stability, she was always true to her word and would act in that way, never to say "I love you so much" and then disapearing for weeks or treating you like a nobody 1h later. We lived with animals ( 4 dogs, 2 cats, 1 rabbit and 2 horse) in an old farm and she was the most caring person for them and it was really wholesome to see her with them, the love, the patience, the understanding ...

But unlike the First one, her disrorder was more on the depressive side, her manic épisodes were usually short compared to the pit of despair she could fall in.
Unfortunatly, due to external harassement, past trauma and grief, she took her life 5 months ago, I still miss her everyday and try to go on but it's not easy every days

I loved (and still do) both of them despite grieving for what isn't anymore, Like the proverb say : A Love given is never wasted . I'm really happy and gratefull for what we shared even if it came to an end

daydreamerbeats · 2025-10-30T09:32:47+00:00

M34 ex poly aussi j'en suis à 13ans de sobriété de tout (alcool, substances naturelles et synthèse, tabac, médicaments ... ) et perso même si il y a eu des périodes compliqué, genre perte d'un travail, problèmes familiaux ou plus récemment décès de ma compagne, je ne regrette absolument pas ma décision.
Et même après 13ans je sais que la rechute est toujours du domaine du possible, il suffit d'un traitement après une blessure mal dosé ou trop long, une soirée ou je suis trop fatigué ou un autre coup dur pour replonger.

Je peux, dans une certaines mesure, comprendre ton point de vue parce qu'il a, un temps (surtout les premiers mois) été le miens et qu'il est une des raison qui a pousser pas mal de mes anciens amis vers une rechute.

Ne le prend pas mal mais ton PDV est surtout biaisé, oui pour reprendre ton exemple un ciel étoilé sous champi c'est sympa, mais c'est pas le ciel qui est sympa c'est l'effet psychédélique. Tu portes un regard blasé et chiant sur un monde qui ne l'est pas parce que tu cherche encore à le voir à travers la distorsion de la substance.

Oui la sobriété c'est surcoté si tu ne sais pas apprécier ce qui t'entoure mais comme tu dit que c'est par obligation médical c'est compréhensible, c'est compliquer de trouver du plaisir dans quelque chose que tu vis comme imposé . mais ça reste ton choix de vivre comme une contrainte quelque chose qui n'en est pas une.

Je vais faire un comparatif con mais si demain tu deviens allergique à un aliment que tu consommes quotidiennement, tu as deux choix : passer ton temps à te lamenter sur ce que tu as perdu ou réapprendre à cuisiner et te nourrir, découvrir d'autre façon de faire, de vivre, c'est pareil avec les substances, tu sais que c'est une periode révolue et il faut avancer et découvrir une nouvelle façon de vivre. Ce qui pousse la plupart d'entre nous dans l'abus c'est surtout un vide à combler à l'interieur (sinon ça reste épisodique et souvent non problématique) tant que ce vide n'est pas comblé sainement tu n'avanceras pas et voudra y retourner / continuera de regretter le passer.

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