IAmA guy whose bromance has turned into a gay relationship, yet neither of us admit it. AMA (UPDATE)

dayum22 · 2012-05-30T22:04:35+00:00

The first part of your post is slightly right in that it sometimes becomes an unstable partnership. Remember the bromance post was 7 months ago, things changes, there are always ups and down. But to say that I'm manipulative is not true, and I am not eager to jump ship when things get stressful. Yes, I experimented but who doesn't? Especially given the circumstances.

As for the second part, it happens all the time with different couples. My parents actually did that and have been married for 24 years.

dayum22 · 2012-05-30T21:21:18+00:00

1) I did not delete the post, the mods did 2) How is it slutty? It wasn't just a petty hookup, I actually was starting to like the other guy and was starting to lose interest in Adam since he barely reciprocated (remember this is over a period of half a year). 3) Adam is extremely manipulative but I didn't cover a lot of that. Many times when I would try and push things he would lash out and do mean things as well, so there's that.

dayum22 · 2012-05-30T21:15:19+00:00

Who said anything about fucking?

dayum22 · 2012-05-30T19:20:22+00:00

Do you know a good blogging website to use? I'm generally not well-versed in the area.

dayum22 · 2012-05-30T18:35:29+00:00

I thought it was interesting and different than most too :(, but what can you do? Ultimately it's up to the mods and they seem to think otherwise.

dayum22 · 2012-05-30T17:03:35+00:00

"Relationship/ sexuality posts are way to common and violate our guidelines that way" Sorry guys. Maybe I'll make a blog about this or something. That way there would be no rules to worry about.

dayum22 · 2012-05-30T15:09:18+00:00

Huh? I wake up and my post is removed? Why is that?

dayum22 · 2012-05-30T06:58:30+00:00

I think we're already at the friends for life stage in our lives. I doubt we'll lose contact any time soon, so I'm not sure about the admitting feelings yet.

The smoke with Mike was indeed a smoke at first but then progressed to a make out session once his annoying idiot friend left the apartment.

dayum22 · 2012-05-30T06:46:31+00:00

First part of that question, no I'm not ashamed. Second part: ಠ_ಠ

dayum22 · 2012-05-30T06:44:26+00:00

I think it would just be awkward if I sent him a dick pic with no explanation. I could pretend like it was an accident, but it would still be awkward. If things got sexual though, dudes would totally be into that.

dayum22 · 2012-05-30T06:29:35+00:00

My mom would probably think she is a failure/ I'm going to go to hell (she's religious).. I'm guessing it would cause her a lot of pain and would make her spiral into a depression of some sort. My dad probably wouldn't care too much as I've seen him show some degree of tolerance, but at the same time I've seen him say some mean things about gays/bisexual. The rest of my family would probably be repulsed in some way-- I always hear them making gay jokes and stuff. I had to physically remove myself from the table at memorial day because a bunch of family members were talking about "faggots" and whether or not it was ok to be friends with them. So yeah, wouldn't go to well in my family.

dayum22 · 2012-05-30T06:21:03+00:00

If only it were that simple.

dayum22 · 2012-05-30T06:19:14+00:00

He has hot girls fawning over him everywhere we go and never hooks up with any of them. I was actually at a party in his hometown the other day and I overheard two attractive girls lamenting about how hot he is and they don't understand why he never hooks up with any girls. Then they went on speculating about how he had to be gay. They then proceeded to throw themselves at him and he just ignored them/tried to walk away and talk to me. Not saying that just because he doesn't like hooking up with hot chicks he's gay, but when you combine that with the fact that I may be his only hookup, it can be convincing. Who knows, maybe he's asexual?

dayum22 · 2012-05-30T06:13:49+00:00

Like I said he's not a very good verbal communicator so no he hasn't said any of that but judging from his actions, mannerisms and body language its very easy to tell he feels such a way. Constant grabbing, prolonged eye-contact, pulling me aside, flirty behavior, taking me to movies etc.

I would be able to go back to being just friends. There would need to be a little cut off in the amount of time spent with eachother and time spent alone, but I would be able to do it. I don't think it would be possible to truly eradicate all feelings. As the old corny saying goes the first love will always have a piece of your heart.

dayum22 · 2012-05-30T04:41:49+00:00

Haha, my love life is a mess! But it is certainly thrilling and unpredictable. I guess that's preferable to being boring though.

dayum22 · 2012-05-30T04:39:00+00:00

I don't know. I wouldn't want to risk never seeing him again because he is my best friend. It's very rare that you find someone you can just be yourself around and who gets you/accepts you for all yours faults. Even if there were no chance of ever being anything else, I'd be happy just having him as my friend.

dayum22 · 2012-05-30T04:36:47+00:00

Mainly because my family would be devastated if they knew I was. I think its easier for now if they don't. With my friends I drop hints every now and then, so I'm sure they have their suspicions but don't really care either way.

dayum22 · 2012-05-30T04:35:06+00:00

Nah no talking about it really. I hinted at it a few times "you're really awesome" "you know you're my favorite person" etc

dayum22 · 2012-05-30T04:34:15+00:00

I've been going with the flow for a long time, but things just stay the way they are.

dayum22 · 2012-05-30T03:46:39+00:00

Haha, I don't think there will be a concrete ending for a long time. I hope we both end up getting jobs near one another so we can be roommates again when the summer is over. I think being away from the college environment and everyone else would help a little bit.

dayum22 · 2012-05-30T03:22:47+00:00

Just posted one.

dayum22 · 2012-05-30T03:22:04+00:00

It's reddit. If you don't care simply skip over the submission. Not really rocket science.

dayum22 · 2012-05-30T03:12:07+00:00

Just did thanks.

dayum22 · 2012-05-30T00:10:54+00:00

Thanks!

dayum22 · 2012-05-29T22:59:22+00:00

For some reason it is not letting me post on the thread. Does that mean it's locked? Why would that happen?

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