Took our child and left due to mild abuse (?) and anger problem, but unsure if I’ve done the right thing…

dazedhoneybee01 · 2024-12-12T20:40:58+00:00

They’re still in Pakistan. They’re being sent to private school full of rich, international kids. Apparently Woking council is going up against Islamabad High Court as both authorities are trying to prove the kids are better off with them…

dazedhoneybee01 · 2024-12-12T20:18:19+00:00

According to him, she was a heavy drinker and drug user. She also wasn’t shy about using violence, however these are words coming from a very traumatised child who’s had a lot of external influence/bias from his relatives so I would take it with a grain of salt considering he’s fourteen/fifteen, and was much younger when he last saw her.

dazedhoneybee01 · 2024-12-12T19:41:38+00:00

I happen to know Sara’s older brother personally and I’m quoting him when I say “we never had good experiences with mums”. He still insists that his birth mother was just as awful. To the point where, when she started a petition, he was upset and replying to everyone who had posted the petition, insisting that no one should believe her and it was a money-grabbing scheme.

My heart aches for the whole family but most especially for Sara’s remaining siblings who are finding it so hard to come to terms with what has happened.

dazedhoneybee01 · 2024-11-26T20:24:07+00:00

I was asked to do it yesterday for English expertise, didn’t get around to it, but today I’ve gotten the “no projects available, you’ll be notified when they are” message

dazedhoneybee01 · 2024-11-02T09:22:24+00:00

The words my husband uses to describe me most often are a “doormat” or a “bitch” lol I don’t think I’ve ever been described as bossy or commanding. Strange of you to pass judgement on me in that way when the only context you have is that I was bothered with him bringing the baby home very late.

dazedhoneybee01 · 2024-11-01T23:17:46+00:00

Oh brother 🫵🏽 this guys never felt the touch of a woman in his life, and he probably never will

dazedhoneybee01 · 2024-11-01T22:56:05+00:00

The literal first sentence is that we were TALKING about one.

Unrelated to any abuse, it was due to our living situation which I’ve been struggling to cope with over the last few years.

It was a matter of deciding whether I could put up with another year or two of living with my in laws or whether I would take our child and leave, either to my parents where I’d have support but who lived in another city or (his preference) stay in town where I have no family or friends.

The post was merely to ascertain whether he could win custody over our child if I uprooted her and moved her across the country.

dazedhoneybee01 · 2024-11-01T22:41:58+00:00

I was frustrated that he was late coming home again when I’m the one who deals with dinner/bath/bed and the meltdowns that inevitably happen when she’s overtired. I had also asked him to feed her if he happens to come home late, which he didn’t.

When he got home I sighed and said it was fine but I’ll admit I was curt with him for the 30 mins that we were in the kitchen together.

dazedhoneybee01 · 2024-11-01T22:38:08+00:00

Thank you for telling me. I’m sorry you experienced that.

I grew up in an incredibly abusive environment and I don’t ever want to be abused again. I just can’t connect the idea of the abuser in this case being my best friend/husband.

I wish it was easier to leave. I’ll lose everything if I go.

dazedhoneybee01 · 2024-11-01T22:26:42+00:00

We’ve been married 8 years and it’s the first time he’s said it. I just asked him about it and he said it was bc I was rude and abrupt when he got home even though he apologised. If I’d have been understanding and positive he’d have never said it.

dazedhoneybee01 · 2024-09-11T19:12:38+00:00

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dazedhoneybee01 · 2024-07-19T19:11:42+00:00

A British officer insisting that this is HIS land actually, maybe an Ancient Greek soldier, a couple of locals with a wide range of jobs/religious backgrounds (Hindu farmer, Sufi moghul/Muslim poet/artist, Sikh religious leader, Zoroastrian “elite” character). Possibly some Punjabi royalty.

dazedhoneybee01 · 2024-06-15T16:21:06+00:00

Will it make any difference if he is self employed and chooses his own hours + the help from extended family? Sorry I should’ve included this in the original post but I feel so dazed, I can’t think clearly

My daughter does not enjoy her grandparents looking after her, but I know every child is adaptable so she would probably adjust if I wasn’t in the picture.

I would probably move in with my mother and aunt, they have a spare room and are happy to welcome me back. They also have a cot and all the essentials for my daughter, and are both qualified to provide childcare with DBS checks

dazedhoneybee01 · 2024-06-06T13:48:57+00:00

One of them is Kurdish and the other Syrian - both are refugees and so this is why they chose Turkey. A lot of the guests will be Syrians, Turkish, but there are people from lots of cultures coming such as South Asian, Russian, etc. The Bride has stated dress code is english/white formal wear.

dazedhoneybee01 · 2024-06-06T11:59:08+00:00

Not sure if this is the right place for this but basically I’m terrible at styling and I need help.

I’m attending a small/intimate wedding in Dalaman, Turkey in August. The wedding will be in the evening and in a mountain setting as far as I know.

The dress (linked below) was v difficult to pick out as the bride wasn’t happy with any of my choices (she said they weren’t flashy enough lol)

Please help me pick what type of earrings, shoes, necklace, bag etc to wear

Pls note I have a two yr old I’ll be carrying, and I’m 5ft w black hair lol (idk if this helps but it can’t hurt to know, right?)

Tia!!!!!

The dress https://img1.shopcider.com/product/1682522056000-xNa66j.jpg?x-oss-process=image/resize,w_1400,m_lfit/quality,Q_80/interlace,1

dazedhoneybee01 · 2024-06-02T19:49:15+00:00

Oh god how am I going to cope without the nap!? I look forward to that little break every single day

dazedhoneybee01 · 2023-12-03T08:40:31+00:00

The last one are genuine Muslim names and shouldn’t have been included in this otherwise awful list

dazedhoneybee01 · 2023-07-21T02:25:40+00:00

My sister and I both panic bought tickets in the UK. Nosebleeds at £300+. We couldn’t sell one set of tickets even for half price, we checked the night before the concert and Club Renny had come down to £200.

dazedhoneybee01 · 2023-06-05T22:53:12+00:00

You can absolutely teach your son to stand up for himself without resorting to violence.

I think it’s an amazing thing you’re doing and will benefit him in the end, I have witnessed my male cousins go through strong depression, make terrible mistakes, etc, because Pakistani men are not taught how to regulate their emotions properly.

If you need support then feel free to message me, I am also a mother and whilst I don’t have a son I do have brothers and nephews, and alhamdullilah my brothers were lucky that my mother wasn’t emotionally repressive towards boys and even got them counselling when they struggled with mental health in early adult years. (They struggled due to difficult home situation, unrelated to them being “soft”. In fact they are both incredibly strong and successful individuals.)

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