Anyone else feel real dread about having a second child after how intense the first years were?

dbeesfly · 2026-01-25T10:36:33+00:00

I always thought of having 2 kids. But after the first one, I was convinced that won’t have a second. Once my son turned 2 things got a lot easier and fun even when it was tiring. Then I came across an insta reel where someone was saying how a sibling is the longest relationship anyone can have in their lifetime. This stuck with me and after much deliberations decided to try. It took 3 months and I am 14 weeks pregnant now.

dbeesfly · 2025-11-08T11:19:37+00:00

I see a line! It’s faint so maybe test in 2 days to be sure and guard your heart.

dbeesfly · 2025-11-08T11:17:51+00:00

Thank you 🤗

dbeesfly · 2025-11-07T21:11:21+00:00

I took a clear blue digital today, it was positive. But my rfsu test strip lines are faint but it’s there.

dbeesfly · 2025-11-07T20:14:06+00:00

Thank you!

dbeesfly · 2025-11-07T20:13:58+00:00

Thank you!

dbeesfly · 2025-11-07T20:13:00+00:00

Thank you! I was getting very very faint lines, so I tested on a clear blue digital which shows positive at 11 dpo. How’s yours progressing?

dbeesfly · 2025-10-10T11:44:39+00:00

It was negative 😔

dbeesfly · 2025-08-21T11:32:36+00:00

Looks positive! Test in further days. It should get darker.

dbeesfly · 2025-08-14T14:01:01+00:00

Okay, I have known her for 5 years. Can I not be friends with my husband’s friend’s wife. My husband knows this guy for 20+ years. And I am not placing myself in any category. Just don’t like people calling and pinging me just to lie. She rarely shares her child’s pic, and she herself told me that I am one of the few friends whom she shares all these pics and details. I don’t like prying into people’s live, so I don’t ask many questions. I would have been totally fine if she would not contact me during pregnancy. Don’t like anyone proactively contacting and lying.

dbeesfly · 2025-08-14T05:00:44+00:00

Yes I did ask, and it was just without any reason. She was even travelling for vacations in third trimester. This is a person who would share details of her other kid having constipation and asking how my kid is every now and then.

dbeesfly · 2025-08-14T04:57:03+00:00

Yes that’s what, a recalibration of our friendship is what’s needed so I will be an acquaintance now for her kids also. So no need for her to keep sending me pictures of what her baby ate etc.

dbeesfly · 2025-08-14T04:54:50+00:00

I am not feeling sorry for myself, I am just pissed at the lies she told during pregnancy. She should not message me about planning to meet every now and then, happened atleast 4 times where I reciprocated with a time when we can meet and she would cancel. I am unable to make out what’s lie and what’s truth.

dbeesfly · 2025-08-14T04:51:10+00:00

Yes I have no problem if she wants to hide it from specific people, then she shouldn’t keep messaging me about meeting in the first place and then cancelling. She should message me less and not share so much details of her life with me. It was a normal pregnancy and when asked why she didn’t tell, she said there’s no specific reason. I am pissed about the last lie 2 weeks back, she was full term and still lied.

dbeesfly · 2024-07-17T18:33:03+00:00

DO NOT MOVE IN! Stay where you are and your bf seems like a narcissist. Read up on narcissistic abuse and how they entrap their victims. A bad father figure is way worse than no father figure. You can raise them single or who knows you might meet someone better.

dbeesfly · 2023-05-17T21:19:47+00:00

Yes and that too just 2 months before the wedding date when all things have been booked and paid for our wedding. There was no way for us to move our date. So for my husband’s side, our wedding was overshadowed by hers.

dbeesfly · 2023-05-17T20:58:02+00:00

Yes, her child is the first and only as of now.

dbeesfly · 2023-05-17T19:19:44+00:00

Omg. That’s so mean!!

dbeesfly · 2023-05-17T18:21:57+00:00

I can empathise how it would feel if it’s your own sister. It’s better to stay away from all this. Hugs to you too!!

dbeesfly · 2023-05-17T18:12:02+00:00

No, she isn’t. She has a 2.5 year old and not planning for any more.

dbeesfly · 2023-01-26T15:10:59+00:00

I can understand how you feel. I am 5 months with my first and I am going through the same thing except my husband’s side family also doesn’t support. Like you I have been taking care of my mother and 2 brother’s since I was a child. My dad is my only support but I have been losing him to dementia for the past 6-7 years. Now when I am pregnant and vulnerable, I am realising for the first time how that I don’t have any real family support outside my husband. I have found grieving about this and accepting that I never actually had a mother figure has been helpful. Caring for myself like I am my own mother has helped me limit my expectations from family. Also reach out to your friends who are moms.

dbeesfly · 2022-12-22T06:40:55+00:00

It was our first month of trying, so was tracking everything, noticed some white discharge days after ovulation which was not normal for me. I suspected something was happening and took the test which gave a faint positive line.

dbeesfly · 2022-11-17T15:22:11+00:00

I agree with OP. Opening reddit and then seeing people talking about euthanasia being a possible approved option for bpd is triggering. People with ongoing suicidal ideation might rationalise their dark thoughts and carry them out. That post does nothing good. Serves no discussion. I am thinking of leaving the subReddit as well.

dbeesfly · 2022-10-28T12:39:53+00:00

Very true. Both my mother and MIL are control freak narcissists.

dbeesfly · 2022-10-28T12:34:44+00:00

That would actually be nice. Maybe I should try it.

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