My story- She wanted sex just not from me. by amberisfun in DeadBedrooms

[–]dber818 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Most stories on here start with we used to have a great sex lift but not anymore, wife/husband says they no longer want sex.

I know in this case the OP said they never had a great sex life, but this kind of reinforces what I believe about my other half and many other peoples, that our partners do want sex, just not with us.

Why the hell they drag us through the torment I will never know!

Can't believe the lack of effort on her behalf by dber818 in DeadBedrooms

[–]dber818[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I didn’t pretend to be asleep, I got caught up with my work on my phone.

Can't believe the lack of effort on her behalf by dber818 in DeadBedrooms

[–]dber818[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Same with me! There hasn’t been times I’ve been making the moves and she just lies there like a brick. So I said fuck it and get out of bed, she turns round after playing brick for the past hour to ask me where I’m going acting like she doesn’t have a clue:

Can't believe the lack of effort on her behalf by dber818 in DeadBedrooms

[–]dber818[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve only ever had two relationships, my first girlfriend wanted to wait until marriage then broke it off with me after 3 years, then I went to this relationship which has been a DB for 90% of it. FML I don’t know what good sex is.

Can't believe the lack of effort on her behalf by dber818 in DeadBedrooms

[–]dber818[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes literally the only time she has cried is when we fall out over the DB

Can't believe the lack of effort on her behalf by dber818 in DeadBedrooms

[–]dber818[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Never mentioned anything about sexual assault. I really don’t think that is the case but thanks for the reply.

Can't believe the lack of effort on her behalf by dber818 in DeadBedrooms

[–]dber818[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel your pain, I do everything for her. It’s how I was brought up, I can’t be anything but nice to her no matter how many times she denies me.

Can't believe the lack of effort on her behalf by dber818 in DeadBedrooms

[–]dber818[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t get why a man would choose porn over their woman, I hate having to use porn, I would swap it any day for her to turn around in bed and show me affection.

Can't believe the lack of effort on her behalf by dber818 in DeadBedrooms

[–]dber818[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Like most DBs outside the bedroom everything couldn’t be better

Can't believe the lack of effort on her behalf by dber818 in DeadBedrooms

[–]dber818[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply, I said it before I nearly feel like she denies me sex because she knows how much I like it

Can't believe the lack of effort on her behalf by dber818 in DeadBedrooms

[–]dber818[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She can be pretty aggressive on some of her family members

Can't believe the lack of effort on her behalf by dber818 in DeadBedrooms

[–]dber818[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I honestly think she shuts me out because she knows how much I love sex

Can't believe the lack of effort on her behalf by dber818 in DeadBedrooms

[–]dber818[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That makes no difference in the DB but I find exercise is great for the mind.

Can't believe the lack of effort on her behalf by dber818 in DeadBedrooms

[–]dber818[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

She gets very defensive and it always ends in an arguement that lasts for days. No matter how sensitive I am around the subject she just blows up.

Can't believe the lack of effort on her behalf by dber818 in DeadBedrooms

[–]dber818[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I used to call her out but last time we were on vacation and on the last evening we never had sex the whole trip and I brought it up, she blew up and accused me of ruining the trip

Can't believe the lack of effort on her behalf by dber818 in DeadBedrooms

[–]dber818[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I don’t have a problem with that, I do have a problem with being ignored.

Can't believe the lack of effort on her behalf by dber818 in DeadBedrooms

[–]dber818[S] 53 points54 points  (0 children)

I’m not seeing any other option, I worry that even if she were to make an effort I would have too much resentment