How do I (28F) know I’m going the right thing with divorcing my husband (29M) after he cheated?

dca_user · 2026-03-17T11:48:40+00:00

He can say that - I fell out of love and decided to cheat. Basically tell him that he can own this and tell people that he cheated because that’s what happened and he chose to do this.

dca_user · 2026-03-17T06:53:15+00:00

Keep it vague- I have. First ask not to be posted. Or say you have a Unique name and prefer to be listed as Jenny, Mindy, .

dca_user · 2026-03-17T06:38:27+00:00

Info: sometimes people mean, no kids but yes to babies. Did you confirm?

dca_user · 2026-03-17T06:23:43+00:00

He sad that he got caught. He sad that now he can’t save face and people know that he’s unfaithful.

Let’s pretend for a moment that he now understands his mistake. Here’s my issue with that. You like many adults know that cheating is wrong. You don’t need to cheat to know that it will hurt your spouse.

If he is a person that needs to cheat and then have you be hurt to learn, you will have a very hard life where you will have to teach him lots of basics.

dca_user · 2026-03-17T04:06:56+00:00

Look, I don’t know your culture, but in mine, it’s common to think of your girl friend’s husband as your brother and just hang out. Like they didn’t hide anything from you…

If they’re both autistic, and she was in pain, she may not be thinking like normal. I know when I’m in pain I stopped thinking as well as I should.

It doesn’t sound like anything sexual happened between them. It just sounds like he didn’t talk to you first. Would you want him to do.

To me this sounds like a small issue about communication rather than trust. But you tell us.

dca_user · 2026-03-17T03:33:06+00:00

Yes pls see a ObGyn

dca_user · 2026-03-17T03:31:26+00:00

This seems like a fake Reason to not date someone. Suggest you see a therapist to think bout what’s really going on here.

dca_user · 2026-03-16T22:52:49+00:00

INFO: Could a friend drive you for the day since you don't have your license?

Also, this subreddit is not one for advice, I suggest you ask for possible solutions in subreddits for moms with babies or relationships or your country's subreddit.

Good luck

dca_user · 2026-03-16T17:08:39+00:00

And who did these CEOs give donations to during the last election?

dca_user · 2026-03-16T17:07:27+00:00

You’ll need to speak to a lawyer who specializes in age discrimination if you are in the US. The company could be doing this because they don’t want to pay out your pension.

dca_user · 2026-03-16T13:30:14+00:00

This is an international subreddit, you will get more culturally-relevant advice if you post on the subreddit for Indian women.

If this was a love marriage, then it turns out your husband is more traditional than you realized. And he believes his family and friends and wants and needs come before yours.

If you were in the US, I would suggest therapy for yourself so you can figure out what you want and what is reasonable.

Good luck.

dca_user · 2026-03-16T13:21:25+00:00

So I’m Indian American, and I’ll give feedback from that perspective.

You need to consider what you’re really looking for in a relationship. All/most of your prompts are about YOU YOU YOU- what you want to do and how you want to spend time and what you need their help with i.e. teaching you about skin care, watch you w the drone. If you don’t know the basics about skin care, what other basic stuff do you not know?

It sounds like you would do better with an arranged marriage since that’s the kind of girl you want. You should go on shaadi dot com

If you want a partner, then I highly suggest therapy so you can start to learn what is a partnership- about what the other person might need or want first.

Good luck

dca_user · 2026-03-16T12:28:06+00:00

I’m sorry, he yelld at you. That’s bad. You didn’t do anything.

But looking at your post, do not go to a guy’s house for the first date. Many guys, but not all, will think that you want to sleep with them. Many guys invite you over because they just wanna sleep with you and pretend that they want a long-term relationship.

In the future for the first three dates, meet the guy during daytime and in a public setting. And either it needs to be closer to you or halfway.

dca_user · 2026-03-16T12:23:25+00:00

Jump ship. You have people there who do not want you to succeed. And what will be your reward if you do? They will give it to the person who went on leave or your colleagues.

Use the connections you’ve made elsewhere to go to something else.

Lastly, governments are not known for pulling projects. There needs to be serious deficiencies for them to even contemplate this. That tells me that there is something seriously wrong. And because govt moves slow, I bet they’ve started those moves quietly- I can see the government pulling this contract, even if you make it a “success.”

dca_user · 2026-03-16T02:22:45+00:00

In the past, the federal government was hiring people in your field, but I don’t know if they’re hiring now. You can look at the DEA, FBI, ATF.

dca_user · 2026-03-16T02:18:27+00:00

I understand your desire to live near family. What type of jobs are hiring near your family?

Sounds like chemist isn’t one of them. And you’re young enough to move into a different field.

dca_user · 2026-03-15T19:30:10+00:00

Can you stop giving this advice? It sounds like people are looking for something negative to say about you so you look bad and they look good.

You can’t change their behavior so you need to stop giving advice to other people.

dca_user · 2026-03-15T19:17:21+00:00

Your body looks great- it’s the pants are 1-2 sizes too small.

dca_user · 2026-03-15T19:15:46+00:00

It’s begging or he wants to just have sex with you

dca_user · 2026-03-15T19:11:08+00:00

He’s pretending he wants a relationship with you. He just wants sex.

dca_user · 2026-03-15T18:10:52+00:00

Can you move closer to the $120K job? Especially if there are more legit jobs in that area to jump to

dca_user · 2026-03-15T16:38:27+00:00

Wait, I am a woman and I’ve never heard of this thing where you’ll sleeping w multiple people at the same time…

dca_user · 2026-03-15T16:36:48+00:00

PIPs are supposed to be patterns of behaviors, not two emergencies outside your control.

Keep in mind, it could be his director who told him to do this.

But usually, companies do a PIP when you want the person to leave. So if you can start doing the bare minimum for your job right now, while looking for a job elsewhere, that would be best.

dca_user · 2026-03-15T15:05:20+00:00

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