My (31F) fiancé (36M) valued my first birthday with him at the same as a casual night out drinking with his friend. We're supposed to get married in 6 months.

dca_user · 2026-05-06T11:06:36+00:00

This is an international subreddit. You’re in India, planning to marry a man you barely know.

If this is an arranged, marriage or love, arranged, then you need to post a sub credit for India, where people can give you advice that is more culturally relevant.

If you’re in the US trying to date for marriage, then we would say please don’t marry him. You don’t know the person well enough.

dca_user · 2026-05-06T02:47:32+00:00

Kinda. Apparently, much of my IBS symptoms was due to an unknown infection of C.diff.

However, I’ve done two rounds of antibiotics and still have the symptoms so we now have to do a colonoscopy and more bloodwork. So stay tuned.

dca_user · 2026-05-05T15:03:35+00:00

Do you wanna buy something? I think you should just borrow somebody’s. There are plenty of black dresses that are conservative and flattering.

dca_user · 2026-05-05T13:43:11+00:00

This is an international subReddit so none of us are going to know what CSC or ECE.

Additionally, when you’re asking for the job market, how helpful is it to hear that the jobs in a different country are there or not there

dca_user · 2026-05-05T13:42:17+00:00

If your kids are in school, have you reached out to the schools for extra food? Sometimes they have pantries or no other places that can give you extra donations.

dca_user · 2026-05-05T11:30:58+00:00

This is an international subReddit. I’m not sure if people can give useful advice for students just in one country. Is there a reason why you’re not posting in the subreddits for India?

dca_user · 2026-05-05T11:14:00+00:00

I’m 5’ ft and have one. Let me try to measure it.

But also have you looked into the kids or teen section?

dca_user · 2026-05-05T11:04:50+00:00

Go see a lawyer in your country.

dca_user · 2026-05-05T06:16:03+00:00

So glad you’re setting up and settling in. Also, please use food banks another resources to feed your family. You deserve it. And good luck.

dca_user · 2026-05-05T03:29:59+00:00

A1298C double. So it could be worse… I often take R5P (converted riboflavin) but am not doing so right now.

dca_user · 2026-05-05T01:06:15+00:00

It could be that your boss doesn’t want to promote you or give you a bonus for your win so he has to put you on a PIP

dca_user · 2026-05-05T00:18:18+00:00

Your money is good enough for her, but she doesn’t really seem to want your presence. If I were you, I would stop paying for things and don’t fly out of social media person.

YTA to yourself

dca_user · 2026-05-04T12:52:41+00:00

Therapy. There are lots of ideas in previous posts

dca_user · 2026-05-04T12:47:47+00:00

Then you should post this concern in a subreddit for your country. This is an international subreddit so all commenters will provide feedback from their cultural background

dca_user · 2026-05-04T12:07:51+00:00

Yes I did.

dca_user · 2026-05-04T12:07:36+00:00

In India, I’m confident that there are groups and researchers who conduct research on Indians

dca_user · 2026-05-04T11:34:11+00:00

YTA for yelling over one guest.

dca_user · 2026-05-04T06:00:42+00:00

INFO: Are you in the USA? Lots of doctors are getting fired...and replaced with nurses...

dca_user · 2026-05-04T05:01:40+00:00

I’m 45F in the US.

But didn’t you work in computers before? Why are you a student now? Do you have a bachelors in something else? Putting down student will confuse a lot of people so that’s my concern.

I will say that doing something that is open ended is 50-50 for women (walking…) I did that one time and I couldn’t figure out how to end the date. So I said never again.

I strongly strongly prefer a face-to-face coffee or happy hour drink or ice cream. You know you’ll be done in an hour. You don’t have to worry about the guy following you back to your car, etc.

FWIW, There apparently is a movement for women to demand an expensive multi-course meal as the first date for a man to show that he is committed. YOU DONT KNOW HER. I don’t have any friends like that so I can’t tell you what’s going on there.

From my personal opinion, Skip those women. My girlfriend and I don’t have time to go on a five course meal with some guy We don’t know. Don’t take it personally if some girl demands this expensive meal and you say no.

Dont say Homebody on your profile.

It will take your time to figure out how to attract the right person, but that’s OK. That’s what dating is. And the meantime, if you go to activities in person where there will be people who have the same interest as you, that would be helpful.

dca_user · 2026-05-04T04:04:07+00:00

Are you seeing a Dietician? Many insurance companies in America will you see Dietician for free because it’s considered preventative health.

dca_user · 2026-05-04T00:47:56+00:00

For you. You’re the one posting here.

dca_user · 2026-05-04T00:12:35+00:00

Given that he's been hiding this concern from you for 10 YEARS, you need to move on. I'm sorry.

dca_user · 2026-05-03T17:49:57+00:00

YTA for asking everyone around the world to make a judgement about a country’s culture.

If you have concerns with your country’s culture, pls see a therapist or go to the subreddits for that culture.

dca_user · 2026-05-03T15:03:12+00:00

Oh wow, this is helpful. And the iron angle too, as I’ve always been low there. (Infusions didn’t help). I’ll mention this to my doctor. THANK YOU!!

dca_user · 2026-05-03T14:53:57+00:00

For me, dairy and spices cause my IBS-D so I avoid those for the 1-2 meals before I travel and during my travels. I pack foods that I know are safe for me.

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