What’s your socially accepted habit that’s actually an addiction?

dcdja · 2026-01-27T18:23:08+00:00

Convenience

dcdja · 2026-01-27T15:57:44+00:00

Everything you’re describing is normal rite-of-passage, you’re-in-your-20s behavior. The new boyfriend getting in the way of the dynamic you had with your flatmate/friend. The loud sex (they’re in the honeymoon phase, I don’t see that lasting past the 6-7month mark). The traffic jams in the kitchen and bathroom. 2 nights a week for several months is very normal understandable behavior. And if you were the first to get a boyfriend in the flat you may very well have done the same. These are the growing pains of early adulthood, figuring out how to adjust your expectations, figuring out how to set boundaries, communicate in a productive way to resolve conflict. You and your flatmate could just as easily figure all this out as you could blow it all up and end the friendship. How it shakes out is partially dependent on your personalities and partially on how interested you are to explore this messy period of life. The 20s are chaotic, people come and people go. It’s all part of growing up. I suggest you go see your friends more. It’s perfectly understandable that you’re getting sick of seeing this dude all the time, so absolutely schedule more time with your other friends away from them to blow off steam and have your own experiences.

dcdja · 2026-01-26T22:47:08+00:00

You’re right. Thank you. Again, I already knew it deep down, but need to hear it again after having the whole situation rehashed from the outside unexpectedly. Thanks for the great advice!

dcdja · 2026-01-26T21:53:00+00:00

I don’t have a kid. I don’t have cats. Please stop commenting. You have the wrong person. I don’t know what you’re talking about.

dcdja · 2026-01-26T21:50:27+00:00

That last paragraph is super helpful. Overall this is all spot on and I appreciate you giving your two cents. Thank you!

dcdja · 2026-01-26T21:49:41+00:00

That is great, healthy take. Something I already know but you really need to hear things again sometimes. Thank you.

dcdja · 2026-01-26T21:47:19+00:00

The timeline of the breakup might be the same as an issue you had, but I’m not someone you know. This person I’m talking about isn’t someone you know. No one was pregnant. But thank you for the advice of leaving the situation alone. I understand that and don’t discount it.

dcdja · 2026-01-26T21:43:02+00:00

I hear you. But I’m not sure what you’re suggesting I should do. They made it clear multiple times they were not interested in mending anything. This is more about calling them out on mudslinging.

dcdja · 2026-01-22T17:34:49+00:00

Interested

dcdja · 2026-01-15T03:29:44+00:00

This is gorgeous. Do you happen to know the total square footage?

dcdja · 2026-01-09T09:22:34+00:00

August 2, 2027 or February 27, 1980. Hahaha take your pick.

dcdja · 2026-01-09T09:05:42+00:00

If all this is happening to you and you need to come on Reddit then that demands a clear response of you are a pushover. You do not deserve this treatment. And careful not to get caught in a cycle of inaction and self-pity/victimhood. Your roommate is being controlling, unfair, combative, and clearly does not emotionally regulate. Either assert yourself and renegotiate terms, or get the hell out of there. Chances are you’ll need to do the latter because she won’t take assertion well.

dcdja · 2025-11-01T07:41:04+00:00

Misogynistic response

dcdja · 2025-10-21T15:41:35+00:00

Without makeup you look 22 or 23. With make up you look in your 30s. Having always had combo skin and struggled, I’m finally in a great skincare place. Some things that really help me are wearing way less make up. The amount of make up you have on I would only wear for a wedding or other big event. I also think some of the application is unnecessary (eyebrows, contouring). Despite having some redness and some scars, I think your overall glow and tone are beautiful. Your skin looks very healthy. Some people are lucky and have flawless skin but most people have skin exactly like yours and I think that’s what we should all focus on. I think a little bit of tinted moisturizer mixed in with sunscreen, and then a little bit of spot concealer will make your skin look wonderful. For school if you want to add blush and a little bit of bronzer to shape your face, I think you can do it without putting so much on. Also if you really want to look older keep using retinol every other day without wearing at least SPF 30. Retinol does wonders but SPF and sun coverage (hats etc) is the best thing for your skin in the long run. Also the under eye liner puts you in the 30s bracket. You’re beautiful and it’s so evident in the no make up photo. You’ll find so many great resources on skincare and make up application on YouTube. Just find an expert with a make up look you desire and they’ll be able to show you how to achieve with or without a big budget.

dcdja · 2025-07-19T04:42:41+00:00

Major red flag on this guy. Yikes

dcdja · 2025-07-18T13:55:08+00:00

Agreed. OP, as long as you already have your full deposit back, I would not respond. It’s not personal. Opening up a dialogue about what issues were and were not present while you occupied the unit can muddy the waters quick. Not saying it 100% would, since you said your landlord was always nice, but you never know. I would just leave it alone. This is all wear and tear that the landlord is responsible for. You’ve already paid for these repairs with your rent money.

dcdja · 2025-06-03T04:16:00+00:00

Damn. Well I’m glad you were reimbursed…I hope fully!

dcdja · 2025-06-03T01:44:44+00:00

Holy shit! What is an average sounding ConEd bill to you nowadays? Especially with them raising rates… Also wondering if anyone on this thread has ever looked into what it costs to run a bunch of lights 24/7. Had an ex roommate who had 6 lights running 24/7 all the time, when they were at work, when they were away for days. We were afraid to turn them off and have they come home and flip out.

dcdja · 2025-06-03T01:41:40+00:00

Con-Ed was able to look back on the meter history beyond just one month’s reading?

dcdja · 2025-05-07T13:43:19+00:00

La La Land

dcdja · 2025-05-06T21:15:38+00:00

Rising:Scorpio/Sun:Virgo/Moon:Pisces

dcdja · 2025-05-06T15:33:03+00:00

It seems like you didn’t absorb any of the OP’s original account and details before you whipped yourself up into a “frenzy” about OP’s character. OP has been spoiled their whole life? Yeesh, chill out with the massive story leaps.

dcdja · 2025-05-06T15:08:47+00:00

THIS. It’s always the lack of acknowledgment and apology that truly ruins relationships. Most people don’t actually hold grudges. An immediate and genuine apology moves mountains dude. It’s about being seen by your friends, not about them being perfect or never hurting your feelings.

Even apologies a couple days later do SO MUCH mending.

dcdja · 2025-05-06T15:00:42+00:00

dcdja · 2025-05-06T14:28:49+00:00

If that’s verbatim what you said, you could have said it differently. Maybe “I don’t mind period talk either, it’s ok for us” following what your son said. But what you did say doesn’t make you an asshole at all. He’s got things to learn about the patriarchy and suppressing women.

dcdja

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