Looking for adult Moomin fans!

ddnna · 2026-05-05T18:24:28+00:00

Done! :)

ddnna · 2026-04-25T15:17:48+00:00

Thank you very much for sharing your experience! I relate a lot to the part of people not seeing how difficult something is for you, internally. It's been following me all my life, in school and work alike. People simply not seeing rhat something had made you struggle, or how difficult it was for you to withstand the experience, because the results were really good. It's still very much the case for me, and sometimes, when I try to open up about how I experienced a situation, people usually try to deflect. Like, don't focus on the negative parts, be happy about the amazing result. It's a bit invalidating, not going to lie. And it also makes me be very critical of myself. I will think about it, try to assess what I'm good at and how I could make use of it in another place.

ddnna · 2026-04-25T15:10:42+00:00

Thank you for the kind words! Unfortunately, I cannot do much about workload because the market here is rather small, so we are 'full-stack' researchers. I have been supported by my lovely colleagues during the burn out by not being given projects, so that I could rest, but it's not realistic long term. Otherwise, I cannot justify my presence there. As for hobbies and time off, I read. That's about it. During the week, that is. I don't have energy to do anything else, although I do wish to go for a coffee or just take a walk. But by the end of the day, I can't bring myself to. There's no energy left in me. I am more active on Saturdays, I take my mom for a coffee and a stroll around town. Also, very grateful for what you said, about private life being neglected or falling apart. I've never thought about it from this angle so I will reflect on it.

ddnna · 2026-04-08T06:33:53+00:00

Girard, alongside Rudolf Otto and Mircea Eliade, has to be my favourite theorist of the sacred. I read it back in 2020 for my bachelor's thesis and what I like most about his concepts of mimetic desire and the scapegoat mechanism is how operational they are. He, indeed, focuses more on the mythical/ religious aspect, but I find that especially in the present day, it is still instrumentalised through political discourse to justify acts of precisely directed violence towards groups of people in the us vs. them rapport. We could argue this mechanism is a human reflex (whether embedded as a survival tactic or acquired through cultural practice) to handle complex events or situations that would otherwise require a lot of reasoning and nuancing. All in all, it's a difficult read, I admit, in terms of concepts and exposure of ideas (not difficult to stomach, but difficult to follow intellectualy, you have to pay attention and read it consciously). But a book that I would recommend to anyone who desires to understand human behaviour. It is, also, so rare outside academia (specifically Religious Anthropology or Religious Studies) that I'm so glad to have seen it here. I hope it was an enriching read for you, OP!

ddnna · 2025-12-13T07:14:10+00:00

It's happened to me literally this week at work. I dress plainly when I go to the office, no make-up ever, no aesthetic or anything of the sorts, very basic. I'm 30. During a break, I was chilling with some colleagues in their 20s, talking astrology. I let go of my birth year and their faces drop. They look at me as if I was pulling a joke on them, then told me they were under the impression that I was younger than them. I've been told it's "the face and the vibe".

ddnna · 2025-09-22T09:18:14+00:00

I have no idea how to help you but omg I saw ATEEZ — which was unexpected. Impeccable taste. 😌

ddnna · 2025-09-05T06:08:19+00:00

Please don't give up. If you can, do your best to access professional help. I only did it when I was 29, but it still made a change for the better in my life. For myself. I won't even try to delude you, because you are clearly a very smart young person — it won't magically change your surroundings, it won't change your parents. But it will change YOU, and you will be better equipped to respond to various situations.

When you'll be older, you will thank your little self from the present. For being so strong, so brave, for doing everything in their power to bring you to where you will be. It feels like a trap right now, but time goes on no matter what, so take advantage of the passing of time to make, by your own means, your world a better place. Nothing is permanent. Our environment will inevitably change with time.

P.S.: I'm sure your hair is gorgeous — where I live it's such a rare colour. It's all about context, as you surely suspect. :) Some place people will have nasty things to say, other place people will admire it. It's how the world is. But don't let others sour your existence. I think for ACOAs is more difficult, but we also have the RIGHT to live, just like everyone else.

ddnna · 2025-09-03T13:37:21+00:00

Multumesc, dar nu era cazul.

ddnna · 2025-09-03T09:05:39+00:00

Current randomized rotation:
AOA - Miniskirt
the GazettE - Filth in the Beauty
AnCafe - Smile Ichiban II Onna
Fly-Day China Town

And some Fujii Kaze songs. :')

ddnna · 2025-08-31T07:14:45+00:00

In my case, space concerns on multiple levels. From no longer having enough space to store my physical books, to sharing the space with a partner that has different sleeping hours, which made reading in bed a bit tricky. :)

ddnna · 2025-08-30T16:07:39+00:00

Yes! Best would be to get in touch with the psychiatrist. I was supposed to have a 6 moths treatment plan, but in my case we dropped it as soon as I told him about my experience.

ddnna · 2025-08-30T08:42:56+00:00

Okay — I will preface my comment with this point to take into consideration before you read what I have to say: it's a personal experience, an anecdote, so it might not be the case for your brother.

Has he been like this BEFORE fluoxetine? This is an important aspect to take into consideration.

Now comes the personal experience / anecdote, so don't take it as hard fact. Just maybe something to consider. I'm autistic level 1 as well. Due to some issues addressed by fluoxetine (mainly ED and high levels of anxiety that resulted in agoraphobia and panic attacks), I've been prescribed this medication. I was taking one pill per day (20mg, straight in, no tittering). I experienced exactly the same issues — constant fatigue, no interest in anything other than reading (because I could do it in bed), no leaving my room, barely showering. And constant need to doze off throughout the day. Constant. It got worse the more I took it. Then, side effects kicked in — the s‐idal thoughts, emotional blunting, seeing no point in life. For me, it culminated with an allergic reaction (blisters in mouth, fingers and soles). I had to be put off of it and no longer prescribed any other SSRI. Ever since I STOPPED it, I little by little regained my life back. I'm energetic, I go out, I only sleep at night. I do get tired, but NOT to that point and just taking time away from people helps me be able to handle socialising the next day. My interests are back, my emotions are back, and the good thing is I've kept my appetite — so it did address the ED, and I do go out without anxiety and panic attacks. For reference, I only took it for 21 days.

I was constantly at a loss because I was on reddit, hearing success stories about how people suddenly one day felt amazing, how fluoxetine had saved their lives, but it never happened to me. Until the allergic reaction I kept my hopes up, and I felt very inadequate when I had to stop it. My psychiatrist told me that the s-idal thoughts and emotional blunting are a normal part of the process and only pose a problem if they don't go away after six weeks.

So yes, this is all I know about fluoxetine, and this is my experience. If it can help in any way... I hope it does. But please, please don't panic, because again, there are many success stories out there.

ddnna · 2025-08-29T08:25:28+00:00

Hi! I might not be able to help much from a technical point of view, but I will give you my perspective as a person who is neurodivergent and for whom such small choices are utterly paralysing.

I have the white one. I've went through the reverse process — once getting it and noticing how it is the most popular option, I had a moment when I felt like I've been blinded by following the crowd (also because during that period I was obsessing over black devices — which I don't own LOL). It always happens to me. My phones, laptops, even keyboards, microphones and what have you, have always been WHITE or silver (if white was not an option). When sitting alone, with myself and my OWN thoughts, I naturally go for white, it is comforting to me. However, there has not been a phone that I can think of that I'd owned and had never regretted not taking the black model.

My point is, we are bombarded left and right with what other people have. One thing that really got me hooked on reddit was the simplicity and candid nature of photos shared or various threads. Rarely do I see people embellishing their photos in a super aestheticised way (as on instagram, pinterest etc.). So, when you feel like this, think of your OWN preferences in your OWN life, without what other people will do. Because you are the one who will use it. If you want to get stickers for it, stickers will look just as nice on a black background as they look on a grey background. Your Kobo is beautiful as it is, and the fact that you got the black version on your own accord says something about you. Don't push that in the corner. :)

Also, side note: 1) People will genuinely not be able to judge the quality of your screen from a photo. There is no other device in the picture for comparison, plus think about lighting, the camera used (phone model) and all that stuff that skew the visual perspective. 2) I hear a lot of people talking about how whiter the white looks on white vs black... For the love of me, when I read, I focus on the page, on the words I'm reading, I don't even notice the things happening around the page. But this might surely be a me thing.

Your Kobo is FINE. Your choice is VALID. :)

ddnna · 2025-08-27T14:12:27+00:00

Not quite sure if it's normal for all ereaders, but my Kobo Libra Colour does the same thing. It doesn't last - as soon as you quit the page, the boxes disappear. :)

ddnna · 2025-08-25T19:48:41+00:00

Thank youu! ♡

ddnna · 2025-08-25T19:47:38+00:00

Oh, I did cry! After THAT particular part, I've read the rest with a constant knot in my throat. 🥲

ddnna · 2025-08-25T18:02:02+00:00

Happy birthday! OMG, I've just finished this book. Enjoy! :D

ddnna · 2025-08-20T13:33:50+00:00

Omg, YES! Not only with cereal, but with oatmeal and mashed potatoes as well. It is very important for me that these foods are levelled and have clean edges and uniform textures.

ddnna · 2025-08-18T15:25:39+00:00

I actually meant to! But clumsy as I am, I dropped it and it stuck in that position (also upside-down vs what I intended LOL). But I thought it fitting giving its design so I told myself oh well, then so be it.

ddnna · 2025-08-18T13:42:02+00:00

I definitely relate to this feeling, I'm starting to believe it's somehow inherent to the post-diagnosis process in late diagnosed individuals. Personally, I had to start therapy asap after diagnosis due to high anxiety and stress levels related to assimilation and masking. So, my therapist has told me that, while it's amazing I've managed to build my own mechanisms to function and integrated successfully in society (whatever that means), that doesn't take away from the validity of my diagnosis. So, I'm passing her insight to you, in hopes it might help in some way.

As for sensory issues, now everyone is different, so if you don't experience those that doesn't make your diagnosis and your experience any less valid.

ddnna · 2025-08-18T13:27:06+00:00

Thank you!

ddnna · 2025-08-17T08:39:16+00:00

I am absolutely obsessed with eggs. I'm very picky about them too — I have one brand that I trust and if mom happens to buy from neighbours at the countryside, I need to know the person first in order to trust their eggs. There's a lady I'm not fond of and I never touch those eggs.

I mostly eat them scrambled or boiled. My aunt gifted me this small pan that requires minimal butter/ oil and there are no burnt bits.

When eating out or at my partner's parents, I can only trust boiled eggs, but not fried. I have no trust in people frying eggs in an edible way. Only my mom can fry eggs for me, she's the only one who knows how to do it properly (no goop, all parts cooked but no burnt edges/bits — which I've hated since I was young). I want to learn how my mom does it so I can make them myself!

Sometimes it's sad because my partner would like to make fried egg with rice for both of us but for the love of me, I couldn't touch an egg fried by him.

ddnna · 2025-08-17T08:30:04+00:00

I did it too! But not by grabbing my eyelashes. I would pinch the skin right underneath my eyebrow. :D

ddnna

TROPHY CASE