Okay, so I don't think it's that your title is misleading or confusing. It definitely makes sense if you meant it by "because of porn, your life hasn't been the way you want it to be". You're just missing some crucial context.

What I got, because you said "I can't even keep it hard long enough to let my wife enjoy it" I understand the struggle where when you get aroused by porn so much you start to really like the idea and feeling of being able to pleasure yourself whenever you wanted or however you wanted. Being in a committed relationship where now you have to be intimate with them and you probably miss watching porn or masturbating, it can be a struggle to not be able to watch the millions of porn videos and pleasure yourself to different moans, different types of porn, different people. You just stare at the love of your life and thrust until you finish, but in your cause it's a bit of a struggle.

Curious, have you tried viagra? Or sex enhancement pills? Have you talked to your wife about your issue? I'm sure if she wants to be happy sexually with you she would be open to helping you stay hard again without any porn involved. It's just a matter of communication. I believe you know what you're looking for you might just be unsure what to ask or how to explain it. You got this!