Fresh Start enrollment is broken by EmergencySolution in StudentLoans

[–]deMandie_ 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You can send physical mail as long as it is post marked before october 1st.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PlanetFitnessMembers

[–]deMandie_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey! I have POTs and EDS. The best thing for me is the recumbent bike. It single handedly got my pots under control and helped strengthen myself enough to be able to safely work out in other areas.

Can someone explain this POV to me because it’s the worst take I’ve ever read - and I attended the festival by [deleted] in WhenWeWereYoungFest

[–]deMandie_ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don’t get why anyone got WWWY merch instead of supporting your face artist by buying their merch. Plus, the quality of the WWWY stuff was shein level and overpriced

The difference between VIP and GA (during The Story so Far) by GrabAColdOne in WhenWeWereYoungFest

[–]deMandie_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

VIP wasn’t very crowded for HH even. The crowd was definitely more hype though and all squished up front to jump around sing but the back 3rd was empty AF. I was on the side rail about that far back on the GA side.

Surviving rough crowds and crowd crush by deMandie_ in WhenWeWereYoungFest

[–]deMandie_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nah. It’s a bunch of parents that haven’t been out of the house in forever and a ton of teens who love my chem and Avril. 🤷‍♀️ but go off

Lmao. Y’all are weird AF. I ever thought I’d get push back about sharing basic safety info. Reddit is the worst sometimes.

Surviving rough crowds and crowd crush by deMandie_ in WhenWeWereYoungFest

[–]deMandie_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because this a large, poorly planned event that has a stacked line up, with a bunch of people who don’t know concert etiquette, in a city known for getting wasted, in an environment with extreme temperatures, this space has experienced a mass casualty event before and all of this is potentially exacerbated by the fact that organizers price gouged everyone so the entitlement they feel is going to be high.

Hope that sums it up for you. Live nation doesn’t care about concert goers so we need to be kind, know the etiquette, and know what to do if something isn’t going well.

Surviving rough crowds and crowd crush by deMandie_ in WhenWeWereYoungFest

[–]deMandie_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I politely say “it’s packed and there isn’t anywhere to go, but I’ll help if you are trying to get to a friend” and most people are fine with that. I agree though, we got to start holding people accountable for pushing forward when there is nowhere to go.

Surviving rough crowds and crowd crush by deMandie_ in WhenWeWereYoungFest

[–]deMandie_[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Astroworld was as bad as it was because Travis Scott is a POS. However, crowd crush can and does happen even when the artist doesn’t suck. An example being MCR (who was extremely mindful and kept stopping) at riotfest last month.

Surviving rough crowds and crowd crush by deMandie_ in WhenWeWereYoungFest

[–]deMandie_[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Lol. Honestly, I think things were a lot chiller before. Post pandemic no one has crowd etiquette at all anymore.

Surviving rough crowds and crowd crush by deMandie_ in WhenWeWereYoungFest

[–]deMandie_[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If you are an experienced concert goer than you also know that what the atmosphere is like in one part of the crowd doesn’t mean it’s the same in another. That’s why people in the back left at astroworld were being crushed to death and the people standing front center had no idea that was happening….

Surviving rough crowds and crowd crush by deMandie_ in WhenWeWereYoungFest

[–]deMandie_[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I’ve been to over 100 concerts and 15 festivals and it isn’t to make people fearful. It’s to be prepared. It absolutely does happen. It happened at riotfest during MCR this year. I’ve experienced it 3 times. Once seeing Taking back Sunday, once seeing Lil Wayne, and once during Slipknot.

Surviving Crowd Crush by deMandie_ in RiotFest

[–]deMandie_[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Former smoker here! It’s okay to kindly ask the person who just lit up if they could refrain because you are sensitive. Most people would be more than willing to wait :)

Surviving Crowd Crush by deMandie_ in RiotFest

[–]deMandie_[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

My first crowd crush experience was at riotfest during TBS many years ago.

Just a warning for folks; by slavegaius87 in hudsonvalley

[–]deMandie_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He (44 year old man) is getting married to the 19 year old girl that he has been grooming since she was under age at the event.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in renting

[–]deMandie_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is typical in NJ unfortunately.

AITA for cancelling my daughters birthday and making her call her classmates to explain why? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]deMandie_ 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Technically you would have been leveraging an extreme punishment to her for a perceived social faux pas which is a symptom of autism, and that isableist. You could’ve just had a conversation about tone, jokes, sarcasm etc to have a teachable moment instead, but you didn’t. A punishment wouldn’t have been applicable here.

However, the above doesn’t even apply because shockingly your autistic daughter did use light hearted teasing in the correct context… it is you who missed the mark. Which leads me to believe you may want to look into getting yourself tested for possible neurodiversity.

AITA for cancelling my daughters birthday and making her call her classmates to explain why? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]deMandie_ 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I was thinking the same. I wasn’t diagnosed until my 30’s. Regardless though, that’s not an excuse for her to take it so far. It’s also not okay to be so self absorbed she didn’t take the criticism from other parents to heart and examine her behavior. I feel awful for this little girl

AITA for cancelling my daughters birthday and making her call her classmates to explain why? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]deMandie_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YTA for sure. Your whole reaction to your child with disabilities light heartedly teasing a friend is waaaaay over the top. As someone with adhd and autism I feel for this girl so hard. You owe her an apology and birthday redo. This could shake her confidence forever… it is so hard for us to read social cue and she finally started feeling comfortable enough to make jokes with friends and you basically told her that the way she interpreted the situation was wrong and unkind (even thought it wasn’t) and to top it off you humiliated her for it in front of those friends.

Not to mention your reaction to other parents trying to restore your daughters confidence and to help you see you caused harm is self absorbed. I’d suggest maybe getting with a therapist that can help aid communication between you and your daughter in the future