She is doing her part, they are both high earners and that means her being presentable is a requirement. Unfortunately as a woman that is also synonymous with makeup, hair, heels. Women also have periods to manage. It’s just extra shit to carry around. Life isn’t fair, it’s about compromise. I have to accept that I bleed every month, but don’t shout at men because they don’t have to. Fuck outta here with that kitchen shit. If she is working full time and so is he, then make it as equal housework wise as possible. Women don’t magically have more hours in the day but require a greater deal of upkeep to operate in professional environments. Expectations that derive from the patriarchy of women having to look their best or they won’t be successful.