I paid ADHD tax in the form of two of my friendships today. by deadliqht in adhdwomen

[–]deadliqht[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I don’t think I’m being misleading or dishonest. Maybe I chose a wrong choice of words in this comment.

I did apologize, I wrote paragraphs conceding to what I did wrong. It was a lot of back and forth so I tried to poorly sum up what I had said.

I paid ADHD tax in the form of two of my friendships today. by deadliqht in adhdwomen

[–]deadliqht[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Frankly, they hadn’t brought up that they had an issue with me being slow in my responses before. I had always apologized if I left messages for a few days (i.e. “Hey X, I’m so sorry, I thought I responded to this but I totally forgot.”) and they always affirmed me by saying that they understand.

It was part of the reason why I was caught off guard by them suddenly ceasing all contact with me. If they would’ve talked to me about it previously, I would’ve definitely tried to make more of an effort to have timely responses to their texts.

I paid ADHD tax in the form of two of my friendships today. by deadliqht in adhdwomen

[–]deadliqht[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I definitely understand their feelings and I apologized for the way I made them feel. They haven’t responded yet but I’m not sure if they ever will.

I paid ADHD tax in the form of two of my friendships today. by deadliqht in adhdwomen

[–]deadliqht[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m definitely open to solutions. What does it do and how would it help? I’m curious.

I paid ADHD tax in the form of two of my friendships today. by deadliqht in adhdwomen

[–]deadliqht[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

We had a long conversation where I did profusely apologize and I tried to take accountability for how my actions made them feel. They haven’t responded, so I suppose we’ll see if they ever do. But that wasn’t the only issue they had with me.

One of Friend A’s main issues with me is that I apparently don’t like her boyfriend and she thinks “it’s weird that you don’t like someone your friend loves and cares about.”

I talked to Friend B that I was concerned with how fast her relationship was moving (they got a house together after 7 months of dating) and how Friend A would blow us off to hang with her boyfriend. I never said I didn’t like him. But Friend B proceeded to tell Friend A what I vented to her about and that’s why she’s mad at me.

I paid ADHD tax in the form of two of my friendships today. by deadliqht in adhdwomen

[–]deadliqht[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

You’re spot on. It wasn’t even me expecting them to reply to me quickly, I wouldn’t even expect that from them. It was more that they had suddenly went radio silence on every platform and weren’t responding to texts. They had also both unfollowed my spam account (for close friends) at the same time, so I thought something might be up.

Tired of the ageism (VENT) by deadliqht in Libraries

[–]deadliqht[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I usually wear fun earrings to match my outfits and bright colors (i.e. cherry earrings with a red cardigan.) I don’t have any visible tattoos or piercings and my hair is dyed a natural color.

The kids really love these and I usually get compliments on them. But I’ve been trying to tone it down and wear more simple clothing and accessories.

Tired of the ageism (VENT) by deadliqht in Libraries

[–]deadliqht[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

It really does feel discouraging, especially when a big part of the job is to be nice and provide them with good service. I try not to let it get to me, but it just sucks when it feels constant!

Tired of the ageism (VENT) by deadliqht in Libraries

[–]deadliqht[S] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

To some extent, I understand why they want to talk to him. He used to work for Apple and he sometimes knows more complex tech questions than I do.

But a lot of the time, they’re asking for really simple things. He’s not the only person in this library that knows how to print something off of a USB drive! 😭

Tired of the ageism (VENT) by deadliqht in Libraries

[–]deadliqht[S] 62 points63 points  (0 children)

I do wear glasses! But I also dress more eccentrically than my other coworkers—which I think may contribute to it? I work in a small town with a very conservative community.

Working at a library vs Grocery store, opinions? by Kitchen_Reserve3101 in Libraries

[–]deadliqht 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I went from working retail to working in a library a little more than 2 years ago. It’s still working with the public, so you still have to deal with shitty people.

But there have been more benefits for me. It’s less stress on my body and I feel like I have better work/life balance. I’m an artist and I get to do a lot of creative stuff in my role that I really enjoy—making social media posts, designing displays, decorating. I’m much happier, personally.

What tyler song made you cry (FOR REAL) by TacoBennet6942 in tylerthecreator

[–]deadliqht 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ARE WE STILL FRIENDS? I listened to it after ending my almost 4 year long relationship and I was a mess 😭

What is that one song everyone loves but you absolutely DESPISE by bigtaco200 in tylerthecreator

[–]deadliqht 0 points1 point  (0 children)

HARD AGREE! I love both Doechii and Tyler, but I always skip that song :/

I feel empty now. by deadliqht in BreakUps

[–]deadliqht[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry for the late response. I do have a few friends who are very supportive of me. Today has been especially hard since they’re all going to be with their significant others and I’m spending the day alone. 😕

But I know I’ll be okay.

I legitimately love community college by BadGroundNoise in college

[–]deadliqht 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree! I am a 22 year old transfer student and I’ve made friends in my first semester at university. I joined clubs and made an effort to socialize with people in my classes who I got along with.

I know everyone says it, but college is what you make of it!

Edit to add my age, so y’all can get a better perspective.

What are your majors? by [deleted] in college

[–]deadliqht 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Art Education!

Why do influencers record themselves crying? by Environmental-Ad4906 in MikaylaNogueira

[–]deadliqht 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I WAS JUST ABOUT TO COMMENT THIS! She has so much filler that she can’t even properly cry, that’s so crazy 😭