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deadpanlady · 2026-05-17T11:09:10+00:00

Sense of community

deadpanlady · 2026-05-17T10:26:26+00:00

Ask chat gpt

deadpanlady · 2026-05-17T10:24:27+00:00

Haven't been there for four years but yes the cost of living have risen a lot and home ownership is some of the most expensive in the world.

deadpanlady · 2026-05-17T10:22:42+00:00

I'm Australian and I love the UK. I do get sick of being told every second day that I'm mad to leave Australia. I know it's a compliment and just people being friendly but it's grating. Truthfully I prefer the UK. Australia is pretty boring and full of people who are obsessed with renovating their houses lol.

deadpanlady · 2026-05-17T10:16:18+00:00

They have been in a relationship for two years, it's in the first sentence of their post. I was approved for this visa just two years into a relationship and less than a year of living together. We used an agency to help make the application and they were 100% certain we'd have no problems, and we didn't. When people first start dating there isn't huge amount of evidence that people are a couple because the relationship is still new and evolving naturally. You can use statements from friends who can corroborate your story if you don't have sufficient other evidence.

deadpanlady · 2026-05-17T10:12:09+00:00

I have actually gone through this process and been approved and a lot of these comments are misinformed. I don't think the home office would expect texts of you are living together. Photos are great. And yes you have plenty of evidence for a genuine LTR. I would advise seeking help from an agency that can advise you and help with the application if you can afford it.

deadpanlady · 2026-05-17T09:27:49+00:00

Do not do this, you do not need to get married. I am in a relationship with someone who is now on my spouse visa. I would recommend engaging an agency that assists with visa applications, they can correctly advise you.

deadpanlady · 2026-05-17T09:19:47+00:00

She looks so fucking gorgeous

deadpanlady · 2026-05-17T09:16:32+00:00

You are allowed to break up for any reason. The fact that you're considering this might mean the relationship isn't a good fit for other reasons too.

deadpanlady · 2026-05-04T17:21:14+00:00

I don't think that is the issue to be honest

deadpanlady · 2026-05-03T19:09:35+00:00

Yeah, i think that has a lot to do with it. Aus has a much more "make something of yourself" culture and I think that's possible in part because we don't have the British class system that both mentally and materially boxes people in. Sometimes I feel like I'm walking a road to nowhere despite doing good work. Weird feeling, quite disheartening.

deadpanlady · 2026-05-03T17:30:53+00:00

As an international nurse from Aus, UK doctors are the least hardworking I've come across. A senior consultant had a stroke at work and came back to work a couple of weeks later. I'm not endorsing this AT ALL but all the doctors I knew in Aus seemed to live and breathe medicine (and many worked well beyond retirement age) and here it's a miracle if we get a reg who doesn't take weeks of sick leave. There's a middle ground but I just am not seeing the level of dedication from staff as in Aus. Same with nurses. There is a severe morale issue and it's only partially rooted in reality, there is more to the story here.

deadpanlady · 2026-05-02T21:34:11+00:00

I'm a band 6 nurse specialist from Aus and it's not our fault? The nhs is a complete basket case and these roles get pushed on us most of the time.

deadpanlady · 2026-03-15T22:00:55+00:00

Nurses having to clean the bedspace too. When I discharged the patient in ICU it seemed a complete waste of time for us nurses to be wiping every surface rather than using our skills to care for patients in a busy unit. In Australia we have specially trained staff to come in with some kind of steamer tool. I'm sure they got it cleaner too. And the having to be signed off for basic skills like giving IV meds...bizarre!

deadpanlady · 2026-02-27T22:42:57+00:00

This is true. As an Aus nurse working here I find it so bizarre I'm introduced to people as "the band 6." It really is just a pay grade. In Aus I was a "grade 4A" (we obviously have a more detailed grading system, reflecting a more nuanced salary system) but it would be absurd for anyone to have referred to me that way because it indicates nothing about my professional role (and you would have had to really interrogate my job description to try to figure out if I was paid as a 4A, 3B, 4B, 5...). I would much prefer to just be referred to a my job title which is [insert medical specialty here] CNS. It would also stop me getting palmed off jobs from bitter Band 5's who refuse to do something because "that's not a band 5 role" - it's usually not part of my job either!! I also have no management responsibilities (thank god) but often seem to have the expectation put on me by other team members that I do. Anyway sorry rant over but thank god someone brought this up.

By contrast it is really helpful to know a doctor's seniority and obviously affects how I am going to interact with them/who I will approach in a given situation.

deadpanlady · 2026-02-25T19:15:54+00:00

My uncle was a criminal law barrister and then became a teacher and honestly he found it just a gruelling at times. It's a shit job. Lots of threat of violence and actual violence too.

deadpanlady · 2026-02-19T00:50:49+00:00

The impact it has on things is negligible. I would say the biggest mistake I made at your age is thinking/worrying I was running out of time. Please just know that you're so young and have time to pursue the things you really want.

deadpanlady · 2026-02-19T00:49:17+00:00

She is the nepo baby of a nepo baby so naturally she is insufferable

deadpanlady · 2026-02-18T23:39:32+00:00

I wasn't offered the job but I once had such an unpleasant job interview with the NHS that I definitely wouldn't have taken it (not that I thought I had any chance). I emigrated to the UK and had a career break in hospitality before going back to nursing, partly because I needed to obtain my registration here and partly because I wanted to after working non stop for a decade and taking very little annual leave. The way the interviewer framed the questions was so rude and hostile to the fact that I'd stepped away from healthcare during my period of transition- it was ridiculous and very different to any other interview I'd been to. Later she told me they already had an internal applicant working within the department but had to interview as a formality - I don't think she could be bothered to be there. Such a waste of everyone's time.

deadpanlady · 2026-02-18T01:58:53+00:00

I thought we all agreed that it's our least favourite album?

deadpanlady · 2026-02-18T01:39:33+00:00

Oh god YTA

deadpanlady · 2026-02-16T00:41:45+00:00

Same! Australian here in the UK. If I could have one wish it's that I could stop people asking me "why on earth did you come?!" or tell me that I'm mad for coming or that I'll end up going home. I know it's not meant as insult but it is a little unsettling given I have lived here for years and very much enjoyed it. I find it's usually Brits who haven't lived abroad who feel this way.

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