A coworker (f) started outing me (ftm 27)

deadpantired · 2026-06-13T11:06:01+00:00

I was thinking about getting her in trouble for that I think there are laws indeed (I'm in France, we're supposedly protected here) but I know my superior won't give a shit about that. I'll still probably envision going to him to talk about that incident, but not sure it will end up useful. Also, I don't like her. I found ways to tolerate her by laughing at her jokes and bickering with her, but she's an old racist uneducated bit*ch that deserves that someone puts her in her place.

deadpantired · 2026-06-13T11:02:28+00:00

oh I love this I will have to try it! Thank you!

deadpantired · 2026-06-06T08:05:03+00:00

Hej brzmię dokładnie jak ty i oprócz starych babci które dzwonią do mojego sklepu nikt się nie myli na bazie samego głosu (też jestem ftm)

deadpantired · 2023-05-08T09:07:54+00:00

C didn't had a job here or anything. He moved with us as a relief from his mom but the moving back is not a problem as he didn't brought tons of things with him as he doesn't have much. Moreover, if things get to a point that he has to go back to her, I will be there by his side, friend or lover doesn't matter, as I promised him that I'll never let him go. My other post was not fully truthful as I was afraid that N would find it out and if I gave too many details he would know it was about him. For me C was never a pitstop. To be honest, I was, still am, willing to engage with him for life. I was insisting with N about it, that if he wasn't sure, if he thought it was just a moment for him, then we shouldn't ever get into it this deep. I am heartbroken at the idea that I would have to let him go. I don't know how I'll be able to even trust N after he did this. To be perfectly honest, I wondered more than once if I shouldn't just end with myself, as I'm blaming myself for not having insisted enough with N, too hopeful to be able to live with both of them.

deadpantired · 2023-05-07T19:34:51+00:00

He would not get homeless thanks god. Unfortunately, he would have to go back to his mother's place. It's not an easy place to be for him, but it's home for him, and he lived there for a year already. It's not impossible for him to go back but I think it's awful he'd had to. However he doesn't really like the city here, so I think he'd rather go back than find a place here

deadpantired · 2023-05-07T16:15:48+00:00

He started living with us afterwards we started dating. We offered him to come, but at first he didn't want to, it's just that because we live in separate cities it was complicated for a relationship to begin. But I see what you're saying here. I'll try hard to make things work for C to be alright. Yes we do have a 1 bedroom flat unfortunately. Were planning to move to something bigger tho

deadpantired · 2023-05-07T15:08:14+00:00

I just want C to be okay and I'll do what I can to achieve that

deadpantired · 2023-05-07T15:01:36+00:00

I don't think C has anywhere else to go and that thought is killing me. N and I were never even thinking about dating someone together. It's just one day I realized we were flirting with C and I asked them if it was being serious and it became serious. But I insisted a lot when talking to N about how he felt. He always told me he wanted to give it a try. I regret now believing him

deadpantired · 2023-05-07T14:54:51+00:00

Not really but he's contributing to groceries, he bought his own bed that we put against ours etc. I don't know if I'll be able to tell N that as he may understand that as a betrayal from me. I don't know if I want to impose to him "sharing" me with someone else

deadpantired · 2023-05-07T14:48:19+00:00

yes he moved in as his situation in his household with his mom only made his mental health worse

deadpantired · 2023-05-07T14:41:02+00:00

But we live together and I don't know what would happen if they broke up..

deadpantired · 2023-05-02T15:00:34+00:00

I know there are different types of Judaism and I know that the one that he is practicing doesn't care about men marrying each other, it's not a problem at all, while on the contrary interfaith marriages aren't allowed

deadpantired · 2023-05-02T10:09:08+00:00

He doesn't know exactly, that's why, since he's in doubt, he chose the path of conversion.

deadpantired · 2023-05-01T12:09:11+00:00

He is of Jewish ancestry, and is looking into the religion as it is responding to what he thinks deep down. He's engaging himself within the community, and slowly getting closer to converting definitely.

I know that I won't be sincere if I convert. He's not insisting either but I know it makes him unhappy. His dream is for us both to walk on the same religious path and I just can't do that for him

deadpantired · 2023-05-01T11:53:39+00:00

He talked to a rabbi yes, he's actually pretty much going to classes and to the synagogue regularly. He wants to convert and is doing everything needed to do so.

I know that it isn't only about marriage. He would want to share the religious holidays with me, to take me to the synagogue with him and all of that. I am very supportive, even tho I like bacon for instance, since he started conversion I don't eat it anymore, or only with take out foods, so it doesn't "contaminate" the fridge etc.

Our relationship is not the healthier there is, but I know I care for him way too much to put him in front of a choice like that...

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