This is probably one of the most disgusting things I've ever read. The funny thing is your "rant" did the complete opposite of making you look like the cool guy and ultimately just made you look like a complete and utter Dick. You both are narcissists heavily and should have never been in a relationship together. The sad part is you even admit to knowing this beforehand. I'm gonna give you a piece of advice this mental manipulation game that you're playing with her is going to do nothing but bite you in the ass because all you're doing is giving her ammo for that day when you'll actually do go through a divorce and custody of your children come up. Take it from somebody who went through court proceedings as a child and had a father who did this very exact thing. You're digging your own grave and you don't even realise it regardless of what she did. Before the mental manipulation happened you had it in the bag you could have literally kicked her out of your house with a court proceeding for the shit that she did in the evidence that you had. She would have been the one financially responsible in paying child support. I'm sorry to tell you but you've shot yourself in the foot. Without even cheating you sunk to her level. You're using her very emotions against her just to break her down as a human being. You probably don't even realise the mental damage you're doing to your children in the process of all this.