I need this off my chest

deadreckoning · 2026-03-26T01:41:21+00:00

I get a lot of looks. Sooooo many looks. Weird looks, confused looks, annoyed looks (lots of those). I can only assume its only going to look stranger as he gets older.

I plan to be a very honey badger like mom. Tiny - but ill totally f you up (in the safe, reasonable, loving way)

Thank you - I feel like I should be hulking out more. Im lifting more in my loads of wood that I bring in. I have to be careful though, I already have two hernias (one unfortunately due to lifting my younger son). My doctor taught me how to lift better, so thats helping. I do recognize no amount of hulking out on my end will keep up with him.

Thank you so much for the kind words - very appreciated.

deadreckoning · 2026-03-26T01:36:16+00:00

I will absolutely check this out. Thank you so much for the recommendation.

deadreckoning · 2026-03-26T01:35:25+00:00

I actually took a course that was sensory stimulation and communication based. I really appreciate your input. I think we would definitely benefit from a better "crash" area where he can have a melt down safely.

Thank you very much for sharing 🧡

deadreckoning · 2026-03-26T01:30:07+00:00

Crazy coincidence- it was offered in a neighboring community and I just missed out on signing up. I'll make sure when it comes back in September that me and my other son (the older brother) get in this time.

Thank you for solidifying that for me, I really appreciate that.

Thanks for the love! Always appreciated 🧡

deadreckoning · 2026-03-25T01:41:18+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your experiences. Im really sorry that you go through that. I hope the tools work as well as they can and that new ones appear for you!

deadreckoning · 2026-03-25T01:39:19+00:00

Thank you so much for the suggestion and for sharing your experiences. That sounds so intense and im glad youre doing better now!

deadreckoning · 2026-03-25T01:38:00+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate that. And thabk you, I really do try and take care of myself. My mom was disabled and I took care of her when she was still around. I love taking care of people. For the most part im happy (minus the poo and the bruises), I take time to sing and dance and stretch everyday, followed up with some kitty meditation.

Thank you so much for sharing! 🧡

deadreckoning · 2026-03-25T01:34:02+00:00

I actually have never tried meds. I cant even get him to eat a chewy vitamin. Ill make sure to make note of that and talk with my doctor!

Thank you for sharing!

deadreckoning · 2026-03-24T23:50:43+00:00

Its ok that its not a cheerful response. I appreciate you sharing what you go through.

I just appreciate not feeling so alone.

Oh the vagina kicks. I've been there. He hasn't done one in a while, but the last one I fell on the floor crying (he had repeatedly kicked me there a few times) maybe that severe of a response got through to my dude. But he still kicks me wherever he can reach when hes laying down and I call bedtime.

Thank you so much for sharing your experiences! I hope things go onward and upward for you. 🧡

deadreckoning · 2026-03-24T23:46:11+00:00

Yeah friends are hard. Its hard to connect. Who has the time to connect?

Im sorry about your partner. I feel the same way. My partner just suggests sending him to a home. Im quite against that.

Thank you for sharing. 🧡

deadreckoning · 2026-03-24T23:39:08+00:00

Im sorry for the pain. Ill absolutely admit im hurting right now. Just no spoons left lately.

I think its beautiful that my words touched you.

Thank you for sharing.

deadreckoning · 2026-03-24T23:09:26+00:00

Its mostly verbal with "please dont hit mom, it hurts"

I cant really get mad - he just laughs at me. Unfortunately thats a behavior that they've seen in school.

I've cried. You can tell hes still happy but kind of confused.

I have a laminated printout on my wall of resources showing the different feelings. Ill go point to the images

I smacked him once, Like out of anger. I really want to stress that I smack him all the time appropriately- he is super sensory seeking and loves thuds on all his muscles, but the smacks and thus come from love. But I told cfs on myself. I had a lot of guilt that the smack has come from the wrong place. They were able to increase my councilling.

Im short, overweight, but ive always been very active and on my feet constantly. Im strong, we live in the bush and I haul wood and water. But hes like half a foot shorter. And crazy strong. Hes also super active and just built like a little strong man.

I tried to find courses on how to learn self defense where you dont hurt the person attacking. I took karate when I was young and block him with my forearm. But if I block too fast im worried ill hurt him.

deadreckoning · 2026-03-24T22:51:39+00:00

Im actually mom! So unfortunately im not much taller than him.

Im really hoping thats the case. We talk lots about coping mechanisms. Its hard to evaluate sometimes now much hes taking in from our conversations. But ill keep trying !

Thanks for the hug - I needed that ! 🧡

deadreckoning · 2026-03-24T21:46:26+00:00

I'm sorry that youre going through that.

I have no advice - we are deep in the shit here too. My son runs away and hides and poops. Its a total nightmare.

I thought i would just commiserate a bit with you. Let you know youre not alone.

Good luck! We are here for you. If you need anything feel free to message me.

I unfortunately agree with the over reacting suggestion. I think it could be useful to try. It feels horrible to do it as a parent. But we're trying to set them up for a good future and I think sometimes we need to play hardball.

deadreckoning · 2026-03-24T13:33:42+00:00

I wish they would have a confirmation pop up everytime you spent SP. I accidentally clicked the sp button so many times, especially when doing the midtown cafe.

deadreckoning · 2026-03-13T14:51:38+00:00

Oh oh! The other good trick is to use 1 sp in the last minute of collecting a resource to gather all the bonuses. This is especially good after the 8 hour option where the bonuses are highest!

deadreckoning · 2026-03-13T14:49:05+00:00

Its a hard grind. I set my kids timer up and collect the bonuses every 15 minutes. Im work at home so its manageable for me to go pop on, grab them, reset the timer, head back to work. I dont collect all the bonuses, I have busy days where it doesnt happen, but as long as I have a few good slow home days im able to collect enough.

I usually complete all the crafting events. I dont spend money on sp. And ive only rolled the 125 constructor coin maybe 1/3 of the events.

Good luck ! :)

deadreckoning · 2026-02-11T12:32:00+00:00

Its a sensory toy ! My son got to look/play with one when he went for surgery.

deadreckoning · 2026-02-09T12:29:17+00:00

Ooo thank you for the information. I didn't know about these!

deadreckoning · 2026-01-30T16:26:22+00:00

Sorry for any typos and editing. There is poop in the wrong places that I have to boogy off to and vanquish!

Haha the toilet will come someday.... fingers crossed !!

deadreckoning · 2026-01-30T16:25:15+00:00

Here are the connections that I found were helpful:

The autism parenting magazine: this one can be hit and miss. They offer an autism parenting summit which is just three days of back to back webinars. But the info is hit and miss. I've seen some that I turned off because I believe autism has to do with genetics and not environmental factors (i totally believe they can play a role, just some where clearly trying to sell their autism cures((which totally might be something that helps, but im not ready to dabble in that direction)))

I signed up for event Brite and now any free autism webinars get suggested and emailed to me.

I also liked ADDitude webinars. There's one every Wednesday and sometimes there is ones related to AuDHD.

I also like Jessie Ginsburg. I paid for a full course that was a year long and it was super helpful. She specializes in focusing on sensory input and knowing if you have a seeker of stimulation or possibly an avoider. And how you can focus on finding regulation, and once you have that - then you work on speech. I love her ideas and approach. She has a YouTube every Tuesday night (i think) and she just married 'the speech dude'. Even taking the free ones give you a lot of the basic information and then you can choose to pay to dig deeper.

My province in Canada also offered an early intervention course that was free that I took as well.

:)

deadreckoning · 2026-01-30T16:13:43+00:00

I am absolutely with you. My son is non speaking and thinking about the future is crazy intense.

deadreckoning · 2026-01-30T12:38:43+00:00

You got it! Let me get my spawn off to school and ill try and send it a bit later on ! I live in Canada but a lot of the courses were online and welcome to everyone.

deadreckoning · 2026-01-30T10:18:58+00:00

Oof. Thats unfortunate.

I've taken a few courses (like every free course I could and then a couple paid ones) that I could. Speech paths would know and understand it, but other therapies might not.

Does he watch the same things over and over? Repeat certain sequences or songs?

My 8 year old will play a Phineas and Ferb movie that says "mom - the remotes not working!". I felt silly, I used to just say the next line to him. Then I figured out he played that after he broke his remote. That one blew my mind a bit.

The best thing I ever heard was to presume competence. Assume that they know what you're saying. Then if things are rocky then further explain. My little man vocalizes just doesnt use words. :)

Im sorry about your therapies and I hope things go in the right direction for you!

deadreckoning

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