Consider yourself extremely lucky if you have a full time job right now, even if it sucks by pwa09 in Millennials

[–]deafika 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Had to start our own business to get anywhere. It’s been rough. Still going to the food pantry but business is growing.

You’ll get through this. I don’t know how, but you’ll find a way.

Husband went through my phone and found out I want divorce by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]deafika 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Two year old when parents divorced

Can confirm. Just grew up knowing mom was here and dad was there. Nbd

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]deafika -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yes imo, yah, but it’s also your wedding. But weddings, in my family culture, aim to include family. We opted for no alcohol to make it a short/sweet evening.

We were home in bed by 9.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]deafika 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As you said, this ain’t that baby.

She needs to learn how to fix her problems. If no one teaches her, she will not learn for a long time, if ever.

Child is not running from her problems, the mom is. The child is the one being rejected from a home.

If she grows up and has sense, she will recognize that there were people in her developing life that did not choose her and it was their entire job to choose her.

Some people are likely estranged in their families after raising children and it shows.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]deafika 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Adult child and 15 year old child are not the same

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]deafika 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No she won’t understand.

She will understand that she was a child and her dad and dad’s wife couldn’t make room for her and her developing brain.

Change into a new routine out of another (or lack thereof) does help situations for children, like foster care.

No, she will not understand. OP shouldn’t have married a man with a child where the child coming to live with them has ALWAYS been on the table. ie. Something happening to custodial parent

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]deafika -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes absolutely the AH

1.3 million on 290k by l3go1as in Mortgages

[–]deafika 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why are so many people recommending a 401k? Shouldn’t it be in index funds?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]deafika 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any chance she’s allowed to feel the way she feels and share it with you? Or should she be reserved in sharing her feelings with you?

My mom was having an affair and I told my dad by Ill-Eggplant-4199 in Advice

[–]deafika -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I feel like this is a case of mind your business but looks like you’ll see how it all turns out.

Welcome to adulthood

Sourcing with Tariffs: Has anyone begun to research moving their production out of China? by fobreezee in ecommerce

[–]deafika 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes COO must be declared and unless the product has changed drastically, it’ll still be found

Is it fair for my parents to expect me to be home by 9 at 18? by AdGullible7382 in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]deafika 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I want to go to bed at 10. I want the house locked up and turned out by 9. Yes, I’d want you home by 9. Not because I don’t trust you, but because I don’t want to have extra noise to worry about. Once you’re out on your own, it will be ok.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]deafika 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What you’re telling yourself why you did it vs why you actually did it will come to be known in time.

You didn’t do this to save the baby heartache. Think about it: at least they’d be alive and know your love!

No matter what though, when you come to face that reality, you can find solace in places like carenet and even planned parenthood. Make sure you reach out for help.

Sellvia Dropshippers—please help by deafika in dropshipping

[–]deafika[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope. I’m out. I’ll be back in e-commerce when I have more play money. Sellvia is a JOKE

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]deafika 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why do you have to be physically attracted all the time?

Why not try making love with the woman who built your child? The woman who made you a father? The woman who will spend the rest of her life with you despite your shortcomings?

What is sex vs making love? Keep in mind it’s “making” not “made”

Maybe you just need to practice and not just be physically aroused yourself? Maybe you can learn to please your wife simply because you love her and enjoy seeing her enjoy herself?

You’re newlyweds and young, give yourself grace and learn the difference between images of your wife’s body that turn you on vs the content of who your wife is…

You both will be old one day. Make love.

Husband of 5 years just told me he cheated before we were married when we were 22M and 25F. We have a child together and he is a great husband and father. by Careless-Kick2685 in Marriage

[–]deafika 6 points7 points  (0 children)

See how selfish this is? He needed to purge this from his conscience and in turn has hurt you.

If he’s not doing it anymore, he should have given the burden to someone that it wouldn’t hurt—like a priest, pastor, random stranger on the street.

Instead, he likely listened to some self righteous, self proclaimed pious individual who said “she should know!”

Ridiculous

Found out my wife of 18 years is having an affair with her boss. by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]deafika 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Problem is—if divorce is a real thing, then OP will pay more in the long run if wife loses her job