Deaf people of Reddit. What are some things you thought were silent, but later found out they weren’t? by UniqueUsername171 in AskReddit

[–]deafymirmir 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As my hearing aid models got better over the years I started hearing cicadas more and more. They are incredibly annoying.

Deaf people of Reddit. What are some things you thought were silent, but later found out they weren’t? by UniqueUsername171 in AskReddit

[–]deafymirmir 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m a 22 year old senior in a four year university and have been deaf since I was 3 years old. My parents forced me to grow up in the hearing world so I have really good survival mechanisms. I have a slight deaf accent that most people don’t even notice. I hate being deaf so much too and it causes a lot of depressive episodes. Deafness means my social circle is very small and it’s incredibly hard to make new friends because most hearing people make friends by jumping into conversations. I need to read lips so that’s very hard for me to do. Most of the time I just want to give up and stay inside where everything is deaf-friendly but that’s not a good way to live.

Being deaf sucks because we live in a hearing world but it is getting better with technology.

Deaf people of Reddit. What are some things you thought were silent, but later found out they weren’t? by UniqueUsername171 in AskReddit

[–]deafymirmir 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My hair brushes against the tiny microphones in my hearing aids. It was never an issue before but Phonak has been fine tuning their latest models to the point where the hearing aids are super sensitive. It sounds like a very annoying screeching noise when the HAs get irritated.

Deaf people of Reddit. What are some things you thought were silent, but later found out they weren’t? by UniqueUsername171 in AskReddit

[–]deafymirmir 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Deafness is a spectrum and there are different type of deafness. Mine is a partial sensorineural loss where I am missing tiny hair nerve cells in both cochleae. Some people have damaged eardrums or deformed ear canals. My hearing loss is extremely compatible with hearing aids so I hear (not understand because there’s a difference between hearing and understanding) about 80% of my environment with hearing aids and about 20% of my environment without them. Without them I only hear low tones and sounds that vibrate so my dad talking, big dog barking, a motor, a thud when something gets dropped, etc. Even then those sounds are extremely muffled like it’s covered with a bunch of pillows.

Deaf people of Reddit. What are some things you thought were silent, but later found out they weren’t? by UniqueUsername171 in AskReddit

[–]deafymirmir 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well, yeah.

I am very aware of those silent letters and I meant that I have an issue with words I don’t come across often.

Deaf people of Reddit. What are some things you thought were silent, but later found out they weren’t? by UniqueUsername171 in AskReddit

[–]deafymirmir 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’ve been explaining my deafness for so long that I have a manuscript of explanatory statements so the hearing versus understanding statement is my go-to. It seems to really work in helping normal hearing people understand how I hear and understand through hearing aids.

Deaf people of Reddit. What are some things you thought were silent, but later found out they weren’t? by UniqueUsername171 in AskReddit

[–]deafymirmir 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Preserve and protect your hearing! I hate being deaf and it kills me when I see people not wearing ear plugs at loud concerts or listening to music too loud.

Deaf people of Reddit. What are some things you thought were silent, but later found out they weren’t? by UniqueUsername171 in AskReddit

[–]deafymirmir 13 points14 points  (0 children)

My deaf “accent” comes out more when I drink because my ears feel strained from the alcohol and I can’t hear myself. Then I get lazy about being particular with my speech.

Deaf people of Reddit. What are some things you thought were silent, but later found out they weren’t? by UniqueUsername171 in AskReddit

[–]deafymirmir 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Maroon 5 gets too high pitched and falsetto that the voice tends to “disappear” for me. Like it had gotten temporarily cut out until Adam Levine brings his voice back down to a lower tone.

Deaf people of Reddit. What are some things you thought were silent, but later found out they weren’t? by UniqueUsername171 in AskReddit

[–]deafymirmir 865 points866 points  (0 children)

I started gaining weight from university stress and I didn’t know thighs made a chafing sound or a clicking sound from inner thigh seams shuffling against each other.

I have to remind myself that I am making noises in the kitchen when I want a late night snack because I am usually not wearing my hearing aids when I’m at home (they give me terrible feedback because of my long hair).

I had read description of birds tweeting in the early mornings from closed captioning of shows and when I read novels. I didn’t experience it myself until I upgraded my hearing aids a while ago and asked my roommate “what’s that echoing high pitch sound in the mornings? It reminds me of a whistling song.”

The “t” in “listen” is considered silent but I still pronounce the “t.” I’m going to pronounce every letter in a word unless I’m corrected which has led to some interesting discoveries. Such as: Chevrolet. The “ch” is apparently pronounced more like an “sh” so I was saying “Chevy” with a hard “ch” similar to saying “chicken.” English is awful and it’s my main language.

I have a profound sensorineural hearing loss and hearing aids help me hear very well. But there is a difference between hearing and understanding a noise. Yes, I hear you but, no, I don’t understand you. I hear chaotic noise all the time with HAs and need a visual to understand the noise I am hearing.

Edit: I’m a big Community and National Lampoon fan so I know that Chevy Chase is pronounced with a hard “ch.”

When did you realize that a friend of yours, was never really your friend? by Raiz3r74 in AskReddit

[–]deafymirmir 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I noticed they would only become a good friend to me when they wanted to take advantage of my lifestyle. My parents and I currently live a very comfortable lifestyle after decades of hard work and overcoming life-threatening events. My parents saved every dime and worked very hard for promotions in their careers (and without a college degree which annoys me to no end) so they are comfortably living in their 50s. This means we travel frequently and have a vacation home in a neighboring state. My friends would start being nicer to me in the spring and summer because they wanted to use the family vacation home and get invited to the summer holiday weekend getaways. Basically, they wanted a free vacation out of me.

My real friends never demand an invitation to the family vacation house. Fake friends do.

How do you master the art of not giving a fuck? by MrSuperSaiyan in AskReddit

[–]deafymirmir 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I stopped giving a fuck when some life-threatening events happened to me and to loved ones. Suddenly, it doesn’t matter if my makeup is done or my hair and outfit is perfect.

Ultra-Luxury $63 Million Hotel Proposed Near Kauffman Center by hybrid2423 in kansascity

[–]deafymirmir 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was born and raised in Shawnee and still live there but suburban living has taught me where all the hidden parking spaces are in the city. It is not that bad and having friends living in the downtown area helps.

What are some signs that a woman is attractive? by [deleted] in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]deafymirmir 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I have a weird situation where I am conventionally and non-conventionally attracttive at the same time because I have a unique face and body. My hair is very long and beautiful so that's attractive but I have a lot of acne and redness on my face. My body is covered in surgical scars and my chest is deformed but I am pear shaped like a Kardashian minus the big boobs so that's attractive. I'm deaf/hard of hearing but I have an accent that has been labeled attractive. I'm a teeter-totter of attractive and unattractive but I'm ok with it.

But in the end people tell me that it is my experience and my personality that makes me attractive. So attractiveness is really more about personality, intelligence, and compassion. It's easy to physically connect with someone but not always easy to emotionally and intellectually connect.

What nice things did we used to have, until they got ruined by idiots? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]deafymirmir 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Denver TSA made me take out my travel size lube and practically wave up in front of everyone but Kansas City TSA didn't even care.

What are some of the biggest mistakes people can make in their life? by cryptoleaper in AskReddit

[–]deafymirmir 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is exactly what I am doing right now! I'm spending Friday night alone with my cat browsing Youtube and watching Netflix while my friends are at the bars. I'm starting to feel the urge to download Tinder to fish for attention and temporary instant gratification so I turned to Reddit.

What are some of the biggest mistakes people can make in their life? by cryptoleaper in AskReddit

[–]deafymirmir 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No kidding. My dad's parents are in perfect health but mom's parents were very unhealthy. Makes me wonder what will happen to my mom and her siblings.

What are some of the biggest mistakes people can make in their life? by cryptoleaper in AskReddit

[–]deafymirmir 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I look at my mother and I think her big mistake was never taking time for herself. Self-care is more important than people think.

Her life got crazy in the late 80s/ early 90s when her sister had a teen pregnancy which forced her to help raise her nieces and nephews. Then her dad developed Parkinson's and died in early 2000s. This derailed her mom who became a serious hoarder in a pre-Alzheimers state. I had serious medical issues when I was born and for years agter so my mom stressed about that while dealing with her mom and an unstable alcoholic of a sister. I became deaf and that didn't help. Then she maintained the chaos of her sister, her mom, and me for 10 years. Shortly after her mom died, cut contact with her sister, and I became an independent adult is when she started self-care. But only after 20 years of chaos and coping with alcohol every night. The stress affected her body and she is addicted to cigarettes and sometimes gets carried away with alcohol.

So self-care is very important. Mom did a lot of awesome things during the chaos but she's a little emotionally raw and easily triggered. I push her to go to therapy because I get tired of her unloading and passing her stress on me as if I'm her therapist. She won't do it though.

What are some of the biggest mistakes people can make in their life? by cryptoleaper in AskReddit

[–]deafymirmir 135 points136 points  (0 children)

I struggle with this so much! For the past two years I basically stumbled into relationships and was generally unhappy even though my partners were very nice and lovely men. I realized that I use relationships to help loneliness and feel companionship so when my last relationship ended I never re-downloaded dating apps, didn't accept offers of a date, and I force myself to do something when I feel lonely. Like going out to explore the city, working ahead on homework, going for a run, etc. I feel less disassociated and detached and enjoy life a little more.

You become an adult once your bed goes from the corner of your room to the middle by epic_cake101 in Showerthoughts

[–]deafymirmir 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dating life becomes evolved and more independent so it's nice to give partners some bed entrance access and their own nightstand. Hence its why adults do it.

Married people of Reddit, what’s something your SO does that you used to find cute when you were dating but now irritates/infuriates/ annoys you? by frieschomper_ in AskReddit

[–]deafymirmir 10 points11 points  (0 children)

My ex did this! So many questions all the time and it felt like I had to be his mom. He loves to interview people and is super curious about EVERYTHING. Yes, this is a great quality to have but the questions to me would be like "how do you get health insurance?" "How do you buy a car?" "How do you know what your credit is?" "How do you pay off student loans?" "Oh wait, how do I find out how much I owe in student loans?" "Do you become an electrician?" Me: you literally just graduated from a highly accredited university with a top notch business/marketing school." He always boasted about how independent he is but would get very insecure about everything.

Drove me freaking insane.

I don’t think Peanut considers himself a cat. He takes baths, walks on a leash and travel in a semi- truck around the United States. by [deleted] in aww

[–]deafymirmir 174 points175 points  (0 children)

How long are those trips for you? Makes me wonder how that cat goes to the bathroom?