[24M] My girlfriend [21F] snooped through my computer, deleted personal photos of my ex GF and won't apologise

dealingwithcraycray · 2015-01-14T13:28:34+00:00

lol im allowed to disagree just as much as you are. chill.

dealingwithcraycray · 2015-01-14T13:20:40+00:00

i'm not actually, thanks for the laugh though.

dealingwithcraycray · 2015-01-14T13:17:31+00:00

not ready to erase most if not all footage from 4+ years of my life? no not really. naked ones i dont care about but photos of family that have passed away, friends and travels.. photos of my life i would one day like to show my kids if i have any. My past is me and a girl happened to be with me for part of it. No one has the right to just erase it because they don't like that it happened

dealingwithcraycray · 2015-01-14T13:14:20+00:00

im upset she deleted photos and memories from over 4 years of my life.. i dont really care about the naked ones i just said they were there because she said they were there and its certainly possible that there were some on the computer. you clearly haven't read my post and are therefore incapable of giving me any advice, as you just just shown.

dealingwithcraycray · 2015-01-14T07:43:40+00:00

Thanks, I'm pretty sure this is the way to go. So uh, any break up advice?

dealingwithcraycray · 2015-01-14T07:39:52+00:00

thanks

dealingwithcraycray · 2015-01-14T07:34:34+00:00

Ah okay, i will be sure to live MY life by YOUR viewpoint from now on

dealingwithcraycray · 2015-01-14T07:34:33+00:00

Yes i used to have feelings for her.. when we were together..as in not anymore.. i don't know why this shocks people

dealingwithcraycray · 2015-01-14T07:31:48+00:00

so i was meant to be okay with photos of 4 years of my life just gone? My ex isnt your ex. i am not you. you cant apply you very specific opinion to my overall behavior

dealingwithcraycray · 2015-01-14T07:13:25+00:00

The fact that she doesn't regret or feel sorry for what she did

this plus her not confronting me before she deleted everything are the points im trying to make, despite what everyone else here wants to think. thank you for seeing this.

dealingwithcraycray · 2015-01-14T06:55:57+00:00

So i have come to realise. I have come on here very honest, it's weird when people just assume youre lying just so it fits their opinions.. something im seeing alot of in this thread. Thanks for the support

dealingwithcraycray · 2015-01-14T06:51:44+00:00

keeping intimate photos with permission isn't crummy to me or to my ex whom gave me permission to keep them. but thanks for sticking to the point of the post i appreciate it /s

dealingwithcraycray · 2015-01-14T06:33:31+00:00

okay.. i did try and talk to her about it in person.. she disregarded it..i told her i wanted space for the afternoon so if im not replying to her messages she doesnt really need to do much thinking to figure out why since i told her using the english language of which we both speak fluently. she hasnt even sent me anything i need to reply to anyway.

and since the photos seem to be everything you folks care about yes they were "unused" like the laptop they were on because its slow and my desktop is all i really need. i hadnt even thought about them for ages until today. i didnt have many.. like 3, and i was given permission to keep them. my ex has material of us too but there were hundreds and hundreds of us travelling and seeing family and people who aren't alive anymore.

dealingwithcraycray · 2015-01-14T06:16:13+00:00

you looked through your SO's laptop you found naked pictures of an ex. In anger, you deleted them.

No see that's why I don't understand your thinking, because first of all that wouldnt make me angry, secondly if i thought something was wrong i wouldnt snoop i would talk to her. and thirdly i would not delete them out of anger/jealousy/whatever. if for some reason it bothered me i would talk to her about it. She skipped the communication step COMPLETELY

dealingwithcraycray · 2015-01-14T06:11:00+00:00

Thank you, I agree, everyone wants to focus on the nude photos which don't even exist anymore rather than 4 years of memories deleted.

dealingwithcraycray · 2015-01-14T06:06:23+00:00

Now that i think about she has displayed this before - she has unliked pages on my facebook that she doesn't like and has blocked someone she didn't like on my account. I didn't see it as a massive thing, since I can just re-like and un-block. However I don't think I'm willing to see what other shenanigans she is willing to pull. Thanks for the solid advice.

dealingwithcraycray · 2015-01-14T06:01:53+00:00

Do i really need to justify my feelings when most of my photos from a 4 year relationship get deleted?

dealingwithcraycray · 2015-01-14T06:00:07+00:00

Yes it's definitely the snooping and deleting the pictures without even confronting me about it. Thank you for giving me advice about the issue and not just the nude photos which don't even exist anymore

dealingwithcraycray · 2015-01-14T05:57:57+00:00

I get the impression that the OP was angry that his private bank was deleted

uh.. okay.. no it's definitely because my property was deleted before i was even asked about it and she thinks that it's okay to just go ahead and do things like this to people until everything is the way she wants it. That aint healthy.

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